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Offline civilian1

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a bit concerned
« on: August 01, 2007, 06:45:12 PM »

Two weeks ago I had sex with a girl who said she does some porn. It was protected sex but I'm a bit paranoid in case at some point it wasn't protected. Before going to her apartment she wanted to have sex outside unprotected but I refused, so I'm assuming as she was willing to have unprotected sex that she didn't have HIV or didn't know she had it.
So hypothetically, if I had unprotected sex with her what are my chances of getting HIV assuming she had it and didn't know. I would really just like some peace of mind and to know when and if I should get a test.
Thanks for your time.

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Re: a bit concerned
« Reply #1 on: August 01, 2007, 07:36:17 PM »
Hypothetically be buggered.

You didn't have unprotected sex and so you don't have to worry about having contracted HIV on this occasion. You don't need to test. It doesn't matter if this woman watches porn, dances topless at the local rugby club or shags like Paris Hilton on a good night, because you had protected sex HIV isn't an issue.


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Re: a bit concerned
« Reply #2 on: August 01, 2007, 07:45:19 PM »
so in the hypothetical situation i would definitely need to test?how likely is it that i would get hiv in that scenario.

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« Reply #3 on: August 01, 2007, 07:52:27 PM »
Well yes, if you have unprotected anal or vaginal sex then you place yourself at risk of HIV infection and it's wise to be tested 13 weeks after the date of the sexual encounter.

HIV is a delicate fussy virus that's difficult to transmit, especially from female to male and the likelihood of testing positive after one episode of unprotected vaginal sex is quite low. You're more likely to contract (or transmit for that matter) an STD like chlamydia or gonorrhoea as such diseases are much more prevalent and transmissible than little ol' HIV.

All sexually active people should have a full STD screen at least once a year. Twice is better. By definition a full screen includes but is not limited to an HIV antibody test. If it's been a while since your last full screen or if you've not had one before you might think about making an appointment with your doctor or local clinic. Please note I'm not saying that you need to test as a result of what you describe here -- you don't -- rather it's a good habit to get into.

Please take the time to read our Welcome Thread which contains links to our lessons on HIV testing and treatment.

I want to say again that since you had protected sex with this woman, testing is not necessary in this case.


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Re: a bit concerned
« Reply #4 on: August 01, 2007, 07:56:40 PM »
ok thanks alot for your time. im just quite curious about the whole thing as its never been explained to me before. i thought that if you had unprotected sex with someone with hiv you automatically get hiv?

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« Reply #5 on: August 01, 2007, 08:05:11 PM »
It's fine Civ, I'm glad you've found this exchange to be helpful.

i thought that if you had unprotected sex with someone with hiv you automatically get hiv?

That's a commonly held misunderstanding. But as I said, HIV is not easily transmitted. Nevertheless it can be transmitted via unprotected anal or vaginal sex and is such a serious infection that it's not something to take chances  with.

Keep using latex condoms (and water based lubricants) whenever you bump uglies with someone else and you'll be fine.



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Re: a bit concerned
« Reply #6 on: August 02, 2007, 04:02:11 AM »

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex with a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

And as Matty has already told you, while you don't need to test over this specific incident, any sexually active adult should have regular, routine sexual health care check ups.

One more thing, you can't go by what you think you know about your sexual partners. I didn't fall into any of the so called "risk groups" when I tested positive and neither did the man who passed it on to me. It's not people who are risky, it's unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse that definitely IS risky. Use condoms.

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