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Offline billyboy1992

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help me please
« on: May 03, 2014, 02:11:59 pm »
Hello I want to thank everyone in advance

the first week of febuary I went boozing with my friends and was being an idiot and had unprotected oral sex with 3 different people. I am 23 years old

first girl blew me for 5 seconds
second Guy blew me for 30 seconds
3rd female blew me for 30 seconds

I have been going crazy thinking about HIV. I tested for stds after the exposure but they were negative
I did NOT test for HIV.

I have swollen neck lymphs that are sore that come and go
I cant stop thinking about it I research stuff all day long about hiv and im freaking out having dreams about testing positive,
I don't know what to do

would it change the situation if 3 people gave me oral sex in one night, please help. I def learned a lesson that night!

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Re: help me please
« Reply #1 on: May 03, 2014, 02:37:10 pm »
Billy,

Oral sex is not a risk for HIV infection.

The risk factors for HIV are ...

Sharing IV drug needles immediately after use.
Unprotected anal and vaginal sex.
Mother to child during or shortly after birth.
Very specific healthcare situations.

Use condoms for vaginal and anal sex consistently and correctly and you will avoid HIV infection, it is that simple.

Joe

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Re: help me please
« Reply #2 on: May 03, 2014, 02:53:20 pm »
Thanks for the answer Joe, So no need for HIV testing?   

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Re: help me please
« Reply #3 on: May 03, 2014, 03:23:47 pm »
Thanks for the answer Joe, So no need for HIV testing?

No need of testing because you have not had a risk.

Joe

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Re: help me please
« Reply #4 on: May 03, 2014, 04:54:59 pm »
Thanks for the answer Joe, So no need for HIV testing?   

Joe is correct . There is no need to test over this specific incident .

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you did not have a risk and do not need to test for this specific incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!
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« Reply #5 on: May 03, 2014, 05:40:47 pm »
Thanks Joe and Jeff. greatly appreciated, I do have high anxiety,  what about my swollen lymphs? that has nothing to do with hiv then?

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« Reply #6 on: May 03, 2014, 06:13:39 pm »
Thanks Joe and Jeff. greatly appreciated, I do have high anxiety,  what about my swollen lymphs? that has nothing to do with hiv then?

Billy,

Your lymph nodes can swell for many reasons, but it has nothing to do with HIV, as you never had a risk.

Joe

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« Reply #7 on: May 05, 2014, 10:56:44 am »
Sorry to keep this going on guys,

Here's my story in more detail.

It was 90 days since my exposure with the 3 people in one night

like a day later my penis was burning so I waited like a week to see if it was going to stop, it didn't so I went to the doctor and got a check for stds. he prescribed me some meds and gave me a shot it all came back neg.

the burning went away about 4 days on the meds

6 weeks after the exposure I got really sick, upset stomach, no appetite, tingling sensations, no fever, dirriahha, just sick as a dog, it went away in about 2 weeks. I went to the doctor and had blood work done they said it was fine, while at the doctor I asked them if my exposure from receiving oral sex should I get tested and she said no, unless they bit half way through my penis.

i have been so stressed out, i cant even tell you guys how much i appricate what you guys do, before this ever happened i never even thought of "HIV" as anything, but now that its pretty much all i read about i have a whole new understanding about it,

Im freaking out,, do you guys think that i could possibly be the first person to get hiv from receiving a BJ, ??????  my neck is stiff i don't know if its my lymphs of not but the neck is sore, i feel like i have a lump in the middle of my throat, other doctors have also told me to just move on, what should i do? i feel like you guys are here to help everyone and wouldn't be telling me im in no risk if i was at one,


what do you think. sorry about this truly  :-\

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« Reply #8 on: May 05, 2014, 11:40:02 am »
Give it up Billyboy ... YOU did not have risk . If you are sick go see a doctor, we do risk assessments for HIV and never discuss symptoms or try to diagnose a person over the internet so go see a doctor . HIV is not your problem . If you cant accept the fact you did not have a risk then go test and put this behind you ... it will be negative .


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Re: help me please
« Reply #9 on: May 05, 2014, 11:44:52 am »
Thanks Jeff, Sorry about that, Have a good day

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Re: help me please
« Reply #10 on: May 20, 2014, 12:18:11 pm »
So if I didn't have HIV before this incident I don't have it due to this exposure listed above????

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« Reply #11 on: May 20, 2014, 12:24:47 pm »
So if I didn't have HIV before this incident I don't have it due to this exposure listed above????

Billy,

Which part of you never had a risk, do you not understand?  You did not have a risk, so stop asking the same question repeatedly, or you will be given a timeout.

Joe

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« Reply #12 on: May 21, 2014, 02:25:08 pm »
Hello, this will be my last post on this site, so if I get banned that's fine, im just trying to let this all sink in to my head about me not having a risk,

here is my question anyway and hopfully will get answered.
I currently have burning behind both joints of my knees and huge ulcer in my mouth, so you guys are telling me that all these symptoms have absoltly nothing to do with HIV??? do you think that anxity can fuel bodies and make people have symptoms?????

once again this will be my last post weather or not I get banned
thanks again , Billly

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« Reply #13 on: May 21, 2014, 02:55:57 pm »
Billy,

Why would your problems have anything to do with hiv when you DID NOT HAVE A RISK FOR HIV INFECTION???

You got your dick sucked. Get over it.

If you cannot believe us that you would be the very first person EVER in over 30 years of hiv to become infected through getting your dick sucked, go test, collect your negative result and get on with  your life.

If you feel unwell, go see a doctor. Whatever is going on has NOTHING to do with the blowjobs you got. And yes, anxiety can make you feel like crap, but so can a lot of other things. GO. SEE. A. DOCTOR. Nobody can diagnose you over the internet.

I'm giving you that time out you've been warned about. Do not attempt to create a new account to get around your time out because if you do, you will be permanently banned.

Ann

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