Swollen tonsils and possible infection

[allitaly]

The episode I'm talking about happened some time again but I can't stop wondering about it and I'd like to hear an opinion since this forum and its admins seem very competent and trustworthy.

I am a young bisexual male and I had a sexual encounter with another guy during last summer. It seemed a normal guy at the time but afterwards it came to my attention that he might be considered an high risk individual (lots of sexual partners, most likely episodes of unprotected sex in which he was the receptive part). I'm not the one to judge, really, but I want to put things in prospective. Our encounter lasted about 30 minutes.

I kissed him deeply, and I cannot honestly remember the state of his mouth but it seemed normal. I licked and bit his nipples, not too strongly and I don't remember feeling blood in my mouth or seeing wounds on his nipples, I can't imagine having bit that hard but who knows. I fingered him with a couple of fingers for some time, and again I don't think I had any substanstial wounds on my hand, maybe some small cuts. We then mutually masturbated each other and he came on my hand at the end. There may have been some frothing during the encounter but nothing substantial.

After 7-10 days I developed a sore throat and then, after a couple more days, both my tonsils became swollen and the lymphnode near my left tonsil swell. I was on vacation (it was the beginning of June) and since I had not fever or a particular pain (I had dry throat mostly) I waited to return home, one week later (so I'd say three weeks from the encounter). I went to the doctor and he diagnosed me tonsillitis, at first he gave me a spray with some antibiotics agents (I don't know the specifics, it was a mild resort), but since in the first days i did not see results I asked for a "true" antibiotic and after a week of that the tonsillitis finally subsided. The lymphnode remained swollen for a long time though, it progressively returned to normal but very very slowly.

Now, I apologize for any spelling mistakes since english is not my first language and for the abundance of details in both the "erotic" and medical parts of my recollection. But I'd really like to know if I have something to worry about and if I should get tested. I know these activities are considered low risk but since the encountered involved a potentially high risk partner and I had symptoms in a timeframe that mostly corresponds with the one in which ARS symptoms present themselves I can't help but wonder. Thanks for any insight you may give on my situation.

[Jeff G]

Your English is very understandable and I read all your concerns carefully . HIV is sexually transmitted from unprotected anal and vaginal sex so you did not have a risk for HIV in ANY of the things you are concerned about . It would not matter if he did have HIV because you did not have a risk .

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you did not have a risk and do not need to test for this specific incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

[allitaly]

Young gay male here. Unfortunately in the last year I had recurring tonsils issues, so much that my doctor and I are thinking about removing them. They are usually kind of swollen and I have noticed that if I touch my right tonsil with a tootbrush small traces of blood remain on it. In the same timeframe, I had a number of partner (not many...four) and, even if sparingly, I engaged in unprotected oral sex as a receptive partner with them (I was the one doing to sucking). I never let anyone came in my mouth. I know oral sex is considered low risk but I'd like to know if, considering my tonsils situation, I should more "careful" in practicing oral sex in the future, basically if my risk is higher considering I have "bad" tonsils. Thanks

[Jeff G]

Only post in this one thread no matter how long between visits or subject matter . You can find this thread by going to your profile and selecting show own post and it will take you here .

The theoretical risk for oral transmission of HIV comes from giving a BJ to a man with a high HIV viral load while you have significant wounds in your mouth, even then its very rare . If you have open wounds in your mouth and oozing tonsils I would avoid oral sex out of an abundance of caution . Just be sure to have a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

[allitaly]

Sorry for the mistake, I was not sure what to do and I guess I did the wrong one  .
I guess I should even apologize for not answering the last advice you gave me, I was convinced to have posted a replay but apparently not. Thanks for both the answers!

The tonsils seem to leave small blood traces only when slowly brushed with a tootbrush, if I simply touch them this doesn't happen. And I have not seen any pus...they seem to be just a bit swollen and irritable. All things considered, should I be worried for past "transgressions" and get tested? I always engage in protected anal sex (and as the active partner), but as I mentioned in my last post sometimes during foreplay I practiced oral sex.

[Jeff G]

There have been no fewer than three separate serodiscordant couples studies (where one person is HIV positive, the other negative.) These couples were tracked for three. five and ten years. The couples used condoms for penetrative vaginal and anal sex, but NO BARRIER at all for oral sex. Any kind of oral sex. These studies yielded NO infections.

Sexually only unprotected anal and vaginal sex has been shown to be a risk for HIV with oral sex only a concern if you have significant open wounds in your mouth or throat . I don’t really have much more to add to this than the advice I provided above .