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Offline jake0078

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Advice needed...
« on: October 21, 2007, 02:26:47 PM »
Let me start by giving a BIG Thank You to the staff of aidsmeds.com for doing such a great job for people who need to discuss, get info or get help! We are really appreciated! Thank you!

And then my story. I'm a little bit concerned for my actions and need advice from you guys. Some 7 weeks ago I was having a good time and had some drinks of course. I wasn't "totally wasted" but a little bit drank like funny way, you know. I got separated a couple of weeks before this and was obviously looking for a people to hug to or whatever. Somehow me and my friends decided to go a legal brothel and I got hooked with a good looking lady. We discussed for a while and then made to her room to do make it out. First she gave me a unprotected blowjob (I didn't have any bruises or anything, I wasn't bleeding) and she didn't bleed either. A normal blowjob for maybe 5min. Then se put a condom on, put a little bit of massage oil / baby oil over condom to make it more slippery and we made it out for 10min. 2 positions, no anal. I didn't come. Then she removed the condom and started to give me handjob. She took more of the baby oil, jerked and spitted a couple of times to my dick to make it more slippery again. I didn't come. Then I jerked myself while watching her and she massaged my balls to make it easier. I came, paid and left.

I have read many threads from this forum and it seems that I had zero risk situation. I went to have full STD panel (when they do, they do full STD panel or nothing in my country) on day 9 - negative. I talked to this doctor and she said that regarding HIV I shouldn't worry. Then se advised me to take 3months test for Hepatite-B and for HIV (just to clear my mind of this incident). Regarding Hepatite-B, I went to have first shot 2 days from the incident and had the second shot 4 weeks after the first. I read that even after Hepatite-B infection you can fix the situation by having shots as Hepatite-B has 3 months window period.

I'm a bit worried now for HIV as I have read so much info from different websites. Many say I shouldn't read but I can't help myself. When I didn't touch my computer for 3 days I felt so much better (worked out, made some jogging, sports etc.).

Again, appreciated of your hard work for people all over the world! God bless!

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: Advice needed...
« Reply #1 on: October 21, 2007, 03:16:55 PM »
The bottom line is you were not at risk in this situation for HIV transmission. So take a breath now and let go of that concern.

You do need to remember that only a water-based lube should be used with condoms. Oil-based can cause breakage. Fortunately that didn't happen in your case.

Getting a blowjob, a handjob and any of the other particulars otherwise mentioned -- none of those are a risk for HIV transmission. Zilich risk.

It sounds like you're in an emotionally sensitive period after a breakup. Avoid mixing casual sex with heavy drinking. It's a dangerous combo that affect your ability to negotiate safer sex. This time it wasn't a problem, but watch for that. In terms of HIV as long as you always use a condom for intercourse it doesn't matter if your partner is HIV+ or not. Condoms do a very effective job of protecting you.

This time out no cause for further concern.

Andy Velez


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