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Title: How Many...
Post by: Javicho on January 05, 2007, 02:23:56 pm
OK lets try to remember with how many Guys or/and Girls we had have sex, everything counts BJ, F###G, Masturbation everything.

I will say I have been with 32 Guys and 4 Girls

J.
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: bear60 on January 05, 2007, 02:33:56 pm
Holy Mother of God.....how times change.  I used to know someone who could say he did that many in a week.  He would have several booked over his lunch hour.
Modified to add: Pleading the 5th here too Rod.  One too many just about says it all.
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: RapidRod on January 05, 2007, 02:41:30 pm
I plead the fifth. Looks like I was with one to many.
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: GSOgymrat on January 05, 2007, 02:47:13 pm
How many stars are in the sky?
How many grains of sand are on a beach?


Okay, maybe not that many... but I loved them all (if only for the moment). ;)

This reminds me of years ago when I was in a clinical trial. The doctor running the trial asked me how many sexual partners I'd had. I told him I wasn't sure. He said more than 5? Yes. More than 12? Yes. More than 20? Oh yes. Then he just looked at me with disgust. I said "You do realize you're working with gay men, right?" He just went to the next question.
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: pozguy75 on January 05, 2007, 02:48:23 pm
Ummm...will the Los Angeles, San Francisco, and New York City phone books work??  ;D
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: Javicho on January 05, 2007, 02:55:54 pm
And I was wondering if I need more training, ABSOLUTELY!!! I need more :D

J.
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: bear60 on January 05, 2007, 03:19:54 pm
Javico darling....Training? At this point in time I would go for quality rather than quantity. Just a suggestion.  If you equate quantity with learning, I think thats a mistake.  Finding a really good teacher is a good idea.  And, if you dont mind me asking...what kind of training do you need/want?

You can go out and buy all the Disco Mix CD's you want.
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: Miss Philicia on January 05, 2007, 03:29:45 pm
Holland Tunnel has too much traffic.
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: Javicho on January 05, 2007, 03:35:10 pm
Bear, I think you are right I need a good teacher or keep watching porn maybe  ;)

J.
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: Queen Tokelove on January 05, 2007, 03:49:07 pm
I honestly has not had over 20, that's the best I can do. But what is the guidelines, if any.
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: Teresa on January 05, 2007, 03:51:47 pm
I have had 3. First serious boyfriend, ex hubby, and current hubby.

Teresa
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: Javicho on January 05, 2007, 03:54:19 pm
You see Guys, the Females are the brave ones, at least they posted numbers ;)

Thank you Girls,

J.
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: Razorbill on January 05, 2007, 03:59:04 pm
They are countable?  Rememberable even?  I used to keep a log of sexual encounters in my 20's - I began to shock even myself.  Gave that up.  To echo GSO it is probably somewhere between the number of stars in the sky and the number of grains of sand on the beach at Fire Island.
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: lydgate on January 05, 2007, 04:15:20 pm
Echoing Ernie: I used to keep a count in my 20s but gave up when I turned 30.

But I'll pretend to be brave and hazard a very very rough guess: between 500 and 600? In my own defence I will say this is over a period of 15 years.  ::)

Jay

Edited to add: and one girl.
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: marco23 on January 05, 2007, 04:20:30 pm
 :-X......... ;)......... ;D
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: Javicho on January 05, 2007, 04:25:12 pm
come on Marco dont be shy :-*

J.
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: Ann on January 05, 2007, 05:01:25 pm
Edited to add: and one girl.

Jay, try a woman next time! ;) ;D


Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: lydgate on January 05, 2007, 05:09:19 pm
Jay, try a woman next time! ;) ;D




Well, we were teens... but your advice is heeded! After all, Queen Akasha has suggested "doing" me with a strap-on.  :o
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: Javicho on January 05, 2007, 05:42:42 pm
Well, we were teens... but your advice is heeded! After all, Queen Akasha has suggested "doing" me with a strap-on.  :o

Jay, that can be your New Year resolution ;)

J.
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: Just John on January 05, 2007, 05:58:47 pm
Javicho,

was that 32 Guys and 4 Girls -- AT THE SAME TIME?  :o

Wow that must've been some party can I have an invite to the next one please ;D
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: Javicho on January 05, 2007, 06:15:02 pm
Javicho,

was that 32 Guys and 4 Girls -- AT THE SAME TIME?  :o

Wow that must've been some party can I have an invite to the next one please ;D

That will be one of my fantasy's a big orgy :P

J.
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: Just John on January 05, 2007, 06:19:55 pm
heeheehee mine too ;D

If only ::)
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: Queen Tokelove on January 05, 2007, 07:19:22 pm
Well, we were teens... but your advice is heeded! After all, Queen Akasha has suggested "doing" me with a strap-on.  :o

Hey, it is a fantasy of mine, I'm not even going to lie. :D
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: thunter34 on January 05, 2007, 07:34:32 pm
(In my best philly267 mode)


::enters thread::
::gasps and thinks better of posting::
::exits thread::
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: lydgate on January 05, 2007, 08:05:33 pm
(In my best philly267 mode)


::enters thread::
::gasps and thinks better of posting::
::exits thread::

Aw Tim, pleeeeeeeeease tell us. Just a hint. A ballpark figure. Is it as many as a ballpark?  ;D
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: skeebo1969 on January 06, 2007, 12:09:57 am


  Dayum...

  Ummm let's see....

  Highschool=2
  Tudor hotel on South Beach use to be a 3/4 way house=8
  Treatment=5 (13th stepped them)
  1rst marriage=1
  2nd marriage=3
  Between 1rst + 2nd marriage=7
  After 2nd marriage=4

  Grand Total=30

  The ones I don't talk about=1

   Plans for future=1

   Number of times I have jacked off :  8,025,759,541

   Thomas
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: Iggy on January 06, 2007, 12:11:19 am
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Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: DanKenny on January 06, 2007, 01:50:07 am
What if I was raped ...unwilling participant..

ie, if she tied my hands to the bed and goes on top....

She had sex with me.. I did NOT (Clinton, Bill, 2000).

Would that still count.....???? Plleeeeezzzeeee, help me !!!!
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: Andy Velez on January 06, 2007, 08:37:16 am
Dan, it's not rape if you gave her the rope with which to tie you up. Just sayin'.....
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: David_CA on January 06, 2007, 09:45:49 am
I don't think I can count high enough to even begin to tell!

 I do know that I've been with only one woman (my ex-wife).  Until about 7 years ago, I could remember all the guys' names and a brief description.  Now, I just try and keep track of how many for a given week (if out of town having fun) or month.  I do know that the number increased tremendously after my husband and I became a couple (increased for both of us).  At the risk of sounding slutty or ho-ish, I hope the number continues to rise!   ;)

David
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: dad1216 on January 06, 2007, 10:21:53 am
Hell.....I can't even keep count of my marriages...let alone the number of men and women....

A few years ago a therapist asked me to make a list of my partners so the data is a little old

men.....>150
women.....>35

oh and by the way:

marriages.....1 less than Liz Taylor

....shame on me
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: thunter34 on January 06, 2007, 10:46:48 am
I tried to add it up on my laptop's calculator, and my computer crashed.


Wonder if that means anything?
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: pozguy75 on January 06, 2007, 10:50:26 am
Ummm...will the Los Angeles, San Francisco, and New York City phone books work??  ;D

Okay, in all fairness, I will give an estimate...um now let me see here...um...if I really tell you all, you won't think any less of me will you??
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: thunter34 on January 06, 2007, 10:57:11 am
Awwww....Jeromy!   We couldn't possibly think any less of you!
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: thunter34 on January 06, 2007, 10:58:11 am
OK, doll.  You KNOW I love you, but you walked right into that one!  I mean how could I resist an opening like that?

 ;D
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: Boo Radley on January 06, 2007, 11:54:05 am
God, I was 20 in January, 1976.   Between then and 2001 and my present celibate state I'd guess about 20 - 100 guys a year depending on the year.  Defining myself by engaging in sex was what it was all about back then.  I had to be unfettered by society's ridiculous mores and declare myself a free gay man.  At the beginning of the AIDS epidemic there was a lot of talk about scare tactics being used to inhibit our sexuality.  Then the shit really hit the fan.

30 years later I realize that, as someone else stated earlier, quantity has nothing to do with quality or enjoyment.  I've noted elsewhere I'm big on kissing/cuddling/intimacy even more than a sex act so many of the guys I had sex with failed to inspire me.   We might as well have been masturbating.  Mechanized sex has never turned me on... well, it aroused me enough to join in (that's really easy to do...) but left a blank feeling afterwards.

If that sounds bitter it's not, for true.  I'm just speaking my mind, or what now passes for one.

Boo
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: Ann on January 06, 2007, 12:22:40 pm
More than one, but less than one million. ;D That's all I'm sayin. ;)
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: lydgate on January 06, 2007, 06:47:02 pm
From Edmund White's The Farewell Symphony:

"If I had sex, say, with an average of three different partners a week from 1962 to 1982 in New York, then that means I fooled around with 3,210 men during my twenty years there. The funny thing is that I always felt deprived, as though all the other fellows must be getting laid more often. A gay shrink once told me that that was the single most common complaint he heard from his patients, even from the real satyrs: they weren't getting enough tail as the next guy...

"Nor did all this sex preclude intimacy. For those who never lived through that period (and most of those who did are dead), the phrase 'anonymous sex' might suggest unfeling sex, devoid of emotion. And yet, as I can attest, to hole up in a room at the baths with a body after having opened it up and wrung it dry, to lie, head propped on the guy's stomach just where the tan line bisects it, smoke a cigarette and talk to him late into the night and early into the morning about your childhood, his unhappiness in love, your money worries, his plans for the future -- well, nothing is more personal, more emotional. The best thing of all were the random, floating thoughts we shared..."

Jay
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: aupointillimite on January 06, 2007, 07:24:56 pm
Sonja: Oh, Boris, I'm so unhappy.
Boris: Ohh, I wish you weren't.
Sonja: Voskovec and I quarrel frequently. I've become a scandal.
Boris: Poor Sonja.
Sonja: For the past weeks, I've visited Seretski in his room
Boris: Why? What's in his room? Oh...
Sonja: And before Seretski, Aleksei, and before Aleksei, Alegorian, and before Alegorian, Asimov, and...
Boris: Okay!
Sonja: Wait, I'm still on the A:s.
Boris: How many lovers do you have?
Sonja: In the mid-town area?

-Love and Death

These are ballpark figures, mind you.  I haven't done an accurate count since 2002.

Guys: Probably around 80 or 90.
Girls: 5 to 7 (the last two are dependant on whether or not anything happened... I don't know and neither do they.  Thank you, Stoli and cocaine.)
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: livingpositively on January 07, 2007, 12:19:32 am
leapin lizards, Batman

um, I was using my calcumalator, but it just showed me a bunch of weird symbols and stuff.  Doesn't that mean I've exceeded the display limit or something?   :-[ ::)
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: Queen Tokelove on January 07, 2007, 02:07:06 am
leapin lizards, Batman

Um, did Batman kick Robin to the curb for Lil Orphan Annie.... ;)
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: Catman on January 07, 2007, 08:52:24 am
How 'man'y? ??? mmmmmmmmm I'd have to agree with Javichos count except for the girl count. I was only once with a hot "lesbian" who seduced me into sex and it WAS great!  When I wasn't "taken" during my college years, I guess my rump had a sign on it saying "Free available tight space. If you qualify. I'll try.."!
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: Javicho on January 08, 2007, 04:28:51 pm
I have to add one more, this past weekend my BF and I play w/another Guy :P

J.
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: ACinKC on January 08, 2007, 05:09:13 pm
More than one, but less than one million. ;D That's all I'm sayin. ;)

So youre saying I have a shot?!?!?!?!?!
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: ACinKC on January 08, 2007, 05:10:43 pm
OH MY GOD.... actual numbers.  They may be around my CD4 count.  If you can find that, you are close to my number.
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: woodshere on January 08, 2007, 05:28:10 pm
If my cd4 count equalled the number of sexual partners I would be the envy of all.  Including JO it is closer to my VL at time of diagnosis.

Excuse me but the  stroll down memory lane has brought something up that needs attention.  Add another 1.

Woods
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: thunter34 on January 08, 2007, 09:06:19 pm
I'm starting to feel in good company with my numbers.
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: aupointillimite on January 08, 2007, 09:08:39 pm
I can't help but notice that I was the last person to do so....
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: lydgate on January 08, 2007, 09:10:02 pm
I'm starting to feel in good company with my numbers.

But lots of you being coy with the actual digits. I'll try the research angle again: I'm trying to write about modern-day promiscuity and need facts and figures. (That sentence is a big fat lie.)
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: Buckmark on January 08, 2007, 09:59:35 pm
I can scarcely believe I'm going to admit this in public, as I suspect many
will be disappointed by my answer, and I'm likely to have my gay card
revoked:  I've had sex with 9 men (no women).

Regards,

Henry
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: lydgate on January 08, 2007, 10:16:08 pm
I can scarcely believe I'm going to admit this in public, as I suspect many
will be disappointed by my answer, and I'm likely to have my gay card
revoked:  I've had sex with 9 men (no women).

Regards,

Henry


No disappointment and no revocations! My best gay friend is 40, and his "number" is three. I certainly wish (well, sometimes wish) that my total had one less zero. Yep, we gay boys come in all flavors.
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: aupointillimite on January 08, 2007, 10:25:07 pm
No disappointment and no revocations! My best gay friend is 40, and his "number" is three. I certainly wish (well, sometimes wish) that my total had one less zero. Yep, we gay boys come in all flavors.

I'm come in the Slutbags Anonymous (well... not so anonymous anymore) flavor.

It tastes like caramel. 

Nummy treat!
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: DancerBoy on January 08, 2007, 10:34:48 pm
I'm come in the Slutbags Anonymous (well... not so anonymous anymore) flavor.

It tastes like caramel. 

Nummy treat!

I'm so glad I''m not the only one.  I couldn't even begin to try to count. I lived in Long Beach for three years. 2 block from the gayborhood cruising spot. And I was a drunk. You do the math
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: skeebo1969 on January 08, 2007, 11:56:36 pm
I'm so glad I''m not the only one.  I couldn't even begin to try to count. I lived in Long Beach for three years. 2 block from the gayborhood cruising spot. And I was a drunk. You do the math

  Danny I did the math for you and I used the quadratic formula... x=slut

Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: lydgate on January 09, 2007, 01:26:05 am
OK Thomas, you started this. The general form is ax2+bx+c=0. (Where a doesn't equal 0.) So if the variable x=slut, I now want to know what the constants (a,b,c) are. Mathematically inclined people, your thoughts appreciated.
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: Queen Tokelove on January 09, 2007, 02:12:19 am
um, er, .....duh....
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: skeebo1969 on January 09, 2007, 02:23:33 am


  Danny should be able to answer the X= slut part himself

  In the mean time A= men in San Antonio (current residence)

                           B= Long Beach

                           C=Every other location, other than outside the country..oh it includes Disneyland also ;D



 
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: cubbybear on January 09, 2007, 02:32:37 am
I would guess about 80+ guys and 2 women.  You do the math ;)  Most of them were anonymous.
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: Queen Tokelove on January 09, 2007, 03:00:30 am
Damn, most of y'all have had more ass than a toilet seat or more poonani than a tampon.... ;D I mean that in a good way. ;D
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: DanKenny on January 09, 2007, 03:20:24 am
Queen....what is "poonani" -- I sense some Carrib influence, there..
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: joemutt on January 09, 2007, 03:28:25 am
OH MY GOD.... actual numbers.  They may be around my CD4 count.  If you can find that, you are close to my number.

Exactly. Same as my CD4.  :P
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: Oh501sguy on January 09, 2007, 05:44:56 am
How many ?

  According to my mother, I was an innocent angel.      0 ; )

 




 
Title: Re: How Many...
Post by: skeebo1969 on January 09, 2007, 08:35:11 am
Queen....what is "poonani" -- I sense some Carrib influence, there..


  It is pussy...  and it is normally used by Jamaican men .. example below:

   Mi na wah go below belly to lick di punani...  Translation.. I won't eat no pussy!

    Thomas