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Offline voteforpedro

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« on: February 06, 2008, 11:05:14 AM »
Hi there.

First of all, let me congratulate you for this awesome forum you've got.

Let me tell you my story. I have always been a consistent condom user... for example, back in december I had oral/vaginal sex with five different girls and it was all protected, so I guess that's just fine.

Well, last night I was with girl I recently met (unknown HIV status) but I didn't have a condom, so we limited ourselves to just foreplay... not even oral. Then, I penetrated her vagina for a while (probably less than one minute) but had to pull out because I was about to come.

After I realized what I just did (which was really stupid, I know) I began to freak out about my risks of contracting HIV or some other STD. I plan to get tested soon (next 6 weeks is okay as far as I know) but am really, really worried about my risks. This is the first time (and probably the last one) I have unprotected sex.

Are my risks of contracting HIV high? Should I really worry THAT much about this?


Thanks in advance.

Offline RapidRod

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Re: Worried.
« Reply #1 on: February 06, 2008, 11:08:44 AM »
Guess what? You need to test, both for STDs and HIV. You really should start thinking with the head on your shoulders and not with the one between your legs. 

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Re: Worried.
« Reply #2 on: February 06, 2008, 12:16:19 PM »

You have had a small risk. However, small risk is not the same as no risk and you do need to test. Hiv is a fragile, difficult virus to transmit and more so from a woman to a man.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex with a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

You will have to wait three months before you can get a conclusive result. You can test for other STIs (except syphilis, which shares a three month window with hiv) ten days to two weeks after the encounter or sooner if you develop a discharge from your penis.

I fully expect you to test negative after this brief incident, but you do need to test to be sure.

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Offline bimjhb2

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Re: Worried.
« Reply #3 on: February 06, 2008, 03:04:52 PM »

Well, last night I was with girl I recently met (unknown HIV status) but I didn't have a condom, so we limited ourselves to just foreplay... not even oral. Then, I penetrated her vagina for a while (probably less than one minute) but had to pull out because I was about to come.

UM how can you limit yourself to just foreplay when you penetrated her unprotected, that IS sex... 1 second, 5 seconds who cares, it's intercourse! You need to test for HIV and more importantly, she does too!

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Re: Worried.
« Reply #4 on: February 06, 2008, 03:13:22 PM »

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