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Exposure. Someone Please Assess my Risk.
« on: July 29, 2021, 04:45:58 am »
Hey everyone, this will be a long post so bear with me. So, on the 4th of July, I had sex with a Nigerian Sex Worker. Met her on tinder. Since it was my first time having sex, I was quite worried. I was flaccid quite a lot since I was worried. The oral sex was with a condom on. The vaginal sex was with a condom on as well. I don't think it broke. It would be pretty visible if it broke. I don't know if it had holes or anything. I also kissed her sadly, fingered her and sucked her boobs. Kissed her neck and stuff too. The problem is. I realized I had cuts on my gums after I went home. I had kissed her and had cuts. This worries me. She also sat on me naked. I didn't penetrate her. But what if my penis touched her pussy or ass? Can I get anything from that? I don't remember if she had any open sores while kissing her upper body. I remember pulling down the condom a lot so as to cover the base of my penis properly. It had issues. Can I get HIV if the lower part of my penis wasn't covered properly?

Anyways, after the second day of encounter, I started to get sick. I started having fatigue, my groinal lymph nodes started swelling up. I started having rashes all over my groin.
 
Today is the 25th day from my exposure, and I'm really sick. I've been sick ever since my exposure, either I get new symptoms or my existing symptoms get worse.

Here are the symptoms I have:
-Swollen lymph nodes behind the ear and neck
-Fatigue
-Occasional Headaches
-Ulcers all over my mouth, cuts/blisters on my tongue
-Bleeding gums (mouth hurts all together)
-Sore throat (red tonsils and red bumps behind my throat)
-White tongue
-Muscle Aches (back pain and other muscle aches)
-Dry Mouth
-Stiff Neck
-Joint Pain
-Occasional Diarrhea and Nausea
-Lower abdomen pain
-Pain above the hips
-Swollen lymph nodes Groin
-Groin Pain
-Pain while urinating
-Urethral Pain
-Lower Back pain
-Sharp Leg pain (Sometimes behind the thighs)
-Leg or Feet going numb
-Itchiness/Rashes near my inner thighs and groin


Currently going through these symptoms and I'm really worried. I can't eat or sleep. Im really worried if I have HIV. Someone please assess my risk. Please help. I wake up with these symptoms infact. It really worries me.



« Last Edit: July 29, 2021, 04:49:10 am by SnooperDooper »

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Re: Exposure. Someone Please Assess my Risk.
« Reply #1 on: July 29, 2021, 06:23:50 am »
Hiya,

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The oral sex was with a condom on. The vaginal sex was with a condom on as well. I don't think it broke.  Can I get HIV if the lower part of my penis wasn't covered properly?

Receiving a blowjob lacks the conditions required for acquiring HIV, thus it makes sense that after nearly 40 years of this pandemic in terms of BJ's there hasn’t been a single documented case of HIV transmission to an insertive partner (the person being "sucked") and you will not be the worlds first.

Regarding intercourse, HIV can't transmit through an intact latex or polyurethane condom. As long as it covered the head of your penis it's fine and if a condom fails during the act of intercourse it is obvious and there is no reason to be stressing about intercourse as long as this obvious issue did not happen.

So unless there have been other sexual encounters my advice is to move on with your life, use condoms for any intercourse no exceptions and test at least yearly out of routine for HIV and easier to acquire STI's

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I also kissed her sadly, fingered her and sucked her boobs. Kissed her neck and stuff too. The problem is. I realized I had cuts on my gums after I went home. I had kissed her and had cuts. This worries me.

Not sure why the kissing was "sadly". Anyhow, kissing and fingering aren't HIV risks to you. As for sucking her breasts, it would only be a minute concern if you were a breastfeeding infant and drunk a large volume of the breastmilk. You however are not a child and had no HIV risk.

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She also sat on me naked. I didn't penetrate her. But what if my penis touched her pussy or ass?

What if your penis touched her anus or vagina. Well, it's not an HIV risk as HIV is sexually acquired inside the confines of the human body like during condomless intercourse.

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I don't remember if she had any open sores while kissing her upper body.

Even if she did have sores, kissing them would not an HIV concern.

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Anyways, after the second day of encounter, I started to get sick.

It takes HIV at least a week to infect let alone for the body to produce a reaction. These issues mentioned are not HIV specific and being sick after 2 days has nothing to do with HIV from this event.

See your local healthcare provider, treat whatever is making you sick and I hope you feel better soon.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider talking to your health care provider about taking PrEP going forward as an additional layer of HIV protection.

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

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Re: Exposure. Someone Please Assess my Risk.
« Reply #2 on: August 02, 2021, 05:42:51 am »
Hello, thank you for the response.
I had another doubt.
So I was very flaccid while having sex as I was worried. Due to that issue, I took out my penis and masturbated with a condom on. So, my hand had the vaginal fluids. After removing the condom, I realized I was holding my penis from the top. Can the vaginal fluids transmit from my hand to my penis? Im really worried. I'm not circumsized either. It's about to be a month and I'm still sick. She wasn't very hygienic either. I'm really worried. I wake up with those symptoms. Could this be HIV?

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Re: Exposure. Someone Please Assess my Risk.
« Reply #3 on: August 02, 2021, 05:48:41 am »
Hiya,

Removing the condom and touching yourself isn't an HIV.

HIV is fragile and sexually acquired inside the confines of the human body as in never being exposed to the environment.

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Re: Exposure. Someone Please Assess my Risk.
« Reply #4 on: August 02, 2021, 05:53:59 am »

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unless there have been other sexual encounters my advice is to move on with your life, use condoms for any intercourse no exceptions and test at least yearly out of routine for HIV and easier to acquire STI's

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It takes HIV at least a week to infect let alone for the body to produce a reaction. These issues mentioned are not HIV specific and being sick after 2 days has nothing to do with HIV from this event.

See your local healthcare provider, treat whatever is making you sick and I hope you feel better soon.
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Re: Exposure. Someone Please Assess my Risk.
« Reply #5 on: August 02, 2021, 05:54:28 am »
Thank you for responding again.
I wonder why I'm sick. I wake up with swollen lymph nodes everywhere, muscle aches, joint pain, headache etc etc.
How much of a risky situation do you think I am for HIV? Around 20%?

It was my first time having sex and I have traumatised myself completely.

Is it true that it's hard to get HIV as the insertive partner?
Also, I touched the head of my penis after removing the condom and my hand had the vaginal fluids.

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Re: Exposure. Someone Please Assess my Risk.
« Reply #6 on: August 02, 2021, 06:01:06 am »
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Thank you for responding again.
I wonder why I'm sick. I wake up with swollen lymph nodes everywhere, muscle aches, joint pain, headache etc etc.
How much of a risky situation do you think I am for HIV? Around 20%?

I've already answered this, see my posts above in this thread.

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Also, I touched the head of my penis after removing the condom and my hand had the vaginal fluids.

I've already explained this would be no HIV risk to you.
Please read the posts in this thread.

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Is it true that it's hard to get HIV as the insertive partner?

The receptive partner during condomless intercourse as an example, would have a greater risk then the insertive partner.
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« Reply #7 on: August 02, 2021, 11:08:55 am »

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