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Title: Straight Male had unprotected vaginal intercourse - Probably a hypochondriac
Post by: turtlechef on August 05, 2020, 04:44:08 pm
Hi,

I am a straight male who had vaginal intercourse ~4 weeks ago with a girl I had just met. Two weeks later I got the symptoms of either Gonorrhea/Chlamydia or a UTI (burning while peeing, pus on penis an diarrhea). I took antibodies and they cleared up within 2 days. I never had any other symptoms. The girl insists that she doesn't have any STIs but I am doubtful after that bout of symptoms. I am worried that she could potentially have HIV and the thought is giving me sleepless nights. I plan on getting a test in 2 weeks once I am 6 weeks out from the incident.... but how likely is it that I caught something? Mathematically I figured that there is probably a low chance she has HIV, and an even lower chance she'd pass it on even if she did... and none of my symptoms 2 weeks in really match the flu-like symptoms that 80% of people with HIV have. So the chance of me getting HIV and having no flu-like symptoms is extremely unlikely. Still, some reassurance would make me feel better or put me on alert for what to expect.
Title: Re: Straight Male had unprotected vaginal intercourse - Probably a hypochondriac
Post by: Jim Allen on August 05, 2020, 05:39:06 pm
Hiya,

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but how likely is it that I caught something? Mathematically I figured that there is probably a low chance she has HIV, and an even lower chance she'd pass it on even if she did

HIV is difficult to transmit and condomless intercourse has a 1-2% risk statistically speaking , although having said that vast majority 75+ million people living with HIV acquired HIV sexually and beat those odds on a single act with about 1.4-1.7 million new people being diagnosed yearly.

That 1-2% odds does not mean much to individual cases either as there are things we can't possibly know or factor in that could increase that risk, example if she had only recently acquired HIV it could increase the risk of transmission to you by a factor of 25X.
 
Anyhow your activity met all the biological conditions needed for acquiring HIV and so the only way to know your HIV status is by testing. 

Test at 6 weeks post-exposure with a blood-drawn HIV antibodies test, a negative result at that time will rarely ever change, although, you can test for a definite result at 3 months post-exposure if you wish.

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and none of my symptoms 2 weeks in really match the flu-like symptoms that 80% of people with HIV have.

The most common initial sysmtoms are none whatsoever or nothing noticible to the vast majority of people.

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  put me on alert for what to expect.

If this was your only exposure than the odds are in your favour in regards to HIV but only testing will confirm as it was a real world risk. Test to know your HIV status at the correct time, use a condom next time and live your life as normal in the meantime.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection going forward

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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Title: Re: Straight Male had unprotected vaginal intercourse - Probably a hypochondriac
Post by: turtlechef on September 30, 2020, 08:35:08 pm
Just as a really late update: Got tested, was negative. Thank you for the advice. Getting over my fear of the result of the test was probably the biggest issue I had. But I came to peace with the fact that I will still be happy regardless of the outcome. This experience was big for personal growth, and I'm definitely going to not have risky sex in the future. Thanks once again Jim!
Title: Re: Straight Male had unprotected vaginal intercourse - Probably a hypochondriac
Post by: Jim Allen on September 30, 2020, 09:30:43 pm
You're welcome and glad the result was negative.