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Author Topic: 2 year old's Temper Tantrums  (Read 2680 times)

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Offline SecretKeeper

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2 year old's Temper Tantrums
« on: August 26, 2007, 01:32:20 PM »
My "adorable" two year old is maxing out the number of tantrums she has in one day.  ???  She is pushing me over the edge (and I think she's happy about it).  Any suggestions on dealing with the truly terrible twos?  (besides something that would land me in jail  ;) - lol)

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Re: 2 year old's Temper Tantrums
« Reply #1 on: August 26, 2007, 01:42:46 PM »
Do gypsies still buy children? :o

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Re: 2 year old's Temper Tantrums
« Reply #2 on: August 26, 2007, 01:45:00 PM »
I'd lock her in a closet, but then I can only deal with ANY child for about 2 minutes.
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Re: 2 year old's Temper Tantrums
« Reply #3 on: August 26, 2007, 02:02:58 PM »
Gypsies huh?  Know of any in Iowa?  It might be worth looking into. - Heck, I'd pay them to take her!  I could lock her in the closet until they arrive.   ;D  Thanks for the help! 

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Re: 2 year old's Temper Tantrums
« Reply #4 on: August 26, 2007, 02:37:04 PM »
I'd lock her in a closet, but then I can only deal with ANY child for about 2 minutes.

It's called Hide-Indefinitely-&-Don't-Seek, and it's hours of fun. If you're concerned about her making a mess in the closet, a simple roll of duct tape works almost as well.

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Re: 2 year old's Temper Tantrums
« Reply #5 on: August 26, 2007, 02:48:23 PM »
I remember what worked with my sisters when they were two. You begin taking things they value away. And when they were behaved and were able to sustain the good behavior, they would get things back one at a time.

In this day and age, you can get sued by your kids if you lock them in a closet... ;)

But, try taking valued items away...not just a toy here and there...but it helps teach that for every choice there is a consequence, good or bad. It's similar to puppy training...I hate to make the correlation, but it's true...

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Re: 2 year old's Temper Tantrums
« Reply #6 on: August 26, 2007, 05:18:15 PM »
Secret, before offering any suggestions seriously, can you say more about the circumstances under which they have been happening, how they begin and how they end?

Children of course are emotional  and physical cannibals. You're there to be her servant and she doesn't want you to ever forget that. Not even when she's 30. But within those lovely parameters you can learn to deal a bit. In general it does help if you can avoid losing your temper, as difficult as that maybe. 

So say some more about it. A parent needs lots of support in coping because it can become awfully overwhelming otherwise.

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Re: 2 year old's Temper Tantrums
« Reply #7 on: August 26, 2007, 07:40:53 PM »
You know Secret, people used to tell me to go to Tough Love, do this and that.  Let me tell you, the only thing that I could do when my daughter (who's now 23) acted like that at that age, when she took it to the extreme, was to go into another room, or send her to her room.  Just to GET AWAY from her for a little bit.  Otherwise, I would have lost my mind.
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Offline SecretKeeper

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Re: 2 year old's Temper Tantrums
« Reply #8 on: September 01, 2007, 10:36:31 AM »
Thanks for all your suggestions.  I am making baby steps - I've started eliminating movie time - her favorite.  Which, of course, causes a whole new temper tantrum, but I've been working through it and sticking to my guns (most of the time).  Would anyone else like to raise her until she's "normal" again? ;)  The sticking to it part is the hardest, but I now realize, the most important.  Maybe someday I'll be good at this motherhood thing.  (Maybe by the time I'm a grandma!)

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Re: 2 year old's Temper Tantrums
« Reply #9 on: September 01, 2007, 04:14:39 PM »

 :)  How about an exorcism ? !!  Sorry, I really can't give any advice. I haven't been around a two year old, in probably 40 years. Although, I have been around some adults that act like two year olds.

I wouldn't know what to do. Good luck though. Hope things get better. Can you bribe them with money ?  ;)

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Re: 2 year old's Temper Tantrums
« Reply #10 on: September 01, 2007, 06:16:23 PM »
you know some people say.....

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Re: 2 year old's Temper Tantrums
« Reply #11 on: September 01, 2007, 06:18:52 PM »
  I can remember my grandmother taking me into the bathroom, and sitting in front of the door so I could not get out.  She would then read bible stories and tell me how disappointed Jesus would be in me if he were in there with us.  LOL  By the end of the session, she was driving me nuts, and I would have done anything to get out.  Ahh, but good behavior was not good enough to get let out.  No, She Was In Control Now.  When She Decided You Had Heard Enough, Then you could get out.  LOL LOL LOL  LOL      ::)
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Re: 2 year old's Temper Tantrums
« Reply #12 on: September 01, 2007, 06:31:21 PM »
Hang in there ...I am on my second set of two year olds......children all grown  now but grandchildren are in the  2 to 4 range.......we have dealt with tantrums in different ways...depends on the child.....girls who value their "dollies" or some special item of food  are denied that until they accept that "tantrums" cost you something....not love but something...the boys seem to respond better to physical issues......losing certain "territory"..like not being allowed to sleep on the bed...but on a mat on the floor...or can't sit at the table to eat with everybody else...must sit by themselves on a stool or at the counter...of course every child responds differently but so far that is my experience with mine,my families and grandchildren....make specific actions and time to regain whatever they lost...  and of course there are always the hugs and "I love yous at any time"
You just have to hang in there and be consistent, firm and loving....

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