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Offline patrick56

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Received oral sex - confused
« on: January 01, 2022, 10:25:29 am »
Hi, I received a blowjob for a confirmed HIV positive girl.
On the internet, there are too many opinions. Some say there's no risk and others say the risk is low. I'm confused and don't know what to believe.

For an hypochondriac like me I would appreciate it if someone could explain to me why it is not a risk because I'm seeing mixed opinions. Isn't the glans penis a mucus membrane? How can there be no risk if it's in someone else's mouth?

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Re: Received oral sex - confused
« Reply #1 on: January 01, 2022, 12:32:45 pm »
Look, I can't help you with what you read online. I see the stuff said at times, and many people are paranoid or hold onto outdated information/beliefs or contextless theories.

If you read long enough online, you will even find even healthcare providers who think using the same utensils or day to day contact could give you HIV when we have to know for decades this isn't true and meets none of the biological or environmental conditions needed, they can't justify their thoughts.

Still, it does not stop them from spreading and publishing their rubbish. I've even met some that think shaking hands was an HIV risk... :o

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why it is not a risk

It's not an HIV risk as it lacks the basic conditions and exposure to viable HIV  needed that are required for you to acquire HIV.

Thus it makes sense that after nearly 40 years of this pandemic in terms of BJ's, there hasn't been a single documented case of HIV transmission to an insertive partner (the person being "sucked"), and you will not be the world's first.

Now theoretically, if she has blood pissing from her mouth, as in requiring urgent medical care, like from being stabbed in the mouth or beaten to a bloody pulp, then there might be a theoretical HIV risk, however:

A: This did not happen.
B: Even if it had, I would still tell you to move on with your life from an HIV point of view.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about taking PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection

Keep in mind that some sexual practices described as 'safe' in terms of HIV might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get tested regularly and at least yearly for STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and, the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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Re: Received oral sex - confused
« Reply #2 on: January 01, 2022, 12:34:49 pm »
P.S:

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For an hypochondriac like me

I wish you well but if you can't move past this fear please consider talking to your therapist.

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Re: Received oral sex - confused
« Reply #3 on: January 09, 2022, 06:22:39 pm »
Thanks Jim.
But why would the CDC state that the risk for insertive oral is 1 in 20000 if it's zero?

I forgot to mention that I fingered her and touched my penis with the same fingers

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Re: Received oral sex - confused
« Reply #4 on: January 09, 2022, 06:28:47 pm »
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I forgot to mention that I fingered her and touched my penis with the same fingers

Not an HIV risk.

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But why would the CDC state that the risk for insertive oral is 1 in 20000 if it's zero?

I have no idea why, you can ask them why if you like.

I can't police them, it's not a new issue with them as we have threads going back 12+ years of admin & forum discussions on why the CDC insist on holding onto outdated modes of transmission like kissing, receiving oral etc or totally theoretical risks without context that have never been documented.

As explained, your concern lacks all the basic conditions needed for acquiring HIV and thus it makes sense that in 40 years, there hasn't been a single documented case of HIV transmission to an insertive partner (the person being "sucked"), and you will not be the world's first.

Anyhow, I wish you well but move on with your life.

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Re: Received oral sex - confused
« Reply #5 on: January 10, 2022, 04:57:13 am »
Conservative information out there makes a lot of us scared after such an exposure. And constant "what ifs" make it worse.

I searched through the forum and couldn't find anything such happening neither.
I think my anxiety is causing more trouble, constant muscle twiches makes it more panicking.

It's a hard pill to swallow but I'll believe you, the expert: getting my penis sucked is not a risk for HIV and try moving on with my life.

Thank you Jim.

 


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