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Offline GSOgymrat

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It's cancer
« on: August 10, 2007, 03:13:50 PM »
It has been almost 10 years to the day since he was diagnosed with non-Hodgkins lymphoma and successfully treated. We found out yesterday that my partner has lymphoma again.  He had a swollen gland on his neck and his doctors performed CAT and PET scans. He has four tumors that showed up, the one on his neck and 3 more down the middle of his chest. His going Tuesday for a biopsy on the one on his neck, Thursday for a bone marrow sample and Friday the oncologist will give us the recommended treatment and prognosis. He said it will be heavier chemo than before because lymphatic tumors generally don't respond as well if they return a second time.

We are both shocked, stunned and saddened. He is very fearful of going through even heavier chemo, as the first time was horrible, especially since he had complications. Here come hard times.

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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #1 on: August 10, 2007, 03:24:24 PM »
Both of you are in my thoughts during this difficult time.  I am so very sorry that he has to go through this again.  With a good man like you by his side he can make thru this struggle.

(who doesn't pray often, but is saying one right now)

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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #2 on: August 10, 2007, 03:43:05 PM »
this is very upsetting news.  I am terrible sorry to hear this.
I wish you both much strength and luck during the upcoming battle.  I'll keep you both in my thoughts.

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Offline kentb

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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #3 on: August 10, 2007, 04:06:49 PM »
I hardly ever post here, but have followed you for a long time as a great source of inspiration for thoses of us who have had physical changes.

Will pray for strength and courage for you and your partner.

with compassion,

Kent in ATL.

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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #4 on: August 10, 2007, 04:13:10 PM »

I am deeply sorry to hear this. My thoughts go out to both of you...

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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #5 on: August 10, 2007, 04:15:09 PM »
Ford, so sorry to hear this news and I'm sending my deepest thoughts to you and your partner during this period.
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Offline NycJoe

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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #6 on: August 10, 2007, 04:21:21 PM »
So sorry to hear it.  As if hiv isn't enough to deal with.  Prayers out to you and yours...Joe

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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #7 on: August 10, 2007, 04:22:10 PM »
Oh, Ford.  I am so sorry to read this.  My thoughts are with you both.
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Offline RapidRod

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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #8 on: August 10, 2007, 04:24:57 PM »
Ford, sorry to hear of this news. Lets pray that he beat it once and he can do it again. My thoughts are with you both.


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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #9 on: August 10, 2007, 04:28:58 PM »

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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #10 on: August 10, 2007, 04:32:46 PM »
I am sorry Ford...  I hope that in the past 10 years treatments have gotten better and easier to deal with..  Prayers are with both of you..

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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #11 on: August 10, 2007, 04:35:08 PM »
I'm sorry Ford.  I'll be thinking of you both next week as he begins to see where things stand.


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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #12 on: August 10, 2007, 04:35:20 PM »
My thoughts will be with you and your partner.


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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #13 on: August 10, 2007, 04:35:36 PM »
Ford, I am sorry to hear this news. I hope that the cancer can be treated and everything will be okay. Will be thinking of you both.  Cristy

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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #14 on: August 10, 2007, 04:41:32 PM »
Hi Ford~

I am saddened to hear of this news for you and your partner.  I have dealt with a loved one having lymphoma as well.  The good news is the fact that modern medicine is amazing.  I am praying that you both stay strong and persevere through this!  My thoughts are with you both.  Please keep us posted.

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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #15 on: August 10, 2007, 04:47:02 PM »
I am so sorry to hear this and wish you both all the strength.
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Offline Cliff

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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #16 on: August 10, 2007, 04:50:30 PM »

I'm sorry to hear this.  Keep us posted. You both are in my thoughts and prayers.


Offline mjmel

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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #17 on: August 10, 2007, 05:00:18 PM »
I pray, I send thoughts of both courage and strength to your partner in these hard times ahead.
I know you are the wind beneath his wings. Maybe it sounds a bit corny but it's true.


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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #18 on: August 10, 2007, 05:06:21 PM »
My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your partner.
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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #19 on: August 10, 2007, 05:26:38 PM »
You will both be in my thoughts.
Remember, I'm only over in Winston if y'all need any help.(been a nurse for 30 yrs too) Anytime friend, anytime.
I remember how sick and weak Grinch was when he came through this ordeal some time ago. Try to keep as healthy a diet as possible, and rest, even when you feel like you "should" be doing something.
Keep us posted.
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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #20 on: August 10, 2007, 05:35:07 PM »
Your partner and you are in my thoughts Ford. Try to maintain a positive perspective as best you can while you two walk this journey and help him to remember everyday that he is not his cancer.  :)
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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #21 on: August 10, 2007, 05:46:47 PM »
Dear Ford...Here's hoping you and your partner come through this ordeal with flying colors...I know you will both give it your best shot and as has been said treatments are improving all the time as they get to the cancer without affecting surrounding tissue...Keep on truckin' one day at a time.

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Offline Iggy

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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #22 on: August 10, 2007, 06:40:30 PM »

I'm sorry to hear this and hope only the best for treatment.

Offline aztecan

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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #23 on: August 10, 2007, 07:26:57 PM »
Ford, you will both be in my thoughts and I will send copious amounts of healing energy your partner's way.


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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #24 on: August 10, 2007, 07:43:17 PM »
I'm really sorry to hear this, Ford.

I've added you both to my daily love, light and positive healing energy list.

Hang in there buddy. You know we're here for you.

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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #25 on: August 10, 2007, 07:44:42 PM »
Oh my, what terrible news.  I can say nothing to make it better.  I have followed you and partner for some time since he and I do the same job in life.  I am saddened to hear this news.  You both are in my thoughts.  Please take care!
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Offline Nadine

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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #26 on: August 10, 2007, 09:05:42 PM »
Ford, I'm very sorry to hear this. 

You & your partner will be in my thoughts and prayers.


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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #27 on: August 10, 2007, 09:15:38 PM »
Ford, he could have no better caregiver than you! Take care of the both of you...

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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #28 on: August 10, 2007, 10:23:58 PM »
  Keep the faith and live life to the fullest that is possible.  Create good memories.  You both are in my thoughts.
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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #29 on: August 10, 2007, 10:47:08 PM »

I'm not sure what to say, except that I'm very sorry to learn this news about your partner.  I will say some prayers for both of you, and hope that the two of you can find your way through this together.

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Offline Robert

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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #30 on: August 10, 2007, 10:52:03 PM »
Oh ford.  I'm so sorry for both of you.  Good luck in the upcoming days and months.  Like everyone else here, I'll be hoping for the best.


Offline AlanBama

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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #31 on: August 10, 2007, 11:06:52 PM »

I am so saddened to hear this news.   You will both be in my prayers.   Stay strong...


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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #32 on: August 11, 2007, 12:31:50 AM »
I am sorry to hear the sad news regarding your partner but agrees with Basquo, he has you in his corner and you will provide all the tlc he needs. Will keep you both in my prayers..
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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #33 on: August 11, 2007, 12:38:21 AM »

I'm sorry you and your partner have to go through this. Thinking about you.

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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #34 on: August 11, 2007, 03:48:06 AM »
I am sorry your partner and you have to go through this, and I wish you lots of courage and strength over the next months.
You are in my thoughts

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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #35 on: August 11, 2007, 04:23:43 AM »
Your partner is lucky to have you at his side to share these difficult times.

I hope that the doctors give a good prognosis.

Best wishes to you both,

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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #36 on: August 11, 2007, 04:39:03 AM »
I'm so sorry you and your partner have to go through this.  Please know that you are in my prayers.  Take very good care of each other and hoping for the best for you both.

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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #37 on: August 11, 2007, 06:14:27 AM »

I am also sorry to hear about your partner. 

Roller-coaster ride coming?  Yeah....but thankfully you will be there for him.

Keep strong.


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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #38 on: August 11, 2007, 06:37:35 AM »
That is hard news, Ford. An ex and friend of mine died of AIDS-Related Non-Hodgkins Lymphoma back in 1994.

Here's praying and hoping for the best possible outcome.




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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #39 on: August 11, 2007, 10:47:47 AM »
I dont know what to say.  This is not good news.  I hope for the best for the two of you.
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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #40 on: August 11, 2007, 10:56:06 AM »
I am very sorry to hear the news.  Hang in there and both of you keep your strength and a positive attitude. He's beaten it once, he can do it again!
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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #41 on: August 11, 2007, 01:08:58 PM »
baby I am sorry to hear this...My thoughts and prayers are with you today!!
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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #42 on: August 11, 2007, 02:15:11 PM »
Ford, I'm sorry to learn of this repeat challenge, but knowing you have each other makes it easier to take on. Flying solo while ill makes it all the more troubling and exhausting. I'll be thinking of both of you. Em

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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #43 on: August 11, 2007, 02:21:37 PM »
I'm so sorry, GSO. I will definitely keep you both in my prayers. I know you're probably being the strong one, but hopefully it doesn't sound hollow when I say that you have people who are here for you.

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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #44 on: August 11, 2007, 02:50:35 PM »
Hello, Sending  you and your partner  light, love and hugs during this difficult time.  JeffreyM

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« Reply #45 on: August 11, 2007, 05:24:49 PM »
I'm sorry :'(

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« Reply #46 on: August 11, 2007, 05:27:57 PM »
Oh Ford! Such terrible news. Matty the Damned is thinking of you both.


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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #47 on: August 11, 2007, 06:38:26 PM »
Ford that is terrible news...I can really empathize..I am very close to someone who has had the same sort of issue..recurring lymphoma......  I hope your partner can receive the newest care available....the Dr who treatment my friend kept saying how improved the treatments had become and how selective the chemo has been designed now.    she has recovered as fully as possible   which means the nodules  shrunk and have not grown back in more than six months...
Best wishes and to you and partner   I hope the treatments are super successful

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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #48 on: August 12, 2007, 02:12:03 AM »
Thanks to everyone for your support. The first time he had cancer he insisted on only telling the people who had to know. We even managed to keep it a secret from his family, a plan I disapproved of but went along with. This time he says he is going to tell his parents about everything, including his HIV status, which will completely shock them but be a relief to me. We have a lot more support this time around and I am preparing for the bad times and hoping for the best.

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Re: It's cancer
« Reply #49 on: August 12, 2007, 02:44:53 AM »
Hi Ford~

I'm glad that you can anticipate some relief with your partner disclosing his status, especially at such a trying time.  Family is amazing, sometimes they are all we have, but they are ALWAYS THERE.  Your partner is lucky to have YOU, too.  Yes, there will definitely be more support for the both of you this time, as well! 

Prayers for You,

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