Author Topic: question from Lebanon (Read 15154 times)

rami · « **on:** January 15, 2008, 05:21:47 am »

First I m really sorry for my poor English, it s not my native language.

I know maybe it s an old question and I already know your point of view , but I really need Ann & Andy advices for the rest of my mind.

11 weeks go , I was in China for a business trip , I asked for a massage on my hotel , after one hour of massage i start FINGERING the lady and I touch her breast with the same hand and after few minutes I sucked her breast .
After few minutes the lady asked me if I want blowjob”oral sex” , so I said yes , she gave me a condom “ I m not sure if it s a latex one or not” and the lady put some cold water on her mouth for blowjob.
Ok it s a safe sex but :
1-one hour before I was eating crabs and I felt some crabs covers piercing my fingers , and I m not sure about my fingers status specially that I work in a factory and usually have cuts.
2-when I was putting the condom, my finger “same for fingering” touch the hole of my penis.
3-afterl this episode , I felt bad smell on my mouth , maybe from sucking the lady breast , so I saw a new toothbrush that I used aggressively to clean my tongue and my mouth , so I saw some blood.
Here in our country there s a test called HIV1+2 , I m not sure which generation , but it was officially recommended by Lebanese authorities for marriage test.
So my test was : 4 weeks negative , 9 weeks negative.
But now I m really afraid because I felt some muscles pain and muscles Shivering on all my body , so I asked our family doc , he said that fingering and touching vaginal fluids for the penis is a risk !!!!!!!!!!
I m not felling ok , I don’t have the courage to get a new test after one week : so my questions :
1- please gave me my risk by %
2-do you believe in our negative tests?
3-i have to worry about my wife , and continue to have protected sex with her ? “she s not ok , she s feeling something strange , why I m using condoms”
4-does my muscles problems from stress?
5-why some people said low risk and others like you “no risk”?

Please Ann & Andy , I need your answer and really sorry Rod if I m bothering you again.

Ann · « **Reply #1 on:** January 15, 2008, 05:31:32 am »

rami,

Your risk is zero. Nothing you describe is a risk for hiv infection. Your test results have been negative because you ARE hiv negative. You do not need further testing.

Please read our Welcome Thread and click on the link to our Transmission Lesson.

You did not have a risk and you ARE hiv negative.

Ann

rami · « **Reply #2 on:** January 15, 2008, 06:51:12 am »

Thank You Ann

Can you gave me some scientifical explications?

where s Andy?

RapidRod · « **Reply #3 on:** January 15, 2008, 07:56:54 am »

Move on. You did not have a risk, not even with a hang nail.

Andy Velez · « **Reply #4 on:** January 15, 2008, 09:52:08 am »

How many responses do you need to gather in order to believe what you're told? You had no risk whatsoever for HIV during this incident.

Read the Transmission lesson as Ann suggested to you. This epidemic is going to be around for a longtime to come. You need to know the basics about what is risky and what isn't. So instead of all this dramatic carrying on, read the lesson. The bottom line regarding risk and sex is that if you have intercourse, whether vaginal or anal, you need to be wearing a condom. That's it. Everything else sexual is risky only in theory. In the real world of HIV unprotected intercourse is what you have to avoid.

rami · « **Reply #5 on:** January 15, 2008, 11:33:49 am »

excuse me guys , but in science "therories" are not equal to zero !!!!
YOU ARE SAYING ORAL SEX = ZERO RISK , AND OTHERS SAID 1/20,000 , So therory is not zero risk

Ann · « **Reply #6 on:** January 15, 2008, 12:13:15 pm »

Rami,

Yes, we are saying that getting a blowjob is ZERO risk. The number you quote has no meaning as it was plucked out of thin air. Think about it - how could they come up with that number? There is no ethical way of doing so.

You can stress out over this all you like, but the fact of the matter is - your nine week negative result is not going to change. You ARE hiv negative. End of story!

Ann

Andy Velez · « **Reply #7 on:** January 15, 2008, 12:26:49 pm »

OK, so you can feel free to worry if you want to. And worrying that you became infected through fingering. Anytime you have sex with another person you are theoretically at risk. That's a reality. Nevertheless in the real world of HIV we know from documentation that transmission is limited to certain very specific sexual acts: unprotected vaginal & anal intercourse.

We're not here to convince you of that. We just tell you what we know from experience and solid information.

If that is not enough for you, we've done what we can do for you.

rami · « **Reply #8 on:** January 15, 2008, 02:44:30 pm »

Ann & Andy : Sorry for bothering you !

Andy Velez · « **Reply #9 on:** January 15, 2008, 06:16:45 pm »

Just give up spending energy and time on worrying and get on with your life.

Cheers,

rami · « **Reply #10 on:** January 16, 2008, 04:22:18 am »

but why still have "muscles pain and muscles Shivering on all my body "
is it stress?

Matty the Damned · « **Reply #11 on:** January 16, 2008, 04:57:04 am »

Rami,

If you feel ill, see your doctor. You don't have HIV.

MtD

rami · « **Reply #12 on:** January 16, 2008, 07:36:31 am »

SO CAN I STOP USING CONDOMS WITH MY WIFE???IT WAS MY FIRST SEX EPISODE AFTER MY MARRIAGE SINCE ONE YEAR.

RapidRod · « **Reply #13 on:** January 16, 2008, 07:46:04 am »

You don't need to shout, it's rude. Yes you can have unprotected sex with your wife if you've got a negative for other STDs.

rami · « **Reply #14 on:** January 16, 2008, 07:51:29 am »

"if you've got a negative for other STDs"
If

it was my first sex relation after marriage , and few days before marriage i had my negative test.
and you r saying that i m not on risk , so why you are using this "IF"

RapidRod · « **Reply #15 on:** January 16, 2008, 07:54:52 am »

IF you have tested for other STDs and received a negative result. IF NOT, then test. You need to test orally.

Ann · « **Reply #16 on:** January 16, 2008, 08:15:47 am »

rami,

You don't need to use condoms with your wife. Nothing you did was a risk for any STI, including hiv. The other STIs are much more easily transmitted than hiv, but they're not so easily transmitted that it would have happened during your activities.

Ann

rami · « **Reply #17 on:** January 16, 2008, 08:17:32 am »

Ok , just another qst for information " you are saying that HIV is a fragile virus " and " must be transmited inside body"
So why it s dangerous to share needles?if the virus in blood will be outside the body!

RapidRod · « **Reply #18 on:** January 16, 2008, 08:19:54 am »

Knock it off. Go read the lesson on transmission like you should have already done.

rami · « **Reply #19 on:** January 17, 2008, 03:37:59 am »

ok i read lessons , but i did not find any answer to my qst !

Matty the Damned · « **Reply #20 on:** January 17, 2008, 03:47:36 am »

Rami,

Your real question is "do I have HIV?"

We have answered that. The answer is "no, you do not have HIV."

MtD

rami · « **Reply #21 on:** January 17, 2008, 04:11:44 am »

but i m Suffering from mu muscles pain and shivers

Matty the Damned · « **Reply #22 on:** January 17, 2008, 04:28:24 am »

And I'm sorry to hear that, but your pains and shivers aren't caused by HIV, buddy.

I told you before, if you feel ill see your doctor.

MtD

Andy Velez · « **Reply #23 on:** January 17, 2008, 10:27:54 am »

...and we cannot diagnose your symptoms here. We can only evaluate what you've told us and having done that it's very clear that HIV is not your issue. Period. End of story.

As Matty has said to you repeatedly, discuss your symptoms with your doctor.

rami · « **Reply #24 on:** January 17, 2008, 04:40:22 pm »

ok !! i swear it ll be my last qst
what about hcv?

Matty the Damned · « **Reply #25 on:** January 17, 2008, 05:04:29 pm »

Rami,

We only deal with HIV here. If you have concerns about Hepatitis C, see your doctor.

MtD

Andy Velez · « **Reply #26 on:** January 17, 2008, 05:06:22 pm »

What about HCV? It has nothing to do with you. It's transmitted through infected blood and sharing IV needles. Neither of which apply to you. And please don't come back and tell us the woman's nipple was bleeding into you mouth because that won't fly here.

If you have further medical concerns you need to discuss them with your doctor. We cannot diagnose anything here.

Ann · « **Reply #27 on:** January 17, 2008, 05:07:28 pm »

Rami,

What about hcv? You weren't at risk for that either. Go see your doctor. There's nothing more we can do for you here and if you keep posting, you'll be given a time out.

Ann

rami · « **Reply #28 on:** January 17, 2008, 05:28:34 pm »

Sorry Guys

rami · « **Reply #29 on:** January 18, 2008, 05:07:42 am »

Ok Guys !
Today i got my 11 weeks negative STD "including hebatitis A,B" and HIV Tests.
Wish the rest of mind for All.

Andy Velez · « **Reply #30 on:** January 18, 2008, 08:42:07 am »

Congrautlations on your happy and not unexpected HIV test result as well as the others.

Celebrate by making sure you keep condoms handy and use them everytime for intercourse and you'll be fine as far as HIV is concerned sexually.

Cheers,

rami · « **Reply #31 on:** January 18, 2008, 09:08:02 am »

Thanxs Andy with all my respect for all members.
I ll be in you disposal for any help , like replying to people in arabic language or french !!

Ann · « **Reply #32 on:** January 18, 2008, 09:17:15 am »

Rami,

While we appreciate your offer, we will have to decline. We keep a very high standard here and you simply do not have the training or knowledge-base needed to answer questions correctly and consistently.

If you want to help, I suggest you find an AIDS Service Organisation in the area where you live and ask about doing volunteer work for them. If they need volunteers, they will give you any necessary training.

Ann

rami · « **Reply #33 on:** January 18, 2008, 02:54:27 pm »

i will

rami · « **Reply #34 on:** January 19, 2008, 08:17:12 am »

hey guys
to be so franck : i would like to say that this 11 weeks test relaxed my anxiety for arround 90%.
but i have one more qst : the test was called HIV1+2 and i think it s not a new generation one ,so lets forget my case "no risk" , but this kind of test are able to gave an accruate result at 11 weeks or 12 weeks?

Andy Velez · « **Reply #35 on:** January 19, 2008, 09:53:12 am »

At the 12-13 week mark any generation of test will give an accurate result. You're HIV negative. Period. End of story. Really.

And if you come back here with another question like "But I took the test at 11 weeks, is that enough," you're going to get a time out. You're done. You're HIV negative.

It's time to move on, Rami!

rami · « **Reply #36 on:** January 19, 2008, 10:18:00 am »

sorry !

rami · « **Reply #37 on:** January 19, 2008, 10:27:18 am »

sorry but i m asking again koz last night , i took the decision do not use more condoms with my wife.
anyway i believe on your word Andy !
Thank You

Andy Velez · « **Reply #38 on:** January 19, 2008, 06:26:35 pm »

That's good. Get on with your life.

rami · « **Reply #39 on:** January 21, 2008, 02:45:19 am »

Dear All
I swear to God it ll be my last qst :
lets say the HIV test in our country called HIV1+2 is an old one , old generation and my risk was a high one
old HIV test are able to detuct virus at 12 weeks or at 13 weeks?i mean test must be taken at week 12 or 13??
please answer without taking into consideration my case or saying you don't need a test.
You have to know that in Lebanon for sure we don't have newest test as USA or Europe , all our medical equipments are old one !

Matty the Damned · « **Reply #40 on:** January 21, 2008, 02:48:49 am »

Rami,

It makes no difference. All generations of HIV tests will produce reliable results at week 12 or week 13. It doesn't matter.

13 weeks is the standard in the USA. Everywhere else in the developed world, it's 12 weeks. Using the same sorts of tests.

You are HIV negative. Seriously, move on.

MtD

rami · « **Reply #41 on:** January 21, 2008, 07:11:59 am »

Andy , Ann ?

Ann · « **Reply #42 on:** January 21, 2008, 07:54:44 am »

Rami,

You were warned that if you kept posting over this no-risk, conclusive negative situation, you'd be given a time out and that's exactly what I'm doing.

Do not attempt to create a new account to get around your time out because if you do, you will be permanently banned.

You didn't have a risk, you ARE hiv negative and it's time you moved on.

Ann

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