Author Topic: My Dad Died Tuesday (Read 20177 times)

Jeff G · « **on:** October 02, 2008, 09:11:49 pm »

I'm getting through it I guess , I have my moments but it just seems unreal.

My dad and I talked on the phone every month or so for most of my life .
In April he invited me to his 70 birthday party and made a public declaration that he was sorry for being an absentee father and vowed to make up for all the lost time .

Since then we have been together often and talked most everyday on the phone when we couldn't . He was excited about buying a retirement home on a lake in Alabama that we used to live on when I was a kid . Tuesday he was to close on it , then we were to celebrate at a fancy restaurant that he loved and wanted to treat me to .

He woke on Tuesday morning with a slight head ache and asked if he could just sit for a moment with his eyes closed . He closed his eyes and went to sleep and never woke up again . I love my daddy and will miss him , I'm just glad we had this time together however brief .

RapidRod · « **Reply #1 on:** October 02, 2008, 09:31:39 pm »

I'm sorry for your loss. Please except my condolences.

Ann · « **Reply #2 on:** October 02, 2008, 10:03:40 pm »

Sorry. I lost my dad at age ten (I'll soon be 46) and I still miss him. I feel for you.

(((((((jg))))))

Ann

GSOgymrat · « **Reply #3 on:** October 02, 2008, 10:04:26 pm »

I'm so sorry about your dad.

Ford

Snowangel · « **Reply #4 on:** October 02, 2008, 10:06:43 pm »

My deepest sympathy, jg. May your Dad rest in peace.

Basquo · « **Reply #5 on:** October 02, 2008, 10:18:19 pm »

I'm so glad you were able to be closer to him these last few months. It doesn't make it easier, but it's better than not being closer. It shows your daddy loved you, as you've told us you loved him.

best, and hugs,
Creighton

bocker3 · « **Reply #6 on:** October 02, 2008, 10:25:36 pm »

jg -- I am so sorry for the loss of your dad.

Hugs,
Mike

anniebc · « **Reply #7 on:** October 02, 2008, 10:40:51 pm »

I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your father, you got to spend a lot of quality time with him and those memories will last you a life time...my thoughts are with you today.

{{{hugs}}}
Jan

Jerry71 · « **Reply #8 on:** October 02, 2008, 11:57:56 pm »

Sorry to hear that.

I lost my dad back last December and it has been hard at times the worse thing is going to my home and finding him laying face down in the floor. It was a shock to us all but you learn how to move on but you can never forget. Just be strong and remember the good times.

rondrond · « **Reply #9 on:** October 03, 2008, 12:03:42 am »

jeff,

I am so sorry for your loss.

From some of our discussions I know that he was keeping his promise to you to make up for lost time and I know that he loved you.

Take care of yourself, I know you will come through this as you are strong in spirit, mind and body.

((Hugs))
ronnie

weasel · « **Reply #10 on:** October 03, 2008, 12:22:06 am »

sorry for your loss

i was glad to hear you were close at the end

He will be watching over you now ,

karl

komnaes · « **Reply #11 on:** October 03, 2008, 12:58:13 am »

So sorry to hear your loss my friend.

Robert · « **Reply #12 on:** October 03, 2008, 01:34:29 am »

Sorry to hear of your loss. It's never easy.

The influence of his love will stay with you for a long, long time.

robert

guynphx · « **Reply #13 on:** October 03, 2008, 03:00:22 am »

sorry to hear of your Dad's passing......my thoughts are with you during this time.

lucas clay · « **Reply #14 on:** October 03, 2008, 03:59:14 am »

Sorry to hear of your dads passing,my condolences to you and your family.

Lucas

emeraldize · « **Reply #15 on:** October 03, 2008, 07:06:30 am »

Very sorry to learn of your sudden loss, Jeff. He must have been a very interesting man to have taken time at his 70th birthday to share his realization about time lost with family and to have made such a declaration. What a perfect thing for him and for you to have had time together during which he showed he was serious about recommitting himself as your father.

J.R.E. · « **Reply #16 on:** October 03, 2008, 07:44:05 am »

Jg,

My condolences to you and your family, on the loss of your father.

Ray

Jeff G · « **Reply #17 on:** October 03, 2008, 08:17:08 am »

Thank you everyone for your thoughts and energy , Jeff

auspoz · « **Reply #18 on:** October 03, 2008, 08:50:38 am »

I'm really sorry to hear about your dad's passing.

My thoughts are with you.

Auspoz.

jennynyc7 · « **Reply #19 on:** October 03, 2008, 08:56:22 am »

I am sooo very sorry for your loss. I hope that you are hanging in there the best that you can!

j

heartforyou · « **Reply #20 on:** October 03, 2008, 09:10:59 am »

First of all I offer you my condolences for the loss of your father.
Loosing a parent shakes your roots.

I think your father, for a reason, started this reconciliation with you.
Blessed will be the conversations you had with him after that.
always too little and always to soon to go.

May he find pace and may you feel his love forever.

Hermie

dixieman · « **Reply #21 on:** October 03, 2008, 09:20:34 am »

Jeff, I've known you for over 25 years... and I just wanted to let you know how sorry I am for your loss. Let me know if there's anytghing I can do for you. sincerely, John

Alain · « **Reply #22 on:** October 03, 2008, 09:20:53 am »

Jeff,

I am sorry for your loss.

With fondest thoughts, Alain.

sharkdiver · « **Reply #23 on:** October 03, 2008, 10:21:35 am »

My condolences

Hugs,
Sharkie

bear60 · « **Reply #24 on:** October 03, 2008, 10:24:59 am »

Offering you condolences.
Joel

Texan38 · « **Reply #25 on:** October 03, 2008, 10:44:12 am »

My sincerest condolences.
Thoughts and prayers are with you.

Mark

Florida69 · « **Reply #26 on:** October 03, 2008, 10:52:42 am »

I am so sorry for your loss, it is a horrible thing loosing a parent. HUGSS.. D

AlanBama · « **Reply #27 on:** October 03, 2008, 11:31:34 am »

My deepest sympathy to you on the loss of your Dad.

May he rest in peace.

hugs,

Alan

MOONLIGHT1114 · « **Reply #28 on:** October 03, 2008, 01:45:12 pm »

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Its very sad whenever we lose someone, but to not know its coming seems to make it very surreal, in my opinion. I lost my husband years ago, but knowing he was terminal somehow prepared me for it, if only a little bit.

I can't imagine how you must feel, J. You have friends in this Forum, please stay in touch and let us know how you're doing. I know it must be very, very difficult right now.

~ Cindy

Andy Velez · « **Reply #29 on:** October 03, 2008, 02:12:05 pm »

My condolences, Jeff. I hope it will be of some comfort to you that you and your Dad had what sounds like some really fine times.

With best regards.

BT65 · « **Reply #30 on:** October 03, 2008, 04:30:34 pm »

Jeff, I am so, so sorry for your loss. Keep in mind the times you two had together. And pm me whenever you want. I'm here for ya.

Luv,
Betty

Assurbanipal · « **Reply #31 on:** October 03, 2008, 04:42:33 pm »

My deepest sympathy on your loss. Losing one's father is so hard. I hope you can take comfort in the time you were able to spend with him over the past year.

Jody · « **Reply #32 on:** October 03, 2008, 09:29:16 pm »

Dear Jeff...Sorry for the loss of your dad. The time you had together at the end of his life were indeed a blessing.

Jody

David_CA · « **Reply #33 on:** October 04, 2008, 12:33:57 pm »

I'm sorry for your loss. I am glad that you two 'reconnected', even if it was towards the end. You're in our thoughts.

David

Jeff G · « **Reply #34 on:** October 05, 2008, 09:39:47 pm »

Thanks again everyone for writing , it means more to me than I can express at this time .

I am at his house now dealing with his estate , who knew it would be this way .
I'm feeling a little overwhelmed by this but making progress .

aztecan · « **Reply #35 on:** October 06, 2008, 02:42:10 pm »

Hey Jeff,

My deepest condolences on the loss of your father.

I know how sudden deaths can just throw you for a loop. My dad died in 1983 of a sudden heart attack.

Just take it a day at a time.

HUGS,

Mark

joemutt · « **Reply #36 on:** October 07, 2008, 01:47:49 am »

I am sorry for your loss, my thoughts are with you.

Iggy · « **Reply #37 on:** October 07, 2008, 08:06:22 am »

Jeff,

My belated condolences on the loss of your father.

My best wishes and thoughts are with you and your family at this time.

rocky48 · « **Reply #38 on:** October 07, 2008, 09:38:52 am »

I'm really sorry to hear about your dad's passing.

I lost my father and mother 20 years ago. I feel strongly that they are looking down on me as your father is on you. Just keep good thoughts.

My thoughts are with you.

HopeandCope · « **Reply #39 on:** October 07, 2008, 01:07:51 pm »

Very sorry to hear your Dad died. Peace be with you at this time.

Hugs,

Jude

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