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Author Topic: I'd appreciate advice: I'm extremely worried and anxious about getting tested.  (Read 1910 times)

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Offline GGGS

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In the last year I have had:

*Oral sex with multiple people, but did not let them orgasm in my mouth (me blowing them)
*Participated in frottage
*Let a guy come on my face
*Have not had anal sex at all, unprotected or protected

All of these people I do not know the HIV status from. I didn't have any open wounds or any "obvious" way of getting HIV, but I am extremely worried that I will be one of the rare cases who managed to get it from these means (i.e. especially the situation when the guy came on my face, I'm worried that some of his semen got into my eye, which is  a mucus membrane).

Every time I get the courage I feel "what if I test positive?" Just hearing those words gives me the chills, and I am a big worrier and think negative a lot anyway, and if I test positive I don't know what I will do with myself. But at the same time, I'm worried that I may have it every day.

So my situation is:

1. Worried that I have it, every single day
2. If I do get tested and found out I do have it, that's *it* for me. I know how my mind works, and dumping a HIV+ status onto it would finish me off mentally.

Offline Andy Velez

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GG, torturing yourself like this is definitely not good for your health, emotionally or physically.

We always advise anyone who's sexually active to get tested regularly with a full STD panel. That means at least annually and every six months is even better for someone who's very active.

Nothing you are reporting in anyway suggests to me that you will get other than a negative test result. But only a test can finally give you an answer and relieve your anxiety.

There is a great deal of evidence to support that giving blowjobs is very, very low risk. The contrary evidence is scarce and anecdotal. So I think you are putting yourself to torture needlessly.

Be scared, be nervous about it and get yourself in there anyway to get tested. I'm expecting you to test negative.

Keep us posted.

Andy Velez


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