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Author Topic: A Concern about Oral Sex  (Read 3137 times)

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Offline bryantky

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A Concern about Oral Sex
« on: October 05, 2008, 10:50:05 AM »
Hello all, I'm sure I will be branded as a worried well, and that perhaps describes me.  Anyways, I had a couple of questions and I would love to get some input from the mods on this as well. 
First, a question about my risk assessment.  I performed unprotected oral on a person with unknown HIV status (claims to be Neg,however) about six or seven weeks ago.  He did not ejaculate inside my mouth, however there was a small amount of pre-cum.  He cleaned off with a towel, and I gave him head again about ten or fifteen minutes later. This time, there was no ejaculate or pre-cum present.  Ironically and this is where the anxiety comes in, about two weeks later I came down with a persistent headache and low fever (99-100.5 F).  No rashes,sore throat,or noticeable swelling of lymph nodes, just the headache and mild fever.  Of course, I've panicked out and I have some pretty bad anxiety that I've seroconverted.  So, are the odds still in my favor? I'm just worried about the coincidental illness that I contracted 2 weeks after the incident.  It's unnerving because it falls in that window of time that ARS symptoms would occur. 
My second question is for the mods.  You guys state that you rarely see any solid cases of transmission from oral sex.  However, there are some on here and other forums that are adamant that they acquire HIV through blowjobs.  I know many of the HIV experts point towards the recent studies involving sero-discordant couples as hard proof of the rarity of oral transmission.  However, there are some compelling anectotal stories out there.  So, in your opinion, do the recent studies trump individual reports of oral transmission?  And, you state that under scrutiny, most reports of oral  transmission do not stand up as well.  Why is that? 
Thank you for your time, and I have read the lessons on HIV transmission.  They were very informative and, at the same time, sort of a relief. 

Offline RapidRod

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Re: A Concern about Oral Sex
« Reply #1 on: October 05, 2008, 11:01:03 AM »
You were never at risk to begin with. And what is talked about in other forums is not a concern of yours. Most people like to leave out their real risks.

Offline bryantky

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Re: A Concern about Oral Sex
« Reply #2 on: October 05, 2008, 12:43:10 PM »
You were never at risk to begin with. And what is talked about in other forums is not a concern of yours. Most people like to leave out their real risks.


I wasn't trying to be antagonistic or speak out of turn.  I am well aware that my risk level is incredibly low.  However, the combination of getting a virus after my encounter and hearing conflicting information about the risk HIV from oral sex has led to a little anxiety.  I'm certain that I'm not the first to corner the market when it comes to being a worried well.  Take Care...

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: A Concern about Oral Sex
« Reply #3 on: October 05, 2008, 01:14:44 PM »
Believe me, if you keep searching around on the net and elsewhere to find material to feed your fears you will find them a-plenty. And it is true that we continue from time to time to hear of someone who tested positive and insists the only risk they had was giving oral.   

However, in addition to the longterm studies of sero-discordant partners which you have mentioned, your saliva has over a dozen elements which are very effective in preventing successful HIV transmission.

I will never say infection has never happened orally. But IF it has, it's so rare as to put it into essentially the theoretical category. Certainly I wouldn't advise anyone who has an open bleeding wound or very poor oral care to be giving oral, and especially to orgasm orally. But otherwise, considering how common a sexual act giving oral is, we would have known long before today if it was a real risk.

As for your symptoms, there is absolutely nothing HIV specific about them. If they persist you need to discuss them with your doctor. I don't see any need for HIV testing unless you feel you must collect the inevtiable negative test result to put this issue down. You are worrying needlessly is how I see it.

Andy Velez


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