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Author Topic: how do you look at someone everyday knowing that you have exposed them  (Read 2947 times)

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Offline LYFE

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Offline DanielMark

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I think you tell yourself that they exposed themselves, and move on.

It's 2006. Most people have heard about safer sex by now.

My 2 cents.




Offline newt

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Do you truly know you put someone at real risk of transmission, and if you did were they wearing rose-tinted spectacles at the time, or are you just being hard on yourself for being HIV+?
"The object is to be a well patient, not a good patient"

Offline Moffie65

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I don't even see the need for this question, as the others have said, we are all responsible for our own sexual health.


In Love and Support.
The Bible contains 6 admonishments to homosexuals,
and 362 to heterosexuals.
This doesn't mean that God doesn't love heterosexuals,
It's just that they need more supervision.
Lynn Lavne

Offline cubbybear

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Totally agree with everyone else's comments, everyone has the ability to make a decision about safe sex, either they use protection or abstain from risky actions, or they don't.  If they don't, they are at least entertaining the notion that picking up an STI is a *possibility*.  Having exposed someone and having infected someone are also two different things.  An exposure (your words) doesn't mean you have infected them, and there's no love lost.  An infection on the other hand is something you'll have to live with, and deal with. 

Everyone can do their bit to avoid infection, it's not all about you.
There's a bear in there!
Positive since 2000
Diagnosed 17/9/2005 CD4 35 VL 293,000
Meds 23/9/2005 Sustiva/Truvada
Currently CD4 232 VL Undetectable

Offline LYFE

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Thanks guys i guess i knew this already but my boyfriend and i found out i was positive at the sametime while trying to conceive but I'm strong and young thanks for your thoughts i appreciate it

Offline Cliff

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I guess it's a matter of forgiving yourself and recognizing that you didn't know your status at the time and wasn't intentionally trying to expose your boyfriend. You can't undo what has been done.  All you can do is move forward.  Focus on your health (remaining healthy, getting access to quality health care, etc..) and focus on your relationship. 

Let the past remain in the past.  Like Matt said, don't be hard on yourself for being positive.

- Cliff


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