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Offline chodey98

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Verry worried and scared
« on: June 19, 2008, 07:05:40 PM »
   I had a very dumb situation occur last night ---let me first give you some background I;m married father of a 9 y/o------and 5 month old. I went to a very risky strip club and got several lap dances.These girls when you would tip --would rub there crotch in your face(is that a risk?} Also as i drank more i got a lapdance from an dancer who while she was giving me the dance offered up a b.j. for 50$--so i accepted...unfortunatly-She did use a condom -but i was fingering and rubbing her vaginea during for about 5 to 6 min it lasted.So i then went to the restroom right after -removed the condom and washed my hands,face and wiped my package down.I just can't believe i did this and i d/k why and don't intend on doing this any more. I just dk if maybe i put my wife at risk .That would be totally unfair to her.And i dk if this matters she put the condom on with her mouth.--I figure she s a pro and it seemed to be put on correctly when i removed it.I looked for any cuts or scrapes on my fingers or hands non look open but i use my hands and lift and throw heavy things at my job so they are always really kinda raw at the finger tips. I just dk where else to turn--I have been doing some looking around on the internet and i get totally different info on the risk factors and if what occured was a risk or not and i'm confused. Your advice and input would be gratly appriciated -thanks a million     

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Re: Verry worried and scared
« Reply #1 on: June 19, 2008, 07:10:34 PM »
Nope, you haven't put anyone at risk of HIV infection.

1. You cannot get HIV from somebody rubbing their crotch in your face;
2. You cannot get HIV by receiving a blowjob - protected or unprotected, it makes no difference to the receiver;
3. You cannot get HIV by fingering or masturbating another person.

You don't need to be tested for HIV. Please take the time to read our Welcome Thread and follow the links to our Lessons to learn more about how HIV is and is not transmitted



Offline Andy Velez

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Re: Verry worried and scared
« Reply #2 on: June 19, 2008, 08:01:00 PM »
Matty's given you the real deal on your concerns. There's absolutely no need for testing because nothing you did put you at risk for HIV transmission.

Do yourself a big favor and stop surfing the net about this concern. All you will do is find sites that will needlessly feed your fears.

Let it go and get on with your life. Really.
Andy Velez

Offline chodey98

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Re: Verry worried and scared
« Reply #3 on: June 24, 2008, 06:18:50 PM »
   I was doing good for awhile and now it seems i am bugging myself out or something .I find myself thinking about my situation alot and still find myself surfing and reading different things.I am really getting stressed and feeling terrible ---it got really bad after unprotected intercourse with my wife and now i think i made her sick and she breast feeds r baby and now i am panicking.I think i have done something truly horrible. The blowjob i received i was wearing a condom ---the rough rubbing and fingering and if i itched my eye and don't remember or licked my fingers--i don't know i keep thinking of a bunch or scenarios.Any input would help thanks alot

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: Verry worried and scared
« Reply #4 on: June 24, 2008, 06:24:45 PM »
If you keep surfing the net you are only going to end worrying more and totally needlessly. There was no risk whatsoever for HIV transmission during this incident you're concerned about. Even if you had been sucked without a condom it wouldn't have been a risk for HIV. In the entire history of the epidemic there's never been a single documented case of transmission in that manner.

Like a lot of us you went straying. You can't undo that bit of your personal history. Torturing yourself and worrying needlessly is no kind of penance. See what you did, accept it, take a breath, let it go and get on with your life. There's no need for concern about HIV and no need for testing.

And stay off of other websites where your fears will seek and find stuff to scare you with needlessly.

Andy Velez


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