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Offline justchecking

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Lap Dance Experience
« on: June 09, 2007, 09:14:08 AM »
First, that you to the dedicated professionals that operate this site.

I had a lap dance yesterday, which normally is no big deal. The difference with the dance is that I had on some loose fitting thin pants with underwear.  The dancer was completey nude and at one point during the dance grinded directly against the tip of my penis where the hole to her vagina was located.  When I went to the restroom I noticed my pants and underwaer were damp, I am assuming from her fluids.  I am concerned that since she grinded the hole of her vagina to the tip of my penis, even though there was my layer of clothes between us that the fluids that were on my underwear could have transferred HIV to the hole at my tip.

Offline justchecking

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Re: Lap Dance Experience
« Reply #1 on: June 09, 2007, 10:48:57 AM »

Ann, Andy?

Offline RapidRod

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Re: Lap Dance Experience
« Reply #2 on: June 09, 2007, 11:16:26 AM »
No risk. Take the time to read the transmission lesson. The link can be found in the "Welcome" thread.

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Re: Lap Dance Experience
« Reply #3 on: June 09, 2007, 12:44:54 PM »
You may have had an experience which will require dry cleaning of your pants but as far as HIV is concerned the risk was zilch, none, nada, zero.

As Rod has suggested you need to read our lession on Transmission.

HIV is a fragile virus that is passed only in certain specific ways sexually and lap dancing hasn't ever been nor will it ever be such a setting. Really.

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Re: Lap Dance Experience
« Reply #4 on: June 09, 2007, 01:45:35 PM »
Are you certain that the wet spot wasn't a puddle from your own pre-cum?

Obviously no risk here, bud.

(Who loves lapdances and leaks precum)
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Re: Lap Dance Experience
« Reply #5 on: June 09, 2007, 04:40:00 PM »
That's what I thought too -- plus add in some large amounts of crotch sweat. 

I can't imagine a lap dancer being continually moist throughout her job... it must get horribly clinical to the dancer after the first hour on the first day they do that job.  After that it's all just an act.

At any rate there was zero risk of HIV transmission.
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Offline justchecking

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Re: Lap Dance Experience
« Reply #6 on: June 09, 2007, 04:52:23 PM »

If it was her fluids that made it through my pants to my undewear, since my penis head was against her vagina hole, am I at risk.

Offline Matty the Damned

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Re: Lap Dance Experience
« Reply #7 on: June 09, 2007, 04:59:04 PM »
I agree with the others. This is a zero risk situation. You don't have to worry about HIV as a result of having a lap dancer moisten your dungarees.


Offline justchecking

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Re: Lap Dance Experience
« Reply #8 on: June 09, 2007, 05:04:33 PM »

Pants and underwear.  Still zero?

Offline Matty the Damned

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Re: Lap Dance Experience
« Reply #9 on: June 09, 2007, 05:13:49 PM »
Yes, it's still zero.

You should take the time to read our Welcome Thread which contains our posting guidelines and links to our transmission lesson.


Offline asaint

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Re: Lap Dance Experience
« Reply #10 on: June 09, 2007, 05:18:15 PM »
Its nothing      she probably just pissed on you
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Offline Matty the Damned

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Re: Lap Dance Experience
« Reply #11 on: June 09, 2007, 05:26:15 PM »
Its nothing      she probably just pissed on you


Whilst it's nice that you want to help out here in Am I Infected, answers such as the one you've given above are not very helpful. If you check the posting guidelines in the Welcome Thread at the top of this forum you'll see that answering questions here is restricted to the Moderators and a number of authorised members.


Offline Ann

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Re: Lap Dance Experience
« Reply #12 on: June 09, 2007, 06:16:24 PM »

Have you ever heard of frottage? That is when two people rub their UNCLOTHED genitals together, without penetration. Frottage is not a risk for hiv infection.

Being rubbed by a vagina through clothing is also not a risk for hiv infection.

And just in case you took "asaint" seriously, pee is not an infectious fluid.

You didn't have a risk by any stretch of the imagination.

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