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Title: Fingering
Post by: Mag2803 on April 21, 2024, 12:26:42 pm
Hi. Is fingering a risk of hiv. I have fingered some women really deep inside her vagina, i felt the cervix and kept going. The problem is in one of the exposure i had clipped my nails really short and then fingered her, the next day my fingers stings and when i applied pressure to the finger, tiny blood came out. I got scared that vaginal fluids might enter the cut that had blood.
- my proximal nail fold and side of the fingernails is not the good, there is scapes and nicks in the fingers. Is it safe that i fingered some womens deep in her cervix and with these small cut and the condition of my fingers. Why does it stings or hurt after fingering sometimes.
Secondly. I had brief protected sex with CSW. I think its was 3 minutes sex.i dont know if the condom broke or not. I developed tingling sensation in my penis thinking i got std. i start focus on it for months. Later after a year, i developed prostatitis (cpps) pain after ejaculation and slight discomfor after urinating. Im afraid it might be hiv related.
- i did frottage with a girl. She was on top me, placed my penis on my pubic area and went above it and started grinding for a minute. Is that a risk of hiv, im afraid my penis went in during frottage ( grinding) and I didnt know. She said it didnt went in, she just rubbed her clit on my dick to make her cum and before that i fingered her deeply.
Will i know for sure if my penis went in?
Please assest my risk. Thank you
Title: Re: Fingering
Post by: Jim Allen on April 21, 2024, 12:52:12 pm
Hiya,

I read your post three times.

The fingering & frottage wasn't an HIV risk to you and neither was the intercourse. HIV can't be transmitted through an intact latex, polyisoprene or polyurethane condom. Unless a condom obviously fails during intercourse, there is no reason to be stressing about HIV outside the standard yearly HIV screening.

Now, of course, you did have risks for far easier-to-transmit STIs but there is no need to panic, just get an STI screening yearly out of standard routine.

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Will i know for sure if my penis went in?

Yes.

Here's what you need to know to reduce your HIV risks:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse correctly and consistently, with no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of protection against HIV

Keep in mind that some sexual practices described as safe in terms of acquiring HIV still pose a risk for other easier-acquired STIs. So please do get tested at least yearly for STIs, including but not limited to HIV, and more frequently if condomless intercourse occurs.

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms; testing is the only way to know.

Kind regards

Jim

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Title: Re: Fingering
Post by: Mag2803 on April 21, 2024, 01:19:31 pm
So fingering with small cut really deep in her vagina for awhile until she cums is not a risk of hiv. Im sorry for the words.
Im afraid durinf frottage my penis went in without me knowing. This women is married and she has 3 children and the youngest is 4 years. She works as CSW for extra money, plus she works as cleaner in a hospital. Highly unlikely she got HIV but i dont know. I just afraid my penis went in when she was grinding on top of me.
Title: Re: Fingering
Post by: Jim Allen on April 21, 2024, 01:25:11 pm
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So fingering with small cut really deep in her vagina for awhile until she cums is not a risk of hiv. Im sorry for the words.
Im afraid durinf frottage my penis went in without me knowing.

Asked and answered already.

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This women is married and she has 3 children and the youngest is 4 years. She works as CSW for extra money, plus she works as cleaner in a hospital. Highly unlikely she got HIV but i dont know

PLHIV can have children, I have two of them myself and PLHIV can also work in hospitals. Totally meaningless.

Move on with your life.

As you are sexually active, use condoms for any intercourse, consider PrEP as an additional layer of HIV prevention and get an STI screening yearly. Also talk to your healthcare provider about vaccination against HPV, Hepatitis A & B.
Title: Re: Fingering
Post by: Mag2803 on April 21, 2024, 02:02:33 pm
Im sorry if i offended you.
Am i clear or no risk of hiv from all the activities i have done.
Fingering deep with a cut multiple times , heavy frottage grinding for a minute and protected vaginal sex.
And i will move on, i just want your last comment and thank you.
Title: Re: Fingering
Post by: Jim Allen on April 21, 2024, 02:07:19 pm
Asked and answered already.

You asked:

Hi. Is fingering a risk of hiv. I have fingered some women really deep inside her vagina, i felt the cervix and kept going. The problem is in one of the exposure i had clipped my nails really short and then fingered her, the next day my fingers stings and when i applied pressure to the finger, tiny blood came out. I got scared that vaginal fluids might enter the cut that had blood.
- my proximal nail fold and side of the fingernails is not the good, there is scapes and nicks in the fingers. Is it safe that i fingered some womens deep in her cervix and with these small cut and the condition of my fingers. Why does it stings or hurt after fingering sometimes.
Secondly. I had brief protected sex with CSW. I think its was 3 minutes sex.i dont know if the condom broke or not. I developed tingling sensation in my penis thinking i got std. i start focus on it for months. Later after a year, i developed prostatitis (cpps) pain after ejaculation and slight discomfor after urinating. Im afraid it might be hiv related.
- i did frottage with a girl. She was on top me, placed my penis on my pubic area and went above it and started grinding for a minute. Is that a risk of hiv, im afraid my penis went in during frottage ( grinding) and I didnt know. She said it didnt went in, she just rubbed her clit on my dick to make her cum and before that i fingered her deeply.
Will i know for sure if my penis went in?
Please assest my risk. Thank you

I answered:

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The fingering & frottage wasn't an HIV risk to you and neither was the intercourse. HIV can't be transmitted through an intact latex, polyisoprene or polyurethane condom.

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Will i know for sure if my penis went in?

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Yes.







Title: Re: Fingering
Post by: Mag2803 on April 22, 2024, 04:03:11 am
My bad getting back here. To my previous post. I couldn’t not post from my thread.
- After Protected sex, as i said i developed later prostatitis a year after the incident with swollen lymph nodes around the neck. I checked it out and the doctor says its too small but i can feel them. Is prostatitis related to HIV or STI?
- i don’t have to do hiv test from the exposures i have done?
- Am i safe of hiv from these exposures?
Title: Re: Fingering
Post by: Jim Allen on April 22, 2024, 04:27:51 am
Your post in the "Living with HIV" section has been removed.

You had no HIV risk from the activities you mentioned here, this has been explained to you, your left testicle and right arm could fall off but it has nothing to do with HIV from the activities mentioned here and we are not going to pretend otherwise as that would be a disservice to you and the wider community.

Please do not post about this again as I'll consider it excessive, it already is, so posting about this again will lead to a ban*

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Title: Re: Fingering
Post by: Mag2803 on April 22, 2024, 04:51:34 am
One last question and im moving on from this.
I got Prostatitis a year after protected sex. I didn’t check the condom becuase it had anxiety during the sex and i finished quickly and left. By having tingling and discomfort in my penis 2days after the sex.im afraid the condom broke without me knowing and i developed these symptoms and the prostatitis.
- Dry mouth and ulcers, swollen lymph nodes in the neck, Bloating and gassy with slight constipation, feeling fatigue and brain fog, recurrent sinusitis and headaches.
- you told me fingering is not a risk but what about if there is a cut and blood, what type of injuries will pose a risk?
It is just when i got the tingling sensation and discomfort in penis 2 days after sex and prostatitis ( painful after ejaculation that lasts awhile, dull pain or stinging after urination, just discomfort in my pelvic area) made me think that the condom might failed or broke.
Thank you again and my bad for excessive question.
Title: Re: Fingering
Post by: Jim Allen on April 22, 2024, 05:22:54 am
28-day ban for excessive posting over no HIV risk situations/activities.

These questions have all been asked and read three times before I answered that it wasn't an HIV risk to you and you were warned. Now, if after 28 days, you return with more of the same the ban will be longer.

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what type of injuries will pose a risk?

In theory something like if you got into a knife fight with her and were both needing urgent medical care, bleeding profusely into each other's wounds. However, that didn't happen, your situation was sexual contact not some fight to the death.

Also, you did not call an ambulance to attend to her vagina and in a moment of madness decide to cut your finger off whilst waiting and finger her with the blood stomp left on your hand to pass the time. My concern would be for her BTW in that scenario, not you and you would both have bigger problems than HIV to deal with.

What happened is you had a sore finger and fingered some lady, you also had sex with a condom and did some frottage, 2 days later you had a tingle in your cock. It's not an HIV risk and day-to-day scrapes, cuts etc are not an HIV route. 
Title: Re: Fingering
Post by: Ahm08 on May 13, 2024, 01:11:11 pm
Hi. First i want to thank you of what you and this forum done to people who was or were worrying about a exposure.
I fingered way too much womens deep inside the vagina. Some of the exposure i had a cut in my finger probably flesh cut after clipping my nails. It bled and even after fingering the next day my finger stings and when i applied pressure small blood came out. Now my fingers are not in good condition. I really dont take care of my fingers. I bite the skin near the nails. There is a gapping space between the side of my nails and fingers. There is alot of scrapes underneath my fingernails.
Every time i finger a CSW i get stinging pain in my fingers but no blood.
- what is the risk of fingering multiple womens probably around 20.
- i read air inactivates the HIV, but i fingered her deep inside till the cervix and rubbed the area without taking my finger out. So there is no air. With a fresh cut under my nails. Im afraid while my finger was inside and i let it there for awhile, the virus mite have entered throught that cut.
- as i said my finger are not in good condition and i still finger them. From all the websites i read fingering is a low risk if you have a fresh cut.
- is there target cell in the fingers where hiv attach to it like in the penis or the vagina and anus.
Title: Re: Fingering
Post by: Jim Allen on May 13, 2024, 01:22:50 pm
Hiya.

I read your post three times with care.

Nobody has acquired HIV through fingering, and you will not be the world's first, fingering lacks a route for you to acquire HIV and your sore, scraped and poorly maintained finger doesn't change that.

Move on with your life & please don't post about this again! Thank you.



Here's what you need to know to reduce your HIV risks:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse correctly and consistently, with no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of protection against HIV and get vaccinated against HPV, Hepatitis A & B.

Keep in mind that some sexual practices described as safe in terms of acquiring HIV still pose a risk for other easier-acquired STIs. So please do get tested at least yearly for STIs, including but not limited to HIV, and more frequently if condomless intercourse occurs.

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms; testing is the only way to know.

Kind regards

Jim

Please Note.
As a member of the "Do I have HIV" Forum, you are required to only post in this one thread no matter how long between visits or the subject matter. You can find this thread by going to your profile and selecting show own post, which will take you here. It helps us to help you when you keep all your thoughts or questions in one thread, and it helps other readers to follow the discussion. Any additional threads will be removed.
 






Title: Re: Fingering
Post by: Ahm08 on May 13, 2024, 03:51:16 pm
Hi.
- i had sex with african CSW. She supplied a condom and it was kinda tight but it worked. I had quick brief sex, 2-3 minutes. It was my first time having sex, anxiety came in and i just finished quickly removed the condom gave it to her, she checked it and throw it in the garbage. I left quickly. 2 days after i felt uncomfortable in my penis and frequent urination, this uncomfortable feeling lasted for awhile like 3 months. Then it went away. After a year it came back but lil worse. Prostatitis or cpps i guess.
- before the sex, we had frottage. She was on top. Grinding really hard, she told me to place my penis in pubic area and she sat on it rubbing hard for 1 minute. Seriously i have no idea if my penis went in. Really i dont have idea. She said it didnt go in.
- what is the risk of these activities i have done?
- i read that some people got infected even with a condom. How come? I thought condom sex is no risk.
Title: Re: Fingering
Post by: Jim Allen on May 13, 2024, 04:00:00 pm
Grinding and rubbing against each other isn't an HIV risk and as for intercourse, HIV can't be transmitted through an intact latex, polyisoprene or polyurethane condom. Unless a condom obviously fails during intercourse, there is no reason to be stressing about HIV or testing for HIV outside the standard yearly HIV screening.

In short: You had no HIV risk from the concerned encounter, move on with your life.

Please don't post about this again.
Title: Re: Fingering
Post by: Ahm08 on May 13, 2024, 04:07:56 pm
Hi.
- i had sex with african CSW. She supplied a condom and it was kinda tight but it worked. I had quick brief sex, 2-3 minutes. It was my first time having sex, anxiety came in and i just finished quickly removed the condom gave it to her, she checked it and throw it in the garbage. I left quickly. 2 days after i felt uncomfortable in my penis and frequent urination, this uncomfortable feeling lasted for awhile like 3 months. Then it went away. After a year it came back but lil worse. Prostatitis or cpps i guess.
- before the sex, we had frottage. She was on top. Grinding really hard, she told me to place my penis in pubic area and she sat on it rubbing hard for 1 minute. Seriously i have no idea if my penis went in. Really i dont have idea. She said it didnt go in.
- what is the risk of these activities i have done?
- i read that some people got infected even with a condom. How come? I thought condom sex is no risk.
Title: Re: Fingering
Post by: Jim Allen on May 13, 2024, 04:11:25 pm
Already asked and answered.

Using condoms correctly and consistently is key.

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HIV can't be transmitted through an intact latex, polyisoprene or polyurethane condom. Unless a condom obviously fails during intercourse, there is no reason to be stressing about HIV or testing for HIV outside the standard yearly HIV screening.

In short: You had no HIV risk from the concerned encounter, move on with your life.

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Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse correctly and consistently, with no exceptions.

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Keep in mind that some sexual practices described as safe in terms of acquiring HIV still pose a risk for other easier-acquired STIs.



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Please don't post about this again.

If you come back again with more about this it will result in a ban.
Title: Re: Fingering
Post by: Jim Allen on May 13, 2024, 04:43:17 pm
Your post from the "Living with HIV" forum section was removed and you have been issued a 28-day ban.