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a different kind of denial
« on: December 10, 2007, 09:41:03 PM »
I'm not sure I can even explain this so that it makes any sense, but I'll try.  As most of you know, we've been living with HIV for almost 7 1/2yrs since mini was diagnosed at 8wks old.  Since then we have been very open about her status and have never been ashamed of it.  Or, at least that's what we believed.  Since finding this site last month, I have been paying attention to the way we talk about HIV at home and with others.  When discussing her HIV, we call it "her virus" or "her immune issues".  We don't actually say HIV.  We talk about "people like mini", not "people who also have HIV".  Believe me, this was not a conscience effort.  I truly believe that it spawned from the need to be able to talk about things in public or in mixed company without those around being privvy to the details.  Then, it just became the way we referred to it.  Like it was a mini-thing, not an HIV-thing. By not saying what she has, even to people who KNOW she's HIV+, was simply hiding behind the semantics.  It was just a different kind of denial.

Things are changing, though.  Dh and I have discussed it and we're changing the way we talk about HIV - REALLY talk about HIV. 

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