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Title: Symptoms + Anxiety
Post by: Messed up on November 06, 2019, 12:16:48 pm
Help! I can't stop thinking about HIV.
I had heterosexual sex with a girl of unknown status, I did use a condom (I always use condoms). After ejaculating and withdrawing the condom, I saw blood inside the condom. I was confused. I checked my penis to see if I was bleeding, but there was no injury. I asked her if she was on her period, and she said yes. I became scared for my life because she is very sexually promiscuous. I was more confused as to how the period blood will penetrate an intact latex condom without even showing on the outside of the condom. It may sound unbelievable but I know what I saw and it freaked me out. Is it possible for period blood to penetrate an intact latex condom without even showing on the outside of the condom that came in contact with the blood? I didn't see any blood on the outside of the condom, rather it was inside, like it penetrated through the condom to come in contact with my urethra. 4 weeks after the supposed exposure (if it was), I had sore throat for 9 days and pain in one of my knees (my right leg) for 4 days. The symptoms scared the hell out of me. Do you think I was exposed? Should I be worried? I plan taking the test after 13 weeks, I'm just waiting for the window period to elapse before I get tested. I would appreciate a prompt response to my questions. Thanks for the wonderful job you're doing here.
Title: Re: Symptoms + Anxiety
Post by: Jim Allen on November 06, 2019, 12:49:38 pm
Hiya,

I read your post 3 times. I think you are freaking out because you saw some blood but it happens from time to time during sex, anyhow nothing you mentioned is a concern.

If this was your only sexual encounter then move on, continue to use condoms for intercourse and test out of standard routine for HIV & STI's at least yearly.

Title: Re: Symptoms + Anxiety
Post by: Messed up on November 06, 2019, 01:15:15 pm
Thanks for your prompt reply. You sound like I shouldn't be worried. Like seriously, what is my risk assessment? It's weird because I'm certain the condom did not break or leak, I checked it after intercourse. I just wonder how the blood got in. If the blood was just on the surface (outside) of the condom, I would know, won't I? The past two months have been hell for me, I just can't stop thinking about HIV. I hardly sleep at night since that day. I can't remember when I last had a sound 4 hours sleep at night.
Title: Re: Symptoms + Anxiety
Post by: Jim Allen on November 06, 2019, 01:22:29 pm
Hiya,

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Like seriously, what is my risk assessment?

Nothing you mentioned stood out as an HIV concern. If this was your only sexual encounter then move on, continue to use condoms for intercourse and test out of standard routine for HIV & STI's at least yearly

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider starting PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection going forward

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

More information on HIV Basics, PEP, TaSP and Transmission can be found through the links in my signature to our POZ pages, this includes information on HIV Testing (https://poz.com/basics/hiv-basics/hiv-testing)

Kind regards

Jim

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Title: Re: Symptoms + Anxiety
Post by: Messed up on November 06, 2019, 01:38:00 pm
Okay, thanks. I'll update you about my test result when I get tested after the window period (in few weeks time).
Title: Re: Symptoms + Anxiety
Post by: Jim Allen on November 06, 2019, 01:59:08 pm
That was your last free post and unless you have had other sexual contacts I already know the outcome.

Look, I understand that seeing blood during sex can be somewhat disconcerting, it has no bearing on transmission risk. HIV can not transmit through an intact condom, you mentioned you checked the condom and it was intact. Thing is when they do break during intercourse it obvious to the insertive partner, so no reason to doubt this.

Meaning either there was no blood on the inside just mistaken, some blood got on the inside after the intercourse, you had a very minor bleed it can happen, hard to notice or really unlikely i.e mythical event, some fluids crept out of her, down your shaft, then into the base and up inside the condom ... Anyhow take your pick because it does not matter as none of them would be HIV risks.

So my assessment is nothing you mentioned stood out as an HIV concern. If this was your only sexual encounter then move on, continue to use condoms for intercourse and test out of standard routine for HIV & STI's at least yearly