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Title: Are my fears warranted !?
Post by: Hotmess21 on December 23, 2021, 10:52:51 pm
Hello, forgive me if this is not the appropriate place but I am crippled with anxiety and stress convincing myself that I am positive. 11/9 I had protected anal sex with a trans sex worker, I was the top. The act lasted only a couple minutes as I wasnít in to it and started to go soft. Condom seemed intact. Only thing that was unprotected was oral and that was brief as well. Two weeks later I developed a stubborn sore throat that lasted about a week that went away on its own with no other symptoms. Two weeks ago in December I started having mild urethra irritation and burning sensation while peeing. Figured it was just an UTI until I developed slight abdominal pain and had discharge one morning. It was last Sunday 12/19 I immediately went through tele health and was prescribed antibiotics for clamydia/gonorrea. Symptoms have generally gone away for the most part and I have a couple more days of doxyclyine. Still have abdominal pain and groin discomfort but most likely side effects of the doxy. I have not had a test for the STI so it could it still be anything else but I have convinced myself I am infected. What has me petrified is that I used a condom and still caught an STI and it has me worried that being hiv positive is inevitable even though I have never had anal sex unpprotexted. It has crippled me with anxiety and it has me thinking of what Iím going to tell my children and family
Title: Re: Are my fears warranted !?
Post by: Jim Allen on December 24, 2021, 02:20:49 am
Hiya,

Read your post three times, and it sounds like you thought this was "safe sex" well, there is no such thing, and ill try to address this as it means there is a good chance you have unknowingly been taking risks in your past.

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What has me petrified is that I used a condom and still caught an STI

Well, regarding condoms, HIV can't transmit through an intact latex or polyurethane condom. However, Condoms can break during intercourse, though as long as this obvious issue does not happen, there is no need to stress about HIV or test outside of the standard yearly routine.
 
Condoms can also reduce the risks of STI's. However, the levels of protection for various STI's depends significantly on differences in how the diseases or infections are transmitted. Some infections (Not HIV) are transmitted primarily by skin-to-skin contact or viral shredding ect which may infect areas not covered by a condom, such as genital herpes, human papillomavirus [HPV], etc.

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Only thing that was unprotected was oral and that was brief as well.

That's an STI risk, there are plenty of STI's that can be passed on both during receiving or giving oral sex.

Now as for HIV well, receiving oral sex lacks the conditions required for acquiring HIV, thus it makes sense that after nearly 40 years of this pandemic, there hasn't been a single documented case of HIV transmission to an insertive partner (the person being "sucked"), and you will not be the worlds first.

When talking about giving oral sex, well giving a blowjob, the good thing is the mouth generally lacks a route for HIV to infect, and saliva also acts to neutralize HIV by damaging the receptors needed to infect human cells. It's such a minute HIV risk that we don't even recommend testing outside of standard yearly routine screening.

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what I'm going to tell my children and family

There is no need to tell them anything unless one of the family members is also your sexual partner?

If you do have a sexual partner, then keep in mind if you engage in condomless intercourse with your partner you are obviously at risk of acquiring HIV. Often within relationships, condomless sex is based on trust or past test results, however, this does not prevent HIV, and any condomless intercourse is accepting the greater risk of acquiring HIV.

Test more frequently for HIV & STI's if you do engage in any condomless intercourse.

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I have not had a test for the STI so it could it still be anything else

Yup. Could just be a routine common infection.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse correctly and consistently, every time, with no exceptions. Consider talking to your health care provider about taking PrEP going forward as an additional layer of HIV protection.

Keep in mind that some sexual practices described as 'safe' in terms of HIV might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get tested regularly and at least yearly for STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if condomless intercourse occurs.

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and, the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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Title: Re: Are my fears warranted !?
Post by: Hotmess21 on December 25, 2021, 05:19:50 am
Thank you for taking the time to reply. I appreciate it
Title: Re: Are my fears warranted !?
Post by: Jim Allen on December 25, 2021, 05:21:30 am
You're welcome