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Offline sinahoo

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Condom break with prostitute
« on: June 16, 2008, 09:33:33 AM »

Last week I was travelling in Asia. Last night of my trip I had quite much alcohol and went to go-go club.
I took nice looking girl with me and we went to my hotel room. I had vaginal sex with her and we used a condom.
Somewhere in time I check that condom was okay. Then girl came top of me and after maybe two-three minute we noticed that condom was broken. I don't know exact how long condom was broken - maybe 30 sec to 1 minute? I was not ejaculated.
After realizing what happened I was really shocked. I ask from girl that what is her HIV status. She said that she is 100% Negative and been tested three month ago. Actually this girl was as shocked as I was. She also asked many times about my status which is negative.

Next morning I was still very confused and worrying a lot about HIV. This nice girl said to me that lets go to medical clinic to get quick HIV-test. We took taxi and went to local clinic. Nurses took HIV-tests from both of us. I don't know what was the test method but it was some fast, 15min test? We both got negative results and I have no reason to doubt the testing method.
Now I know that she is most likely Negative but still worrying about the three month period that can't be seen in test. 
I tried to ask about her previous partners but it was hard since both of us are not speaking fluent English.

But girl told me that she was started her "dancing career" just six days ago and I was her first client. First I did not believe her at all but after spending day with her I started to believe her. This girl was really shy and seems to have a good heart. She said that she is a single mother and need a money for his son and family. She also said that she have never had unprotected sex after her divorce three years ago. She said that this was the first time in her life when condom was broke during the sex. She also gave her phone number and said that I can call her afterwards if feel to speak with her.

I have try to say myself that this girl has no reason to lie to me.

But still, I don't know what to believe. I am still scared about HIV. This was my first time with prostitute and surely the last one.
By the way, my penis is circumcised. Does this decrease the risk of HIV? If so, what is the reason?

What is your opinion about my case?
I guess I'll just need to wait three month and then take a new test?

I have a wife and kids so this is very hard for me. But of cource, I can't blame no one else but me.

I am sorry about my misspelling. English is not my native langue but I hope that you understand my worry!

Thank You!

Offline Matty the Damned

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Re: Condom break with prostitute
« Reply #1 on: June 16, 2008, 09:53:24 AM »

Yes, you have had a risk and you should be tested for HIV but I really don't think you need to worry. You were protected up until the condom broke and it sounds like you noticed in time.

The HIV test you had after the sexual encounter was too early. It can take up to 3 months to have a conclusive result and you'll need to wait another 11 weeks before you can test. HIV is a fragile virus which is difficult to transmit, especially from woman to man. I'm confident that you'll test negative.

Please take the time to read our Welcome Thread and follow the links to our Lessons to learn more about how HIV is and is not transmitted.


Offline sinahoo

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Re: Condom break with prostitute
« Reply #2 on: June 16, 2008, 10:16:16 AM »
Thanks Matty!

I'll understand that test made in Asia was way too early to show anything about my accident with condom.
We took tests just to resting our minds. But sure, there is a three month period when status of this girl could be changed.

The other part of me is saying that I am fine because girl seems to be very responsible person like I am.
The other part of me is scaring that she layed to me and...

I'll just have to live with the fear next three month  :(

Offline sinahoo

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Re: Condom break with prostitute
« Reply #3 on: June 17, 2008, 01:50:38 AM »
Dear Ann & Andy,

I read some other condom break cases from this forum.
I noticed that you have said to other people that:
"I've yet to see the insertive partner become infected following a condom break and I don't expect you to be the first."

Are you really meaning that so far you don't know anyone who would get infected after condom breakage ?

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Re: Condom break with prostitute
« Reply #4 on: June 17, 2008, 04:44:54 AM »

While it's possible for the insertive partner to become infected following a condom break, it's not probable. So far I've never known the insertive partner to end up positive following a condom break.

However, you still need to test at the appropriate time.

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Offline sinahoo

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Re: Condom break with prostitute
« Reply #5 on: June 17, 2008, 05:15:17 AM »
Dear Ann,

Thank You for the answer.

No I have made a decision. I will call to doctor and agree about test schedule for the other STDs.
HIV and syphilis test I'll need to wait 3 month. :(
I quess HIV PCR-test is not the good one?

I also noticed that I'll need to stop seaching HIV related issues from Internet.
It does not help me at all - only makes me more nervous.
I'll try to concentrate to work, kids, sport, reading, TV etc.
It not easy but much better than "losing mind" by browsing Internet day after day.

I also told my story to one good friend of mine and it felt very good to speak to someone.

At the moment I feel quite confident that I will stay Negative.
My partner's status is very likely Negative so the actual risk should be very small.

Thank you for this forum! This has really helped me a lot.

Offline sinahoo

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Re: Condom break with prostitute
« Reply #6 on: October 02, 2008, 06:11:05 AM »
I got my three month test results
-HIV-test; negative
-Other STDs; all negative

Thank You for supporting me!


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