HIV Prevention and Testing > Do I Have HIV?

Risk oral

(1/2) > >>

kitkat320:
hi, about a year ago I had risky sexual contact - it was passive oral. The date guy sucked it, it didn't take long. After dressing, he found that his gums hurt and that he could smell blood. I didn't see any oral blood on my penis or my underwear when I got home. It was dark when he sucked me, so maybe I missed something. Plus, he was touching his penis and then mine - so he could transfer the preecum to my urethra. I asked if he was HIV positive - he said no. unfortunately, after about 4 weeks my lymph nodes (submandibular) swelled - I felt very swollen, as if I had mumps. I was in pain and I had a low-grade fever for one day. After a week it passed me. But I also got night sweats that lasted two months. At the same time, this guy got glossitis, he was in danger of having his tongue amputated. He claimed that it was due to a lack of vitamin B, he is said to have been suffering from vitamin B deficiency since he was a child. Reading on the internet - I found out that one of the signs of HIV infection is glossitis. In addition, for some time I have noticed that I get sick more often and often get mouth ulcers, which last up to a week. Coming to the question. I've been in a happy relationship with this guy for 8 months, we've been having unprotected anal sex for some time. After 4 weeks of our unprotected sex, my boyfriend caught a cold - fever, sore throat and general fatigue. Is it possible that then I was infected with HIV through passive oral sex or mutual masturabtion - assuming that he might have had some wounds or swelling in his mouth, if his mouth ached after sex?

Jim Allen:

--- Quote ---The date guy sucked it, it didn't take long. After dressing, he found that his gums hurt and that he could smell blood. I didn't see any oral blood on my penis or my underwear when I got home. It was dark when he sucked me, so maybe I missed something. Plus, he was touching his penis and then mine - so he could transfer the preecum to my urethra.

--- End quote ---

Receiving a blowjob lacks the conditions required for acquiring HIV, the condition of his mouth makes no difference, the same can be said for touching your penis. Thus it makes sense that after nearly 40 years of this pandemic in terms of BJ's, there hasn't been a single documented case of HIV transmission to an insertive partner (the person being "sucked"), and you will not be the worlds first.


--- Quote ---I asked if he was HIV positive - he said no.
--- End quote ---

Whatever someone claims is totally irrelevant. Anyhow, it was not an HIV risk.


--- Quote ---I've been in a happy relationship with this guy for 8 months, we've been having unprotected anal sex for some time.
--- End quote ---

Well, that's an obvious HIV risk.

I'll mention the same thing I do whenever anyone mentions being in a relationship.
Engaging in condomless intercourse with your partner means you are obviously at risk of acquiring HIV. Often within relationships, condomless sex is based on trust or past test results, however, this does not prevent HIV, and any condomless intercourse is simply accepting the greater risk of acquiring HIV.

Test more frequently for HIV & STI's and consider PrEP as an additional layer of HIV prevention.

Here's what you need to know to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection going forward

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly.

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

Kind regards

Jim

Please Note.
As a member of the "Do I have HIV?" Forum you are required to only post in this one thread no matter how long between visits or the subject matter. You can find this thread by going to your profile and selecting show own post and it will take you here. It helps us to help you when you keep all your thoughts or questions in one thread and it helps other readers to follow the discussion. Any additional threads will be deleted

kitkat320:
When it comes to relationship sex, my boyfriend tested himself before our relationship is negative. My last research was done before this oral sex, and since then I haven't had anyone else but my boyfriend. I once spoke to a doctor about the risk of HIV transmission through oral sex, and he said that it cannot be tested because most people who have oral sex also have vaginal or anal sex. Therefore, according to him, it is impossible to find out at which sex the infection occurred.

Jim Allen:
I've already answered this.

Getting your penis sucked simply lacks all the biological conditions needed for HIV to be transmitted and as for your BF being tested before the relationship, it means nothing.


--- Quote ---Often within relationships, condomless sex is based on trust or past test results, however, this does not prevent HIV
--- End quote ---


--- Quote --- it cannot be tested because most people who have oral sex also have vaginal or anal sex. Therefore, according to him, it is impossible to find out at which sex the infection occurred.
--- End quote ---

I think this would be the most stupid thing I have heard all year. Although the healthcare provider who thought sharing the same glass as someone to drink from could lead to HIV might be slightly worse but only slightly.

Oral sex covers so many sins, some acts are risks, but we're specifically talking about receiving and the conditions needed for acquiring HIV are scientifically well known and understood post-HAART (1994-5+) era.

Anyhow, test regularly for STI's and HIV.

kitkat320:
I'm sorry if I offended something, but I come from Eastern Europe - here the knowledge about HIV in doctors stopped during my studies - almost all doctors in our country consider passive oral sex as very risky. I understand that after that oral sex I do not run any risk, even if it had a high viral load in the blood?

Navigation

[0] Message Index

[#] Next page

Go to full version