Period Sex

[AliQ]

Thanks in advance for your advice.

I met a girl in Qatar.  Her last sexual encounter (vaginal sex) was 3-4 weeks ago. She stated a condom was used.

I had sex with her using a condom on 2 occasions last week. 3 days ago she was on her period and we had vaginal sex using a condom. The condom was not broken.

My concerns:
1 - what if she has hiv from the previous partner and is in the window period so very infective?

2 - when she removed the bloody condom with tissues what if she used the same bloody tissue to wipe my penis.

3 - She gave me oral without condom numerous times.

4 - I’m having aches and pains in my hands and feet and muscles. Post viral type symptoms but no sore throat.

I’m worried I’m seroconverting and will get HIV from the above.

[Jim Allen]

Hiya,

Receiving a blowjob lacks the conditions required for acquiring HIV, thus it makes sense that after nearly 40 years of this pandemic in terms of BJs, there hasn't been a single documented case of HIV transmission to an insertive partner (the person being "sucked"), and you will not be the worlds first.

As for intercourse, HIV can't transmit through an intact latex or polyurethane condom. Unless a condom obviously fails during intercourse, there is no reason to be stressing or testing for HIV outside of the standard yearly routine.

when she removed the bloody condom with tissues what if she used the same bloody tissue to wipe my penis.

I don't do "what ifs", and even if this "what if" happened, it's not an HIV concern.

Move on with your life, use condoms, consider PrEP as an additional layer of HIV prevention and test out of standard routine yearly.

what if she has hiv from the previous partner and is in the window period so very infective?

Another what if ... Anyhow, it doesn't change how HIV is transmitted, i.e the conditions needed and barriers to it occurring.

In all risk assessments here, we presume the other person is living with untreated HIV and a high viral load.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse correctly and consistently, with no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of protection against HIV

Keep in mind that some sexual practices described as safe in terms of acquiring HIV still pose a risk for other easier acquired STIs. So please do get tested at least yearly for STIs, including but not limited to HIV, and more frequently if condomless intercourse occurs.

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms, and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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[AliQ]

Thanks for taking the time to reply to my post.

As far as I can tell, there have been condom failures.

Just one question. I read ars symptoms can develop on day 3. Is this true? Join and muscle pains and numbness and tingling in hands feet.

I will do a biosure home test but I think I have to wait 12 weeks. I'm worried.

[Jim Allen]

No, and your symptoms have nothing to do with HIV from this encounter.  See your healthcare provider and treat whatever is making you ill.

Move on with your life, continue to use condoms for intercourse and tests for HIV and easier to acquire STIs yealry.

[AliQ]

Thanks Jim for taking time to help the community.
My last post for information only.

Shaved pubic hair including scrotum and base of penis. Wore condom. But vaginal secretions were on the shave part. I didn't cut myself shaving. Is there any link between shaving and vaginal secretions and HIV. Thanks.

[Jim Allen]

Thanks Jim for taking time to help the community.
My last post for information only.

Shaved pubic hair including scrotum and base of penis. Wore condom. But vaginal secretions were on the shave part. I didn't cut myself shaving. Is there any link between shaving and vaginal secretions and HIV. Thanks.

Being shaved isn't a route to aquire HIV.

[AliQ]

I have been following the forums on and off for many years and am grateful for the help they provide. Please provide a risk assessment.

Scenario - over the last 1 month - oral without condom and vaginal sex with condom with 4 women (2 Filipino, 1 Vietnamese and 1 Indonesian sex worker).

Concern - Main worry is the Indonesian sex worker. She had braces and gave oral without a condom 2 weeks ago. She admitted to having 9 clients in the last 11 days so could have HIV with high viral load. Other 3 girls were not sex workers but unknown HIV status. Condoms appeared in tact after vaginal sex. Unsure about microtears.

Symptoms - Last 4 days - runny nose, aches and pains and sweating at night. Feel unwell. ARS worry

Reflection - Reading suggests recieving oral is almost zero chance of HIV but not impossible. Also read microtears in condoms can let HIV transmit.

If no symptoms would have had no worries but respiratory symptoms with sweating, aches, tiredness... Causes worry.

No sore throat, cough, rash or recorded fever yet.

COVID test negative.

[Jim Allen]

Concern - Main worry is the Indonesian sex worker. She had braces and gave oral without a condom 2 weeks ago

Receiving a blowjob lacks the conditions required for acquiring HIV; thus, it makes sense that after 40+ years of this pandemic in terms of BJs, there hasn't been a single documented case of HIV transmission to an insertive partner (the person being "sucked"), and you will not be the worlds first.

As for intercourse, HIV can't transmit through an intact latex or polyurethane condom. Unless a condom obviously fails during intercourse, there is no reason to be stressing or testing for HIV outside of the standard yearly routine. Microtears mainly belong to paranoid thoughts, and it isn't an HIV issue, don't bring it up again here.

runny nose, aches and pains and sweating at night.

Not HIV specific and has nothing to do with HIV from getting a blowjob. Sorry to hear you are feeling unwell. See your healthcare provider for treatment, and I hope you start to feel better soon.

Here's what you need to know to reduce your HIV risks:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse correctly and consistently, with no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of protection against HIV

Keep in mind that some sexual practices described as safe in terms of acquiring HIV still pose a risk for other easier acquired STIs. So please do get tested at least yearly for STIs, including but not limited to HIV, and more frequently if condomless intercourse occurs.

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms, and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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