21yr Female Risk of HIV infection single risk exposure from condom failure Help!

[swingingcpl24]

Hi,
First let me say that i am a 21 yr old hetero female in a monogomous relationship for 6 years before our first swap last week. I know that one time can infect you if ur partner is HIV + and am going to be tested at 6 weeks no matter what. I was with a 33 year old white male hetero swinger who ejaculated prematurely and continued to have vaginal intercourse with me for 10 minutes after until his condom fell off inside of me....the condom was removed carefully but i know I most likely was exposed to his semen although there was really nothing in me.

questions

What are the chances of infection of an encounter like I have described if he was HIV +?

Does it matter how much physical semen you are exposted to?

If the guy has a vasectomy does that lower the risk at all?

[Ann]

swing,

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I apologise that your original post was missed - it happens from time to time due to the high volume of traffic in this forum.

It sounds to me like the condom was lost upon withdrawal - and that is nothing to worry about in terms of hiv transmission.

However, as you were there and we were not, if you have any doubt about the matter, then you would be wise to test. The vast majority of people who have actually been infected will seroconvert and test positive by six weeks, but a six week test must be confirmed at the three month point.

If the guy was hiv positive and you had unprotected intercourse, you would have had a high risk. Under the circumstances you describe, it doesn't sound as though he came directly in you and this situation is very low risk, if not no risk. You see, hiv can only infect a very few, specific cells. These cells are found deep inside the vagina on your cervix, but not in your outer genitalia.

A vasectomy has nothing to do with hiv.

You can continue to pursue your swinging lifestyle - and here are some pointers to help you along the way.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex with a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms correctly and with confidence. What you describe was not proper condom usage as the man should withdraw after cumming, before he loses his erection. You may also want to check out the information on the female condom - it won't slip off if the guy loses his hard-on.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

I really do fully expect you to come out of this absolutely A-OK.

Ann

[swingingcpl24]

Thanks a lot for your helpful and knowledgable response, I am going to test no matter what...And in the future I have to be more careful choosing people who know how to act responsibly with reference to safe sex...This was very scary....I have read somewhere that the mathematical chance fo infection is 1-1000 for a female even with a hiv + partner....is this true?...Is it true going down on a girl is almost no risk?.. I have been reading DR HHH's forum, would you consider that reputable information?


Thanks again

[Ann]

Swing,

I cannot comment on the other forum. I don't read other forums for my information, I go directly to the first-tier, peer-review studies on hiv transmission. That and my own personal experiences of real life and being hiv positive.

We don't go by those one-in-whatever-number chances here on THIS website - those numbers were pretty much plucked out of thin air and the study the numbers came from was discredited. However, the information still exists on the internet. Doesn't make it right.

Going down on a woman is NOT a risk for hiv infection - going down on a girl is a risk for jail time. (you can read this post for a detailed explanation on cunnilingus, but do NOT post in that forum - it's for positive women ONLY)

And PLEASE, take responsibility for your own sexual health. It's usually pretty obvious when a guy has cum or when he loses his erection - make him pull out when you sense this has happened. If you happen to be wrong, he can resume, no harm done. But if you're right, then you've saved yourself the scare of having the condom come off when he withdraws flaccid. It never hurts to reach down periodically to check the condom is still in place. You can always pretend you're fondling his nuts.

And make sure you read through the condom and lube links I mentioned to you in my previous post.

Ann