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Rubbing/Unusual Please Help
« on: January 08, 2022, 04:55:16 pm »
Hello,everyone and thanks for your help in advance.My situation was like this, I am a man uncircumcised who paid for a  woman sex worker in Mexico(I was alcohol influenced but conscious).We started off with protected vaginal penetration which lasted about max 1 minute,which I ejaculated in condom.Everything good no condom break or anything.I then took it off and foolishly tried like inserting my pennis on her but ofc since I was flaccid it basically just folded so no penetration there,it was basically just briefly pokes,so im not worried  about this.But here is where I am worried,she proceeded to massage/handjob me for like 15 minutes or so both naked.During that handjob massage this events that Im worried happen like 5 times about 40 seconds each,each in seperate times during those 15 minutes.The event was that,again caught up in the moment, I tried to basically continue to have “sex”.I put sex in quotations because no penetration happen,let me explain. The lady was in top position ,her soles resting in bed and tried to insert my pennis into vagina, by sitting on it,ofc since it was flaccid or semi erect cause I had already ejaculated minutes ago,my pennis didnt went in.It was basically like this,she guided pennis to vagina entry,and Basically just rubbed my pennis and pushed a little with her vagina,trying to make insertion but couldnt.To picture you how flaccid or semi erect it was,she was holding it with her hand and when in positioned,as she lowered her body to sit or insert it,my pennis just fell to the side or in my stomach as soon as it felt the pressure of her lowering her body.In which instances just ended with her sitting on top of my pennis squishing it lol(not in,but on top).After those instances she just proceeded handjob and eventually everything was over as my pennis was not getting fullly erection ,Luckily.Like I said the lady never grinded or bounce up and down on pennis, making me sure that penetration never occured.My questions are
-risk of bare pennis head(urethra)being rubbed by vagina ,Ig near vagina entry or inner lips,since thats what happened(Liked mention above).
-Can a handob produced micro cuts(I had no visible)
-And is it possible for her to maybe had actually inserted a few centimeters of my pennis by just guiding it to the entry and push a little?(which i dont think so ,as I mention before as she position my pennis and tried inserting ,pennis went to the side)but just worst case scenario.
-Is it even possible for a flaccid semi erect pennis to be inserted?
Other details:no blood,no visible vagina fluids(since she was definitely not aroused),I dont have previous sti, no deep or prolonged frottage of parts(just that rubbing that I described during handjob,next few hours I just feel like urinating alot but no pain Im guessing because its my first time and because of the handjob,or I also read because semen could still be stuck in pennis. Thank you for everything and sorry ,I just tried to get in detail.


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Re: Rubbing/Unusual Please Help
« Reply #1 on: January 08, 2022, 05:13:58 pm »
Hiya,

Receiving a handjob, contact with fluids exposed to the environment outside the confines of the human body and rubbing against her isn't an HIV risk.

As for intercourse, HIV can't transmit through an intact latex or polyurethane condom. If a condom fails during the act of intercourse it's obvious. There is no reason to be stressing or testing for HIV outside of the standard yearly routine as long as this obvious issue did not happen.

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-risk of bare pennis head(urethra)being rubbed by vagina ,Ig near vagina entry or inner lips,since thats what happened(Liked mention above).

Not an HIV risk to you.

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-Can a handob produced micro cuts(I had no visible)

Irrelevant

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-And is it possible for her to maybe had actually inserted a few centimeters of my pennis by just guiding it to the entry and push a little?(which i dont think so ,as I mention before as she position my pennis and tried inserting ,pennis went to the side)but just worst case scenario.
-Is it even possible for a flaccid semi erect pennis to be inserted?

Look you need to tell me if you penetrated her or not? I'm not going to get into what is possible or not, just be honest about what happened and ill give you an assessment based on that. So if you put your penis inside her without a condom and yes, you would know about it, then now is the time to speak up.

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Other details:no blood,no visible vagina fluids(since she was definitely not aroused),I dont have previous sti, no deep or prolonged frottage of parts(just that rubbing that I described during handjob,next few hours I just feel like urinating alot but no pain Im guessing because its my first time and because of the handjob,or I also read because semen could still be stuck in pennis.

Irrelevant

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse correctly and consistently, every time, with no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about taking PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection

Keep in mind that some sexual practices described as 'safe' in terms of HIV might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please get tested at least yearly for STI's, including but not limited to HIV. Test more frequently if any condomless intercourse occurs.

Note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and, the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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Re: Rubbing/Unusual Please Help
« Reply #2 on: January 08, 2022, 05:47:41 pm »
For that 1 minute intercourse I used condom and im sure it did not break or anything.But after that when I was laying down ,her on top by thighs , we were naked ,i had no protection.As mention before I had already ejaculated in condom,so my pennis was kind of flaccid and Idk what went through my mind that after handjob for couple minutes,penetration was tried but it never did penetrate, thankfully.Since as she position my pennis head with her vaginal entry and as she tried to basically sit down or insert my pennis in,it  will just,go side ways or ended up being squished by her since it will just go side ways and will just land on me,because i was kind of flaccid.So no penetration never occured after various attempts,if not I will of known like you said and im sure.But my main concern is how she basically grabbed my bare pennis head exposing it to the urethra near vaginal entrance,and basically rubbed and kind of push towards her various times attempting penetration. Thats my worry since the rubbing might of been by the vaginal entry,and my pennis could of been exposed for various seconds a couple of times.Thanks ,I hope you could understand what I meant

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Re: Rubbing/Unusual Please Help
« Reply #3 on: January 08, 2022, 05:50:14 pm »
So no penetration never occured after various attempts,if not I will of known like you said and im sure.But my main concern is how she basically grabbed my bare pennis head exposing it to the urethra near vaginal entrance,and basically rubbed and kind of push towards her various times attempting penetration. Thats my worry since the rubbing might of been by the vaginal entry,and my pennis could of been exposed for various seconds a couple of times.Thanks ,I hope you could understand what I meant

There is no HIV risk without penetration.

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Re: Rubbing/Unusual Please Help
« Reply #4 on: January 08, 2022, 06:13:13 pm »
Thank you so much! Glad i had those doubts cleared out!

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Re: Rubbing/Unusual Please Help
« Reply #5 on: January 09, 2022, 09:15:11 am »
You're welcome
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