Please.

[Jennie]

What you guys do is truly precious. I understand that a version of my question has been answered a million times before but I feel my story is different enough to want to ask anyway.

I am going insane with worry (frankly it is probably made worse by my anxiety and ever present low level depression) over something that happened last week.

In my country I can't get a test for HIV before three months pass.

I had a one night stand (not proud, not ashamed) and he entered me without a condom on. Just once, right at the beginning. He literally entered and exited once (he came much, much later with manual stimulation). It lasted (the entering and exiting) less than thirty seconds. I wasn't very wet but it wasn't painful and if there was any tearing I didn't feel it or see it neither in me nor on him (though I understand it could be not-detectable by the naked eye).
This said, the number of HIV positive heterosexual males in my country is <0,01% of the population. The estimated total amount of HIV positive individuals is <0,1%.

I can't sleep and go to the loo to cry at work. I can't stop asking the internet to tell me and of course it says what I know: there is "a" chance I might have caught it.

I know this was stupid but believe me, you can't possibly think worse of me than I already do.

I guess my question is: is this so unlikely as to near impossible or is my worry reasonable?

I will of course get tested for HIV the minute the three months are up and for all STDs out there to catch next week.

Thank you so much.

[Jennie]

Will someone -anyone- please say something?

[jkinatl2]

Jennie, please understand that this forum is staffed by volunteers. Unlike a chat room, your questions might take a few hours, even a day, to be addressed.

While you did indeed have a risk, it was on the lower end of the scale. Since your partner did not ejaculate, and since he literally entered one time, your likelihood of getting HIV is slim. Not zero, but slim.

Sadly, all you can do now is bide your time until you are allowed to test in three months.

[Jennie]

I apologize for how I came across. Thank you for answering.

[Jennie]

(I am just going mental over this.)

[Andy Velez]

Jennie, as you have already been told, the details of your experience indicate it was a relatively low level risk that you had. It's not clear when exactly it happened.

You can test initially at 6 weeks after the event. If you get a negative at 6 weeks then the strong likelihood is that you will continue to test negative at 3 months for a conclusive result.

Good luck and keep us posted.

[Jennie]

Thank you Andy. It was only last week. I think I will wait the full three months since I'd rather the answer be as definitive and accurate as possible.
The psychological strain is close to unbearable and I don't think I could take a "likely" answer well, it would make it worse.
A great component of this strain is self-flaggelation and I can't seem to calm it down. You however have helped more than I can tell you and I thank you for it.
I will keep you posted though it might be a while if I do end up waiting the whole three months.
Thanks again.
Jennie