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Offline Lis

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Moffie passed away...
« on: June 21, 2010, 10:04:03 pm »
Bob just contacted me and said that Tim passed 6-14-2010 around 1am of internal bleeding..

If you would like to contact Bob please PM me for the number..

I am still in SHOCK..... Matty, bob wanted to make sure that you knew.. and go this info..


God Bless ....
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Offline Miss Philicia

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Re: Moffie passed away...
« Reply #1 on: June 21, 2010, 10:05:27 pm »
This is just tragic and out of nowhere.  I don't know what to say.  My thoughts are with his partner and family, and those of us here who knew Tim.
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Offline RapidRod

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Re: Moffie passed away...
« Reply #2 on: June 21, 2010, 10:10:53 pm »
Shock is an understatement. LIS, please send Bob my condolences.

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Re: Moffie passed away...
« Reply #3 on: June 21, 2010, 10:13:02 pm »


   I am in total shock right now.  This is just hard to believe.  There was only one Moffie and it won't be the same without him.  This is just sad.. so very sad.
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Re: Moffie passed away...
« Reply #4 on: June 21, 2010, 10:13:31 pm »
Wow - even though i have only been on here a short time, Moffie's words and experience were always direct and focused on promoting understanding and compassion.  He will be missed.  My condolences to his family (both online and off line)
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Offline Rev. Moon

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Re: Moffie passed away...
« Reply #5 on: June 21, 2010, 10:16:14 pm »
Oh my God. No, no, no  :'(

This is indeed too sad and unexpected.  My thoughts are with his loved ones (and the members of our AM circle who will forever miss him);  he is (I just can't say was) such an integral part of this community.
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Re: Moffie passed away...
« Reply #6 on: June 21, 2010, 10:17:10 pm »
Bob just contacted me and said that Tim passed 6-14-2010 around 1am of internal bleeding..

If you would like to contact Bob please PM me for the number..

I am still in SHOCK..... Matty, bob wanted to make sure that you knew.. and go this info..


God Bless ....

Thanks Lisbeth.

I have no words right now. The shock is overwhelming. I feel ill.

MtD

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Re: Moffie passed away...
« Reply #7 on: June 21, 2010, 10:50:35 pm »
Jesus Fuckin Christ...this is unbelievable.

My thoughts are with his family and partner.

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Offline northernguy

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Re: Moffie passed away...
« Reply #8 on: June 21, 2010, 10:54:15 pm »
:'( I'm in shock.  Tim was generous sharing his experiences with HIV and wasn't afraid to be blunt about the challenges that came with it.  RIP, I hope he's cruising in one his classic cars somewhere.

My condolences to his partner.
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Offline Matty the Damned

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Re: Moffie passed away...
« Reply #9 on: June 21, 2010, 10:56:05 pm »
I think it's appropriate to consider Daddy Tim's last post in this place:

Quote
Joe,

Thanks for this thread, I guess.  Sometimes when I think back, it makes me sad, and then other times it makes me happy.  When HIV is thrown into the mix, it is almost always thoughts of devastation.  I remember visiting friends living in their cars, under the freeway with thier pets, simply because landlords had the ability to still evict, due to HIV.  The utter hopelessness, and sorrow was too much for any of us "normal" humans to witness, but we did, and we somehow survived that desperate time.

I have burried about 210 people to this disease currently, and it never gets any easier to say goodbye, so now I just say I'll see you soon enough.  There is certainly a void, and there is little to fill that void anymore.

Em, No, to my knowledge this type of film has never been made, but for sure, it would be awakening if done well and with the right amount of truth about the past.  Truth after all is the only thing that makes for a quality product anymore. 

(link)

He posted that on June 12. A little look through his recent posting history suggests he was quite ill at the time.

Of course my most heartfelt condolences go out to his beloved partner Bob.

Vale Daddy. Matty the Damned loves you and will never forget you. :'(

MtD
(Who is consumed with grief)

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Re: Moffie passed away...
« Reply #10 on: June 21, 2010, 10:58:06 pm »
What sad news  :'(
I have burried about 210 people to this disease currently, and it never gets any easier to say goodbye, so now I just say I'll see you soon enough.  There is certainly a void, and there is little to fill that void anymore.
and now there's another void left in OUR lives.
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Re: Moffie passed away...
« Reply #11 on: June 21, 2010, 11:12:04 pm »
Please give my condolences to Bob. I have no words to describe how I feel right now... none at all.

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Re: Moffie passed away...
« Reply #12 on: June 21, 2010, 11:16:04 pm »
He knew... he would look at you and tell your story even before you said Hello..... and he knew himself  just as well...


LOVE U TIM
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Re: Moffie passed away...
« Reply #13 on: June 21, 2010, 11:28:06 pm »
How terrible to hear this news.  My thoughts are with his loved ones.

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« Reply #14 on: June 21, 2010, 11:42:34 pm »
Oh my god. I've only been here but a short while as well, and that was a blow, even for me.



Wow.
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Offline anniebc

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Re: Moffie passed away...
« Reply #15 on: June 21, 2010, 11:52:00 pm »
No words ..just tears for a much loved friend, I will miss you Tim more than words cold ever say.

In sadness
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Offline Rasheen

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Re: Moffie passed away...
« Reply #16 on: June 21, 2010, 11:52:15 pm »
I know it has been a long time since I have posted on here. I apologize for that. I care for a lot of you guys here and think of you everyday. I just found out about Tim and I am overwhelmed with sadness right now. Tim was rhe first person to offer words of wisdom when I didn't know where to turn five years ago. I will never forget you Tim. Thank you for everything. =((

Offline emeraldize

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Re: Moffie passed away...
« Reply #17 on: June 21, 2010, 11:55:03 pm »
So glad I got to meet Tim in Montreal---he really enjoyed and supported women. Powerful, opined, uplifting, creative, funny, worldly, wise and a mentor at heart...he wanted to share every lick of information he could. I am sorry to read this news, sorry for Bob's loss and our community's loss.

Offline aztecan

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Re: Moffie passed away...
« Reply #18 on: June 21, 2010, 11:59:24 pm »
Oh, I have no words.

I am in shock.

His spirit will live on with me. I will miss Tim very much.

I am hugging him in spirit now.

Mark  :'(
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Re: Moffie passed away...
« Reply #19 on: June 22, 2010, 12:21:32 am »
goddamnit.

moffie, you will be missed. my condolences to your friends family. thank you for your insight and wit, they helped make this into another place i call home.

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Offline OzPaul

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Re: Moffie passed away...
« Reply #20 on: June 22, 2010, 12:49:14 am »
I am so shocked by this very sad news. My condolences to his partner and family. May he rest in Peace. I will miss his wisdom and humor.

Paul

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Re: Moffie passed away...
« Reply #21 on: June 22, 2010, 01:11:00 am »
Tim could get all riled up sometimes but that was part of his charm. He was at heart a sweet and generous man.

He mentioned dying in one of his recent posts:

Unfortunately also, the HIV war is now on the back burner for both congress, and the White house here in the U.S.  Oh well, I hope everyone that is HIV+ has known of this mess in the United States for a while has loads of money, because these meds cost a fortune, and I can't afford them, but I'm 63 and have had a really good life, so if I die now, so be it.  

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http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=32597.msg400573#msg400573
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« Reply #22 on: June 22, 2010, 01:34:14 am »
He will be missed . I am in shock .
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Re: Moffie passed away...
« Reply #23 on: June 22, 2010, 02:40:08 am »
This is so very sad.  My thoughts are with his family.  I feel really bad that my last interaction with him was a disagreement about my post about the porn actor who died from a fall.  He didn't like it and felt I was being immature---and, maybe he was right.  I had no idea he was ill.  It seems that is what people liked about him, though.  He spoke his mind.  I especially liked his tag line about the Bible.  I've taken that and used it in debates.     

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« Reply #24 on: June 22, 2010, 04:06:06 am »
I cannot even process this tragic news now... :'( :'( :'(

Daddy Tim was kind to me and everyone. Even sometimes people thought his words were harsh, for those who love him always knew he said what he said because he cared.

Sigh... I don't know what more to say.. I will miss him and wish his partner and family well.
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« Reply #25 on: June 22, 2010, 04:14:45 am »
Totally saddened and shocked to read about Tim's passing.

An absolute tragedy to have lost such a formidable fighter.

He will never be forgotten.

My sincere condolences to his partner and family, as well as those here who loved him so much.

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« Reply #26 on: June 22, 2010, 04:26:02 am »
Damn it to hell.  I'm just now reading this, after getting a pm from Matty, and I simply cannot believe it.  Daddy Tim will be missed horribly by me, besides those here.  I loved his words of wisdom, his caring, and his wit.  My condolences to Bob.  Don't know what else to say. :'( :'(
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Re: Moffie passed away...
« Reply #27 on: June 22, 2010, 04:30:32 am »
I just burst into tears after reading this...one of the most educated, kindest, honest man has left us. 

Tim, I will miss you :(


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« Reply #28 on: June 22, 2010, 05:34:22 am »
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So it is, and so it will be, for so it has been, time out of mind:
Into the darkness they go, the wise and the lovely. Crowned
With lilies and with laurel they go; but I am not resigned.

Lovers and thinkers, into the earth with you.
Be one with the dull, the indiscriminate dust.
A fragment of what you felt, of what you knew,
A formula, a phrase remains, --- but the best is lost.

The answers quick & keen, the honest look, the laughter, the love,
They are gone. They have gone to feed the roses. Elegant and curled
Is the blossom. Fragrant is the blossom. I know. But I do not approve.
More precious was the light in your eyes than all the roses in the world.

Down, down, down into the darkness of the grave
Gently they go, the beautiful, the tender, the kind;
Quietly they go, the intelligent, the witty, the brave.
I know. But I do not approve. And I am not resigned.

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« Reply #29 on: June 22, 2010, 06:05:01 am »
Since coming on here i've always respected Tims posts, and I will miss him greatly. Even in his passing he's taught me another lesson, that i've come to think of eveyone on here as family.

Lis, please give Bob my condolences

 :'( :'( :'(

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« Reply #30 on: June 22, 2010, 06:57:02 am »
This is very sad news. Rest in peace, Tim. You've done your run.

My condolences to Bob and to all here for the loss of a special member.
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« Reply #31 on: June 22, 2010, 07:41:49 am »


This is just so tragic and I am  deeply saddened.  I would call Tim on occasion, he gave me advice about the VA.  I am so hurt,  Rest in Peace dear Tim. A very sad day  :'(   He will be sadly missed, my condolences go out to Bob.


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« Reply #32 on: June 22, 2010, 07:50:15 am »
Shocking and oh, so sad.  A big hole has been left.

My condolences to Bob and the rest of Tim's family. 

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« Reply #33 on: June 22, 2010, 07:56:40 am »
Tim was one of the first that I met on here some 5 years ago, and throughout the years I came to respect him even more.  He will be truly missed.  My condolences to his partner, his family, and his online family here.  Rest in peace Tim

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« Reply #34 on: June 22, 2010, 07:57:28 am »


Rest in peace Tim. 


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Offline edfu

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« Reply #35 on: June 22, 2010, 08:21:41 am »
I'm completely devastated by this horrible news.  Tim was one of the oldest veterans of this viral (and political) war and had much knowledge and wisdom to impart and almost thirty years of experience in the trenches to share.  Many did not want to listen, which is another tragedy.  His kindness and willingness to help were overwhelming. 

I'm doubly grieved by the knowledge that he had recently become pessimistic about our struggle.  This is now particularly painful.  In one of his last posts, on June 9, in response to one of my ADAP funding posts, he wrote:

"I am not as hopeful or positive as I have been in the past, because really, nobody really cares anymore, and they are tired of the HIV pandemic, which in their minds will go away if they just ignore it.  I guess we'll see how this thread goes, but I would be surprised if it got anyone who is a member here pissed off enough to really do anything about it but complain more and more."   

In Tim's memory, please do some small something about it. 

Requiescat in pace, dearest Moffie.   
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« Reply #36 on: June 22, 2010, 08:22:04 am »
I am stunned. This is definitely going to take some time to process -- I'm sure many of us who have known Tim for as long as we have are feeling this way.

For more than four years, Moffie was a tremendous personality in these forums. While many members here -- moderators notwithstanding -- found themselves on the receiving end of Tim's "passion," his frustration and let-me-tell-you-something communication approach came from a place of intense love and deep-seated concern for his HIV-positive and at-risk peers.  Moffie was a long-term survivor of this dreaded viral disease -- all he ever wanted, for the rest of us, was the same... preferably a life without first-hand knowledge of the often sugar-coated realities of the disease.

Tim's love of life--including Bob, his friends, his cars, his motorcycle, his travels and his work--cannot possibly be tabulated. This is evident in his many forums posts and certainly wasn't lost on those of us who were fortunate to have a relationship with him away from these pages. I, for one, will miss our infrequent-yet-robust communications via e-mail and phone.

Moffie certainly taught me a thing or two about a thing or two -- I'm sure many of us can say the same. It's certainly going to take some time to fully comprehend that we've all lost someone incredibly special. Very said.

Tim  

  


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Re: Moffie passed away...
« Reply #37 on: June 22, 2010, 09:27:18 am »
I've been somewhat absent from the forums lately, and this is the first post I read upon returning.  This is a real shock.  I guess, to me, he was such a fighter that I thought he'd be around for a lot longer, if not indefinitely. 

Tim was part of that group of members here that offered support, advice, etc to me when I first joined 4.5 years ago.  We met Tim in Montreal... what a character!  We've butted heads a few times online, but that did not diminish the respect that I have for him.  If I could describe Tim, it would be caring, stubborn, concerned, angry, passionate, and honest (about things HIV).  He was a unique man who will be missed by many.

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06-01-06 CD4 462 @24.3% VL > 100,000
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10-21-06 CD4 285 @21.9% VL >  "
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05-19-08 CD4 695 @33.1% VL < 48 undetectable!
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Re: Moffie passed away...
« Reply #38 on: June 22, 2010, 09:34:13 am »
Hold On

Hold on to what is good,
Even if it's a handful of earth.
Hold on to what you believe,
Even if it's a tree that stands by itself.
Hold on to what you must do,
Even if it's a long way from here.
Hold on to your life,
Even if it's easier to let go.
Hold on to my hand,
Even if someday I'll be gone away from you.



Tim and I would chat several times a year. He inspired me, challenged me, angered me at times, but I always respected him and his words gave me strength. I'll miss him tremendously. For now I need some time to process, this news is a shock of unprecedented proportions. 
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Re: Moffie passed away...
« Reply #39 on: June 22, 2010, 09:46:53 am »
I am very saddened by the news of Tim's passing  :'( .
I will miss his voice here; his admonitions, his comforting, his wisdom.
Rest in peace, beautiful Moffie.

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Re: Moffie passed away...
« Reply #40 on: June 22, 2010, 10:10:05 am »
I am sitting here shedding tears for someone that I never met in person, but touched my life in such a profound way. He helped me so much when I first came here. He helped me understand what hubby would be going thru and the ways that I could help him. As the HIV- wife of a HIV+ hubby he helped me deal with my own fears and concerns regarding HIV. I will forever be grateful for his kind words, advice, and the encouragement he gave me.

My heartfelt condolences to Bob

RIP dearest Tim
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Re: Moffie passed away...
« Reply #41 on: June 22, 2010, 10:12:01 am »
a great loss to all of us and especially to the Partner he loved so much...  I was looking forward to seeing him in Las vegas...we had chatted about old cars and many other things... a very fine person  not ever to be replaced....   RP  old friend......  

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Re: Moffie passed away...
« Reply #42 on: June 22, 2010, 11:16:52 am »
WHAT!  :'(   I really need a  BENZO right now  ??? I'm having a very hard time dealing with THIS  :-\
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Offline sharkdiver

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Re: Moffie passed away...
« Reply #43 on: June 22, 2010, 12:16:00 pm »
Thank you Daddy Tim for all of your advice and words of wisdom that helped me get through the past five years after losing Mack.

I will miss you so so much

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Re: Moffie passed away...
« Reply #44 on: June 22, 2010, 12:49:19 pm »
This is such sad news.  I thought of him as one of the elder statemen of the forum.

May he rest in peace.
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Re: Moffie passed away...
« Reply #45 on: June 22, 2010, 01:49:01 pm »
I'm in shock and totally numb - aside from feeling nauseous. I just can't believe that after all he's survived, he's gone from us so quickly.

I'm devastated, angry, sad... but those words don't even begin to scratch the surface. I've just found one member of my family but lost another. Life can be so cruel at times.

On the other hand, knowing Tim's spiritual beliefs, he's soaring through the universe and re-connecting with loved ones who went before. That's a small comfort.

My thoughts are with Bob - and all of us - who lost a man who made a positive, loving difference in the world.

As Tim would say, pray for whirled peas. 

In profound sadness,
Ann
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Re: Moffie passed away...
« Reply #46 on: June 22, 2010, 03:05:37 pm »
 :'(
RIP Tim 

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Re: Moffie passed away...
« Reply #47 on: June 22, 2010, 05:29:55 pm »
It's difficult to accept what's happened, considering it being so close to Lisa and Ric.  I sorta expect Tim to come in here and cuss us all out.  Maybe that helps to not trigger my own fears about mortality (and HIV).  Tim seemed to care so much for a lot of members here, so my condolences to so many here and to Bob.

Tim seemed to think many of us newer positive folks didn't listen to him.  But I'm sure most of us did, even if we were too proud to admit it.  One things for sure, Tim won't ever be forgotten. 

I think that's as about as big of a mark you can leave on life.

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Re: Moffie passed away...
« Reply #48 on: June 22, 2010, 06:39:19 pm »
No words I can write will make things well for his partner and family.  Instead I can only extend my condolences.  May Tim rest in peace and his family and partner find the strength to move forward with grace.

The measure of someone's greatness is often difficult to discern during life and sadly easier to measure with their passing.  Tim was certainly a great man in that he touched all of us here through this forum.  HIV never seems to stop taking and that is perhaps the greatest tragedy of the disease we have in common.  Everytime we blink it takes a friend and a source of wisdom.  Adding to what someone else said, there are now 600,001 gay men who are no longer with us, and that is 600,001 too many!  My count is probably off, but I think you get my point.

Tim will be sorely missed on these forums.
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Re: Moffie passed away...
« Reply #49 on: June 22, 2010, 07:00:33 pm »
I always read Tim’s posts with interest, they were always thoughtful, passionate and had a depth of knowledge and understanding borne out of decades of witnessing the struggle against this disease.

The Forum will be a less well-informed and sadder place without him.

I can only add my condolences to those of all the others here, to Moffie’s partner and family at this sad time.

R.I.P. Moffie.
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