Bleeding gums during oral sex

[Gpe90]

4 years ago i had a relationship with a guy... The only sexual contact we had was oral sex.. (I'm a girl) i gave him oral sex several times ( maybe less than 7 times)Most of them he ejaculated and i spit it as fast as i could , this might sound disgusting but twice when spiting in a glass i noticed a little bit of blood and it never occured to me at that time that i had bleeding gums... Months later i treated the bleeding gums with a dentist..I've never questioned mi health until mi actual boyfriend who is a doctor started telling me stories about his HIVS patients... So i started thinking if i ever had syntoms and it turns out i have... Small canker sores , sore throats and colds maybe once or twice a year, swollen lymph modes behind my ears ... I must say I'm the most negative and nervous person... And I'm really scared cause since i realized the risk my lymph nodes automatically got swollen, i got sore throat , i stopped producing saliva and my tongue is kind of white... I feel thirsty and with dry mouth...do i have HIV???

[Jeff G]

You didn't have risk performing oral sex on your partner . There are dozens of proteins and enzymes in your saliva that render HIV unable to infect .

There have been no fewer than three separate serodiscordant couples studies (where one person is HIV positive, the other negative.) These couples were tracked for three. five and ten years. The couples used condoms for penetrative vaginal and anal sex, but NO BARRIER at all for oral sex. Any kind of oral sex.

These studies yielded NO infections.

You indicated that you haven't been sexually active in awhile but here are a few things to remember when you became sexually active again . ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED  HIV TESTING AT THIS TIMEfor the incidents you are concerned about , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!
 
I will reiterate that you didn't have a risk in your situation but HIV testing is something all sexually active persons should do , so if you have never been tested I urge you to do so simply because its the responsible thing to do . 

[Gpe90]

Are you sure?? I mean there was fresh blood involved, i was bleeding due to swollen gums ) :  im really scared

[Jeff G]

Yes , I'm sure . I'm your mouth had injuries bad enough to be considered as a theoretical you would not have been giving head .

The 2 or 3 cases of oral transmission in 30 years have all been problematic at best .
There have always been other risk factors that later were reported . Im confident in saying you did not have a risk , oral sex simply isn't a very efficient mode for transmission of the virus . As I stated above , just the property's in your saliva makes for a no risk situation . I wouldn't stress over this anymore if I were you .   

[Gpe90]

Ok, thank u very much!

[Ann]

GPE,

If you're fretting about an incident that happened four years ago, and that tells me you're not having regular sexual health check ups. You're long over-due for one.

Any sexually active adult should be having a full sexual health check up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year or more often if unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse occurs. This is what responsible adults do to protect not only their own health, but the health of their sexual partners as well.

You need to understand that there are also other STIs out there that are MUCH more easily transmitted than hiv, and they often have no obvious symptoms. This is why you must not limit your sexual health check ups to hiv testing.

While blowjobs aren't the hiv risk you seem to think, you still need to have regular check ups when you're sexually active.

Go have a complete check up and put your mind at rest.

Ann