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Author Topic: Unprotected anal sex, what are the chances?  (Read 2816 times)

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Offline dvxn

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Unprotected anal sex, what are the chances?
« on: February 25, 2008, 02:21:43 PM »
I was caught up in the heat of the moment with a guy and had unprotected sex one night about 2 weeks ago.  We saw each other several times that week and since we were already unsafe once, we continued.  I cant believe that I was so stupid about this!  It turns out that this guy is HIV +, and I bottomed without protection.  I'm freaking out because I know I have to wait 3 months to find anything out.  Does anyone know what the probability of catching something might be?  Thanks.

Offline Matty the Damned

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Re: Unprotected anal sex, what are the chances?
« Reply #1 on: February 25, 2008, 02:28:44 PM »
Well, you certainly have placed yourself at risk of infection.

HIV is a fragile virus which is difficult to transmit and even one isolated event of unprotected anal sex such as the one you describe is not terribly likely to lead to infection. But repeated encounters like you've had increase that risk.

You need to do two things:

1. You really need to be tested for HIV (and other STD's) in three months time.
2. You REALLY need to stop having unprotected butt-sex with this guy.

No-one can quantify the risk in your case, other than to say you may well have been infected. That's not to say you certainly will test positive.


Offline dvxn

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Re: Unprotected anal sex, what are the chances?
« Reply #2 on: February 25, 2008, 02:33:45 PM »
Thanks for the reply MtD.  Believe me, there will be no more unprotected sex.  I'm mad enough to kill this guy for not telling me before we hooked up several times.  I'm mad at myself for being so stupid.  Not the right forum, but I think this has made me realize that I may have a substance abuse problem.

Anyway.... So what you're saying is that while I did place myself at risk, unprotected sex is not a 100% bet that I caught something? 

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Re: Unprotected anal sex, what are the chances?
« Reply #3 on: February 25, 2008, 02:41:16 PM »
Ok DV,

Let's clear a few things up here.

We're big on personal responsibility here. There's an old saying "silence gives consent." When you agreed to have unprotected sex with this fellow you agreed to the possibility of being infected with an STD, including a deadly one like HIV.

So don't be angry with him. If you have to blame someone, blame yourself. You are wholly and completely responsible for the predicament in which you now find yourself. The "I could kill him for not telling me" routine won't work with us.

So what you're saying is that while I did place myself at risk, unprotected sex is not a 100% bet that I caught something?

That's exactly what I'm telling you, boyo. But no-one can put a number on this. All we can say is that you have had a real and present risk of being infected. But let me underline the importance of you being tested at the end of the window period. I cannot stress this enough.

Now, take a deep breath and let go of the blame. It's too late for that.

Kind regards,


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Re: Unprotected anal sex, what are the chances?
« Reply #4 on: February 25, 2008, 05:00:33 PM »
You may also want to know the average time to seroconversion is 22 days. All but the smallest number of those who are going to seroconvert will do so within 4-6 weeks after an exposure.

Should you decide to get tested at 6 weeks after the most recent unprotected incident, a negative at that point would be very encouraging. You would still need to confirm it with a test at 13 weeks.

Good luck to you. And learn from this experience. You can have all the sex you want and with as many partners. Just do it the safer way which means the insertive partner must always without exception be wearing a condom for intercourse.
Andy Velez


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