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Main Forums => Someone I Care About Has HIV => Topic started by: fred1985 on January 28, 2009, 01:58:27 pm

Title: what now?
Post by: fred1985 on January 28, 2009, 01:58:27 pm
Hello everyone,
As much as im looking for answers Im looking to take all of this questions and frustrations out of my head...
Last Saturday i found out that the guy that Ive been dating for the last 2 months is positive.
I found out via a friend, and i confronted  him with the fact he never told me and we ended up in a big big fight...
I said some very nasty stuff to him...not intentional,but we never really know how to deal with some stuff until they actually knock our own door....I would give everything to that that stuff i said back...but i just cant....

We still together,I love him...I hope he loves me,at least he says so...

My questions his...what now?how will our relation change?which risks to i take of dating and having regular sex with someone positive?

How can I help him?apparently hes living positive about 8 years,hes taking medication and hes doing great...although i have the feeling that he doesnt realy talk about the fact hes positive so easily...should i start the conversation or just respect hes decision of not talking about it?is that smart then?

I Like this guy way too much to stop this relation because of hiv,i do want to do the right thing,dont take any risks,and most important help my boyfriend in any way i can...

any answers to my questions?would be nice to hear any comments/stories/fears of other partners from hiv positives...also how does this afactes my sex life?can i still take 100 % pleasure and be safe?

Love peace and light...