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Title: Major anxiety, please help:(
Post by: bagus123 on August 16, 2019, 01:47:44 am
Hi. Iím Dana from Indonesia. Im a male
I have some questions about my current anxiety.
So, about few months ago i have sexual encounter with other male. I never have a penetration before. So after we did foreplay, i was about to penetrate him. But i didnít do it because i was afraid and didnt wear protection. and he did blowjob for me twice and his mouth was clean. I didnít see any sore or blood.
Few weeks after that i have some foliculitis in my leg and thigh.

Since I have read a lot of question in thus forum and received a blowjob wasnít a route of transmission. Is there any sensation in the tip of your penis head when you did an anal penetration? since my penis is uncircumcised and itís sensitive when i get a boner. Because i almost did a penetration then i cancel it. And i dont feel anything in my penis. Whether itís wet or tight feeling. My anxiety keeps me questioning whether im penetrating or not. Because i donít feel anything and iíve been never penetrating to someone before. Thankyou. Pls help me:(
Title: Re: Major anxiety, please help:(
Post by: bagus123 on August 16, 2019, 01:49:15 am
oh and let me clarify it, i received a blowjob after i was about to penetrate then i cancel it because i was afraid. thankyou
Title: Re: Major anxiety, please help:(
Post by: Jim Allen on August 16, 2019, 02:35:06 am

Look sorry to hear that you are stressing but almost penetrating is not the same as penetrating. As you don't feel anything, I would say there is no reason to overthink this afterwards.

If you can't let the doubt of penetration go then by all means test for peace of mind.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider starting PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection going forward

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as Ďsafeí in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

More information on HIV Basics, PEP, TaSP and Transmission can be found through the links in my signature to our POZ pages, this includes information on HIV Testing (https://poz.com/basics/hiv-basics/hiv-testing)

Kind regards


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Title: Re: Major anxiety, please help:(
Post by: bagus123 on August 16, 2019, 03:19:09 am
hi Jim, thank you for your answer.
I didnít feel anything in my tip of the penis, and the when i pull back my penis because im afraid of penetrating i didnít feel anything either.
Is it safe to say that i didnít penetrate? because i would feel the sensation right?
thankyou Jim.
Title: Re: Major anxiety, please help:(
Post by: Jim Allen on August 16, 2019, 04:27:03 am

To me it sounds like nothing more than doubt & fears and no penetration took place.
I was not there however so if you have doubts test so you can put this fear behind you.

Otherwise move on with your life, use condoms for any intercourse and test at least yearly for STI's & HIV out of routine.