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Author Topic: I am batling with the stigma more than the virus  (Read 2789 times)

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Offline 27years

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I am batling with the stigma more than the virus
« on: July 25, 2007, 05:35:50 PM »
Initially i had posted this in Positive Women but was advised to post it here.

Hope someone can relate to my situation and help me move on.  I am in the forces (not USA).  i tested poz last year after having a meeting with one of my medical colonel who told me that my medical grading wasnt going to change because i looked fit. i was happy to get tested and accepted my poz result without any problem.  i informed my military dr who said i had to be monitored by the GUM dr which was fine.  at this point i did not have any problem at all, i deployed to a war zone and my dr was happy for me to go as long as i stayed at the base.  he didnt see me as a threat to anyone unless if i got injured to the extent that i cant talk.  after 4 months one of the colonels whom i havent even seen or met decided to withdraw me from where i was immediately.  i phoned my dr asking what was going on and he told me it wasnt his choice but someone of higher authority.  i asked how he got my medical records and he told me that they had to pass them on to him since he is in authority.  i asked my dr if i could stay for another month until when i was due to return and he was happy to leave me there.  on return i went to speak to him to clariffy what was going on as the first colonel i met told me nothing was going to change workwise, my dr himself did not understand why the other colonel came to that conclusion considering he hasnt even seen me in person and worse of he said i am not allowed to deploy anywhere, thats when everything began to sink in.  I feel so stuck up being at one place and considering how i liked my job but now i have lost all the intrest  i havent got any medical problem at the moment i feel alright for now.  My blood test are ok and the Gum dr said I dont have to be on any medication, Strange enough my exboyfriend who refused to get tested does not have any medical restrictions he can go anywhere do all the duties without any problem.  Personally i think someone who doesnt know has got more chances of passing it on to others unknowingly.  I asked if they was anyone iin the same situation as me but unfortunately they cant tell me its private,  i havent got anyone to turn to at the moment.  Having the virus should be bad enough on its own but for me its the stigma which it has come with in my carrier.  Does anyone know any military policies on HIV poz personnel.  Its a pity that i am a junior rank and i have to battle against senior officials and i dont know if its worse because i am a women.  Surely if i was told the truth of what was gonna happen i wouldnt have bothered testing because i havent benefited from being poz beside not passing it on to another person.  i think i can understand why some people end up in denial, bad as things can be i will keep trying to make the best out of the worst.
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Offline xyahka

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Re: I am batling with the stigma more than the virus
« Reply #1 on: July 25, 2007, 05:53:40 PM »
Hi, i can only say sorry for what you are facing. I think among us there are some people retired from army, perhaps they might know.

Also have you tried to talk to people in NAPWA ??? they may know more cases and give you a hint on what to do.

wish you all the best!!

Juan Carlos

(who is reserve Lieutenant in the Ecuadorian Navy)
13/03/07 1er diagnóstico /Peso: 79kg
19/04/07 CD4: 494 /CViral: ?? /Peso: 80kg
19/07/07 CD4: 659 /CViral: ?? /Peso: 79.5kg
06/03/08 CD4: 573 (después de meses muy deprimido) /CViral: ?? /Peso: 79kg
17/09/08 CD4: ?? /CViral: ?? /Peso: 84Kg
06/02/09 CD4: ?? /CViral: ?? /Peso: 85Kg /HCV: Neg /HBV: Neg.
07/03/09 CD4: ?? /CViral: ?? /Peso: 87Kg / Gym 3días/semana y Natación 2días/semana.
12/05/09 CD4: 470 /Cviral: ?? /Peso: 87Kg.
08/07/09 CD4: ? /CViral: ? /Peso: 77Kg.
09/12/09 CD4: 510 /CViral: ? /Peso: 78kg. No medicinas aún
10/01/10 CD4: ? /CViral: ? /Peso: 76Kg.
15/05/10 CD4: 320 /CViral: ? /Peso: 76Kg.
01/02/11 CD4: 291 /CViral: ? /Peso: 78kg.
05/05/11 CD4: 366 /CViral: ? /Peso: 78kg.
27/07/11 CD4: 255 /CViral: 138000 /Peso: 78kg.

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Offline zeb

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Re: I am batling with the stigma more than the virus
« Reply #2 on: July 25, 2007, 07:01:09 PM »
Hi 27years,

From what I've heard about the Dutch forces (in this case Marines) is that poz people aren't deployable but that they still can be in the army.



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