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Offline gemini20

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RIP - Scatty, my cat
« on: February 21, 2008, 04:23:24 PM »
Today I had to make one of the hardest decisions in my life in recent times and have Scatty, my cat, put to sleep.  :(

He had been having breathing problems for a while but was still eating normally, playing and using the litter tray as regularly as clockwork so I was not unduly concerned. But at the start of the week I noticed a change in him and from Tuesday evening through to today he had not eaten anything and his breathing seemed more of a struggle.

I took him to the vets this afternoon and he confirmed my worst fears when he said Scatty was experiencing congestive heart failure and his abdomen was filling with fluid and his heart was struggling to work. I knew then what I had to do but it's got to be one of the saddest moments of my life.

Scatty has been my constant companion for the last 14 years and was so much more than just a pet. He gave me a reason to keep on fighting this stupid fucking virus because amongst other things on the few times I considered ending it all it was his miaows that brought me back to my senses.

I always expected to die before him and not have to face this loss but now I'm going through a pain and grief which I haven't felt since Ian died.

I know that life goes on and I will get through this very emotional episode but fuck does it hurt at the moment. My home already feels empty without him and I can't imagine how I will fill that void.

I know there are many on the forums who have lost pets and will understand what I'm going through.

I just hope the stress and sadness doesn't compromise my own health too much.

A very sad Emma  :(
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Re: RIP - Scatty, my cat
« Reply #1 on: February 21, 2008, 04:32:03 PM »
I'm so sorry for your loss.  My parents ended up putting down their beloved lab the day after Christmas.  There was no one there to "take care" of CoCo when it was done, so my dad packed her up and brought her home.  He burried her near the barn where she'd play in the creek.  It made for a very sad season. 

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Re: RIP - Scatty, my cat
« Reply #2 on: February 21, 2008, 04:33:57 PM »
Sorry to hear of this, Emma.  I lost a dear cat about 4 years ago and know how mentally challenging such experiences are.
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Re: RIP - Scatty, my cat
« Reply #3 on: February 21, 2008, 04:50:49 PM »
Sorry for your loss, Emma. I lost my bestest-ever catfriend in 2003 and I still miss him dearly.

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Re: RIP - Scatty, my cat
« Reply #4 on: February 21, 2008, 04:53:45 PM »
I'm sorry, Emma. If anyone would ever understand I certainly do. It won't ever hurt any less but it will get easier to cope with. I promise.

I always tell myself that no matter how much it hurts I was better for having them in my life at all.

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Re: RIP - Scatty, my cat
« Reply #5 on: February 21, 2008, 06:16:37 PM »
Emma, So sorry for the loss of your beloved cat. I know how painful it is to lose a pet. Scatty knew how much you loved him and he had a good life thanks to you.

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Re: RIP - Scatty, my cat
« Reply #6 on: February 21, 2008, 06:58:19 PM »
Emma, I am so sorry for your loss.  I've had to have a couple cats put down myself.  It was devastating.  I agree with Mouse, though; the agony does lessen.  And I never regretted having them in my life.  I rescued a cat from a local shelter a couple years ago and she's been amazing. 

I know you'll get through this.  Here's a big {{{HUG}}}.
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Re: RIP - Scatty, my cat
« Reply #7 on: February 21, 2008, 07:02:14 PM »

I'm sorry to hear about Scatty.  My pets have been some of my most loyal and closest companions, so I can imagine how painful this is for you.  I'm sure you were a great companion to Scatty, too.


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Re: RIP - Scatty, my cat
« Reply #8 on: February 21, 2008, 07:09:27 PM »
Hi Emma~

I am so sorry to hear of Scatty's passing.  I know how important our little friends can be to us.  In 2007 I had to put one of my dogs to sleep and had never gone through this before.  The vet gave me this poem and it has helped me tremendously ever since.  Just picture Scatty waiting for you, and don't worry, he's OK and out of pain.

~ Cindy

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

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Offline Basquo

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Re: RIP - Scatty, my cat
« Reply #9 on: February 21, 2008, 07:59:29 PM »
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Scatty's been welcomed by Sasha, Cora, and the other scores of pets everyone here has loved.  The Rainbow Bridge is the designated meeting place.

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Re: RIP - Scatty, my cat
« Reply #10 on: February 21, 2008, 08:28:00 PM »

I'm so sorry about your cat.  I swear, to those of us without children, our pets are our kids.  I've gone through it several times with my cats (but fortunately not recently), and it sure doesn't get any easier.  Hugs to you.

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Re: RIP - Scatty, my cat
« Reply #11 on: February 21, 2008, 08:54:15 PM »
{{{{HUGS}}}} to you Emma, I know only too well how painful it is to lose a beloved pet.

R.I.P Scatty.

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Re: RIP - Scatty, my cat
« Reply #12 on: February 21, 2008, 10:31:00 PM »
This made me sad.  I understand, as I have lost a couple of dogs, and now have a cat that is getting on in years.

Maybe you can get out and visit friends who have pets.  That helped me.
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Re: RIP - Scatty, my cat
« Reply #13 on: February 22, 2008, 01:05:41 AM »
My dear Emma

YOur sorrow hurts us all. I know your heart is broken but think of 'ol' Scat my cat' and you'll find the strength to go on.  Our animals not only help us get through this virus, they're a valuable part of our lives.  Scatty will always be a part of your life.  And you are a part of our lives.


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Re: RIP - Scatty, my cat
« Reply #14 on: February 22, 2008, 01:53:11 AM »
I'm so sorry to hear about your cat.  I will never forget any of the animals I've ever had in my life, but the ones I've had to put down are the worst. 

I know I wouldn't be as happy without my beloved kitty Tallulah. 

Thanks for that poem Cindy...that's lovely. 

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Re: RIP - Scatty, my cat
« Reply #15 on: February 22, 2008, 11:11:20 AM »
Dear Emma.....
My condolences on the death of your cat.  David said it right when he equated our dear pets with our family / children.  It hurts when one of them leaves us.
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Re: RIP - Scatty, my cat
« Reply #16 on: February 22, 2008, 11:55:42 AM »
Dear Emma,

So sorry for your loss, honey.

RIP Scatty


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Re: RIP - Scatty, my cat
« Reply #17 on: February 22, 2008, 12:38:05 PM »

I'm very sorry to read this and can appreciate what you are feeling right now.


Offline gemini20

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Re: RIP - Scatty, my cat
« Reply #18 on: February 22, 2008, 06:19:34 PM »
Thank you to everyone for your kind words at this difficult time for me.  It definitely helps to know that others understand what this loss means to me.

Thank you Cindy for the poem it meant a great deal as rainbows are my symbol for connecting to the spirit world and so it seemed very fitting to read that yesterday.

I swear, to those of us without children, our pets are our kids. 

This is so true for Scatty as I rescued him from an animal shelter only a couple of weeks after I ended a pregnancy and so he has always been the substitute for the child I never had.

Because he was an indoor cat he has been the constant presence in my life for the last 14 years. The hardest part of today was coming back home after visiting a couple of schools and knowing that he wouldn't be behind the door to greet me.

The only silver lining from this trauma is that I can now consider travelling away from home for more than a couple of nights which is something I've not done since 2003.

So I'll be planning another Australia/New Zealand trip again in May if my health holds steady.

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Re: RIP - Scatty, my cat
« Reply #19 on: February 23, 2008, 01:37:03 AM »
I am so sorry for your loss. These thing are never easy. I have not had a pet since my dogie dies of cancer many years ago. I still dream about her! SO I'm sure Scatty will be part of your heart for ever!
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Re: RIP - Scatty, my cat
« Reply #20 on: February 23, 2008, 06:46:25 AM »
 I will say it again, there not pets but" family members."
My condolences at this very hard time.
I'm praying for you hon.


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Re: RIP - Scatty, my cat
« Reply #21 on: February 23, 2008, 08:55:30 PM »
Hi Emma

I am so sorry to hear the news.


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Re: RIP - Scatty, my cat
« Reply #22 on: February 24, 2008, 09:06:35 AM »
Hi Emma,

My heart goes out to you with losing your pet partner, I don't envy what you're going through in the slightest, because I know I don't think I'd be able to function when my little baby leaves me (18 years old this year, I think)

Anything we say here to sympathize cannot ever truly express the sorrow and pain of losing a piece of your heart.

Who loves his cat to pieces, even when she's annoying and meowing for food at 6am :P
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Re: RIP - Scatty, my cat
« Reply #23 on: February 24, 2008, 09:25:54 AM »
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, Emma.
I've gone through it a few times, too, and it's a heartbreak like no other.
Love and good thoughts in your direction.


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