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Author Topic: Never get used to hate  (Read 4369 times)

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Offline hippo1010

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Never get used to hate
« on: September 17, 2018, 12:06:05 am »
Hello. I am fairly new to this forum, and I haven't posted much, but today I feel like I need to post/vent/get support.

Right now I am enjoying a nice vacation. Unfortunately, we made a bad choice of hotel, and it seems like I am in a very homophobic place. I am a gay man, and today is my wedding anniversary to my husband.

On our way out of the hotel, going out to have a nice romantic dinner, in the elevator some people started making fun of us and mocking us. It was a very uncomfortable situation. I didn't let that incident affect my nice romantic dinner (or so I tried). However, afterwards, I couldn't even sleep. I'm so upset and angry about that kind of crap still happening, and still affecting me so much. I've never been a hateful person. I don't get those stupid isms that so many people carry with themselves all the time, wasting so much of their lives hating and wanting the world to be the way they like it to be.

I'm still very upset. My husband has a better attitude (or tolerance) to this, and I normally deal with that kind of things with humor or by not paying attention. But this time it got to me. I am very, very angry. So much hate, so much ignorance, so much stupidity.

Anyway, I'm not sure how long I'm going to feel like this. I guess tomorrow will be another day. I hate hate.

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Re: Never get used to hate
« Reply #1 on: September 19, 2018, 09:53:12 am »
Happy anniversary  to you both.

I hope the small mindedness of the few did not ruin your vacation/anniversary

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Offline fabio

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Re: Never get used to hate
« Reply #2 on: September 20, 2018, 06:03:21 pm »
Happy anniversary!!!!!!
Don't pay attention to the people who don't have lives of.their own. Just live your life the way you like.
I live in a quite homophobic place. There was an incident at work. There was a gay couple on the water park (that's where I work,lol) and my co-workers were making fun of them and surprisingly I defended the couple and shut all of my co-workers mouths,cuz idiots,they be dumb haha.
Anyways,what I mean is,that you can block all the idiots that exist in the world by being you. Make them talk about you,because that's all they can do. There will be the occasional idiot everywhere,but there will be someone who.stands up too ;).

Offline harleymc

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Re: Never get used to hate
« Reply #3 on: September 23, 2018, 09:06:47 pm »
Happy anniversary

Don't spare too much energy for those people who were jealous of your loving relationship, they clearly are not experiencing enough love in their lives.

It is nasty to be on the end of those comments, but the moment passes.  The haters are living with hate and confusion in their minds, eating at them 24/7.

Sux to be them.

Offline hippo1010

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Re: Never get used to hate
« Reply #4 on: September 24, 2018, 12:07:03 am »
Thanks for your kind words. I guess my wedding anniversary romantic dinner was not meant to be. After the elevator incident, we went to an outdoor restaurant, and it started raining. The item I ordered in the menu wasn't available that night, so I ate something else and it didn't settle well. That night, instead of hugging my husband I spend time hugging the toilet throwing up. How romantic!

However, we had a redo the following day and it was everything I wanted it to be. We went to another restaurant, better service, better everything, and no homophobic idiots.

That night, for some reason the comments of that stupid woman got to me. Normally I am quite resilient, but that night I wasn't (that just makes me human). I am back home, back to my normal stronger self, and happy I enjoyed my vacation time with my husband. I guess that night was just not meant to be a good one. As they say where I grew up: "The best thing that God made was one day after another".

Thank you for your support. It's very much appreciated.


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