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Author Topic: Please advise, is this a no risk encounter?  (Read 3373 times)

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Offline dinozzo

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Please advise, is this a no risk encounter?
« on: October 26, 2008, 06:26:11 PM »
HI i had an encounter with a CSW where i received a hand job, but the CSW also placed a vibrator on herself then almost immediately used the vibrator on my chest testicles and penis head

my concern is when i finished i noticed that there was an abrasion/small open sore on my foreskin nr the tip that had been bleeding and blood was present if her vaginal secretions were on the vibrator or toy am i at risk from HIV transmission.

a couple of weeks after this incident i had diahorrea and vomitting for a couple of days

would there be a reason for testing from this encounter.

I have placed all the relevant issues in this post so that with a consise reply i won't have to repeat post. and waste anyone's time.

Thank you

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Re: Please advise, is this a no risk encounter?
« Reply #1 on: October 26, 2008, 06:29:17 PM »
You were never at risk and what ever is causing your symptoms has nothing to do with HIV.

Offline dinozzo

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Re: Please advise, is this a no risk encounter?
« Reply #2 on: October 26, 2008, 06:45:15 PM »
Thank you for your Rapid response Rod it's much appreciated. however would there not be a slight risk from secretions and the open sores i had?

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Re: Please advise, is this a no risk encounter?
« Reply #3 on: October 26, 2008, 06:58:14 PM »
Dino, HIV is a fragile virus. As far as sexual activities are concerned, it needs the kind of receptive setting which unprotected vaginal or anal intercourse. By contrast, masturbation, rubbing, frottage and other activities including what you are concerned about do not present that kind of setting. You're worrying needlessly. Really.
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Re: Please advise, is this a no risk encounter?
« Reply #4 on: October 26, 2008, 07:08:11 PM »

NO. Hiv is a fragile, difficult to transmit virus that is primarily transmitted INSIDE the human body as in unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse. Once hiv finds itself outside the body, small changes in termperature, moisture content and pH levels all quickly damage the outer covering of the virus and render it unable to infect. This outer covering MUST be undamaged and intact in order for it to latch onto a very few, very specific cell types that it can infect.

You did NOT have a risk with the sex toy.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex with a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST OVER THIS SEX-TOY INCIDENT, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple.

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Offline dinozzo

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Re: Please advise, is this a no risk encounter?
« Reply #5 on: October 27, 2008, 06:20:58 PM »
Hi all,
Thank you for your comments regarding the encounter i had and the reassurance that my actions did not put me at any risk of contracting this virus.

my thoughts and prayers are with anyone who is infected with HIV and i hope you have a long life.

I will never put myself in a situation like this ever again i can promise you all that.

be well and safe


Offline dinozzo

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Re: Please advise, is this a no risk encounter?
« Reply #6 on: October 29, 2008, 07:48:52 PM »
just a quick follow up would it still be regarded as no risk if there was menstrual blood on the sex toy?

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Re: Please advise, is this a no risk encounter?
« Reply #7 on: October 29, 2008, 07:58:49 PM »
Yes, still no risk. Never been a confirmed case of transmission via sex toys. It's safe to say you won't make history by becoming the first through this very, very common sexual activity.

Let it go and get on with your life is what I say.
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Offline dinozzo

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Re: Please advise, is this a no risk encounter?
« Reply #8 on: October 30, 2008, 03:20:53 AM »
thanks you Andy i will do just that


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