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Offline neveragain

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I am even more scared now
« on: October 25, 2007, 05:02:35 PM »
Hello Everyone I am new here and hope you guys can help me ease my fear.

I am a female and on April 29, 2007 I had unprotected vaginal sex with a guy a hardly knew while going thru a divorce.    Two weeks later we had only oral sex where he finished in my mouth.

After that I never was with him again and started panicking about hiv.  October 29, 2007 will be my six month mark from that unprotected vaginal sex episode.

During all this time I have tested for HIV at 1 week post exposure(blood drawn by labcorp), 5 weeks (oraquick), 7 weeks (blood drawn from STD clinic), 8 week (oraquick), 10 week (orasure), 13 week (oraquick) and 18 week (oraquick) and all these have been negative.

After this scare I decided to get back with my husband because did not what to ever be this scared again.  I started having unprotected sex with my husband again after my 13 week test.  However, somehow I feel very scared to get my 6 month test and that it may be positive and I have infected my husband.  My husband does not know about the other guy.

Please advise me.  Am I over reacting, how accurate are the oraquick test. :'(

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Re: Never again will i do this stupidity
« Reply #1 on: October 25, 2007, 05:11:44 PM »
You've reliably tested negative in relation to the two incidents you are concerned about. The CDC recommends testing at 13 weeks and you actually tested beyond that. So as far as those incidents you're good to go.

Are you certain your husband did not have sex with someone else while you were separated?

Condoms can only safely be dispensed with when both partners in a relationship have tested HIV negative together and have decided to commit to a securely monogamous relationship.

Andy Velez

Offline neveragain

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Re: Never again will i do this stupidity
« Reply #2 on: October 25, 2007, 05:17:07 PM »
Hello Andy, Thank you for responding so fast.

Well i'm pretty certain my husband was not with someone else, but can't say i'm 100% sure (you never know).

I feel like I just did this and I am waiting on my 13 week results (im so worried) ???

are oraquick reliable?

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Re: Never again will i do this stupidity
« Reply #3 on: October 25, 2007, 08:00:38 PM »
Oraquick are FDA approved and are very reliable.

Offline neveragain

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Re: Never again will i do this stupidity
« Reply #4 on: October 29, 2007, 07:41:19 PM »
I called CDC and the gentleman that answered told me I just test out until 6 months.  Why are they still telling the public 6 moths?

Today I had blood drawn for my 6 months post exposure after a 18 weeks negative.  I hope it does not change.

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Re: Never again will i do this stupidity
« Reply #5 on: October 29, 2007, 07:44:18 PM »
Thanks for moving your post over here to your original thread. I copied the following from the AM Lessons which you may wish to review while you're here. Regarding not knowing what your husband was doing during your separation, I would encourage condom use. I realize full well this could start an all out spat as to why you're asking and essentially accusing him of being unfaithful. However, it could also give way to a mutual testing date and then both of you would start, hopefully, with a clean negative slate. Best of luck.

There is a "window period" which is the time it takes the body to produce antibodies after HIV infection has begun. For the vast majority of those who will test positive, antibodies to HIV will develop within 4-6 weeks after exposure. Some will take a little longer to develop antibodies. To make certain that you receive a reliable test result, it's necessary to wait at least three months (13 weeks) after your last possible exposure to the virus before being tested.

Getting tested before three months may result in an unclear result or a false negative. Some testing centers may recommend testing again at six months. All but less than 1% of those who are going to seroconvert will do so within three months (seroconversion is the development of detectable antibodies to HIV in the blood as a result of infection.) It's extremely rare for seroconversion to take more than six months to develop detectable antibodies.

No diagnostic test will ever be 100% reliable, but if you test negative at the appropriate time (i.e., 13 weeks after possible exposure to the virus), you can consider that to be a dependable confirmation that you are HIV negative.

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Re: Never again will i do this stupidity
« Reply #6 on: October 29, 2007, 10:02:49 PM »
When I hear that someone at the CDC is giving out that 6 months testing thing I could go ballistic. The stated policy for quite sometime of the CDC has been that 13 weeks is a reliable testing point. The exceptions are where intravenous drug use is involved or when the person has a severely compromised immune system due to cancer treatment or the like. I don't have any reason to believe either of those two exceptions apply to you unless you say otherwise.

Very unfortunately there are some unqualified people staffing the CDC phones and you got one of those. A negative at 13 weeks is reliable. No further testing is necessary.

Your husband maybe miffed at your suggestion to get tested together but I stand by that suggestion. Just as you did not expect to have the incident that occured, I don't know what may have happened with him during your separation. I'm not suggesting he did anything. But we're talking life and death health issues here for both of you. So as far as I am concerned that's worth some peevishness or resentment to establish clearly that both of you are indeed HIV negative.

And if it brings up some "stuff," I say that's a price worth paying to get back on track safely together.

Andy Velez

Offline neveragain

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I am even more scared now
« Reply #7 on: July 30, 2008, 03:51:22 PM »
Hello everyone I have not been here for several months. But I just need to ask again

In the last week of April 07 I had unprotected sex with a male that I not know very well.

I tested all the way up to November 1, 2007 to see If my test would still be negative which it was.  I never tested again after my six month period.
I just found out I am pregnant and they will do new test on me. 

My current partner is negative but,
Is there anyway that I may have seroconverted after six months. from my April 07 encounter
Please respond :'(

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Re: I am even more scared now
« Reply #8 on: July 30, 2008, 04:36:59 PM »

I've merged your new thread into your original thread - where you should post all your additional thoughts or questions. It helps us to help you when you keep all your additional thoughts or questions in one thread.

If you need help finding your thread when you come here, click on the "Show own posts" link under your name in the left-hand column of any forum page.

Please also read through the Welcome Thread so you can familiarize yourself with our Forum Posting Guidelines. Thank you for your cooperation.

As you've already been told, you tested conclusively hiv negative following your incident in April 07. You were conclusively hiv negative when you tested at three months and any further testing was unnecessary overkill.

You do not have hiv.


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