Risky Encounter?

[louboutin12]

I'm 18 years old, gay male and I had my first sexual experience about 5 days ago. Unfortunately for me, it was with a stranger and I do not know his HIV status. He is bisexual and I know that he is promiscuous with both men and women. I performed unprotected oral sex on him and he ejaculated in my mouth and I swallowed his semen. I also had brushed my teeth about 20 minutes before and 20 minutes after (bad idea because sometimes my gums bleed although I'm not sure if they did). Anyways, I was so anxious I went to the clinic and spoke with a nurse who said I was at risk and recommended I take PEP ASAP. The medications are very expensive and I didn't have the money so I decided not to take it but now I'm regretting my decision. The guy I was with is now ignoring my attempts to contact him so I can find out his status and I just feel like I've made a terrible mistake. It would really be  horrific if I contracted HIV from my first encounter ever.

1) How risky was this encounter?
2) When should I get tested?
3) What is the difference between the regular test and the NCR test? Which is more accurate and will tell me sooner?

Thank you.

[jkinatl2]

I am sorry that you encountered a nurse who was ignorant of HIV transmission theory. MOre likely, she was taught in the 1990s, when transmission routes were not nearly as well understood as they are today.

You did not have a discernible risk for HIV at all. Your mouth in general and your saliva in particular provide a very inhospitable environment for HIV to remain infectious. As a matter of fact, saliva alone contains over a dozen identified elements that neutralize HIV.

If your oral health was so poor as to compromise this environment (google "meth mouth") then you might be an outlier who is at risk. But even that is pure speculation.

There have been no fewer than three long-term studies of partners where on was HIV positive and the other was negative. The couples used barrier protection (condoms) for penetrative anal and vaginal sex, yet no barriers at all for any form of oral sex. And not a single HIV negative person in these three studies, which laster ten, five and three years, seroconverted. Not one.

Aside from the twice-yearly STD ,panel that any sexually active person should get outside of a monogamous relationship, I would not even recommend testing over this incident - let alone PEP.