He was bleeding in my mouth while I was giving him a blow job

[qwertypoiuyt]

Hello

I'm sorry for this long message but I don't think there is a word in the dictionary to say how worried I am right now.

I am wondering if you can help me. I think I might have contracted HIV. From a guy I met a few days ago.

I met a guy who's HIV status I don't know but I know he practices unsafe sex as he wanted to do anal sex, unprotected but I don't do anal so that never happened.

I did perform oral sex for about 5 minutes with him.  I noticed his penis looked a bit wrong, it look like it was unwashed or dirty but for some stupid reason I still gave him oral sex.  I spat out after about 5 seconds of sucking him at first and then I looked at his penis and it looked okay.

I then continued to perform oral sex on him.  So he then started to perform oral sex in my throat very roughly.  After about 2 minutes he pulled his cock out of my mouth and I saw him wipe something off but didn't think anything of it.   Then I was sucking for about another 2 more minutes, I then stopped and I noticed the the whole head of his penis bleeding.  My teeth did not cause his cock to bleed, he must have some thing wrong with his penis?

I am worried sick, I'm sure he has given me HIV.  I have never known someone cock to bleed, ( the head part).  That must have been some sort of scab that I first saw.  Why would someones tip of penis bleed? Is it a HIV symptom? It looked unwashed buy Did not smell so I think it may have been a soft scab around his penis.

I went to a sexual health clinic within 2 hours and told them I want to go on pep but they would not give it to me as they said I was not at risk?  He bleeded in mouth and throat during that whole time??  I don't understand, his blood could have gone in my body. If he was bleeding in mouth that whole time he would have given me hiv.  If I had a small cut in my mouth would he have given me the HIV virus.

I then called the next day to speak to someone else to, another sexual health advisor and they told me not to worry and my risk is small and I don't need to have. HIV test?

I'm going insane, I can't sleep at night.  Can you please be tell me if you think I have HIV? I had hot food about 2 hours before  i performed oral sex to him too and in burned my gums a bit and it tasted a bit like blood, I'm scared if his blood touched that section of my mouth he would give me HIV  .  Or I might have had another cut or ulcer that his blood touched 

[qwertypoiuyt]

Sorry I forgot to mention ask. Does blood have a higher concentration the sperm of the HIV virus?

Also I developed a rash within a couple of hours after the incident to on left shoulder and back.  I've been told that it can't be A HIV rash do develop so quickly? I went to the Dr the next day and she gave me some cream and it is going down now, but still worried if its connected to this oral sexual encounter in some way? I find it to much of a coincidence for me to get that rash straight after. Could that be a symptom of another Std?

That's my final question and sorry for posting not posting this in the first part but I forgot.

Thank you in advanced for your help and sorry about all my questions but my anxiety and worry has taken over my life at the moment.

[Jeff G]

I wouldnt think PEP is warranted in this situation . Your saliva has dozens of proteins and enzymes to inhibit HIV damaging it and rending it unable to infect .

There have been no fewer than three separate serodiscordant couples studies (where one person is HIV positive, the other negative.) These couples were tracked for three. five and ten years. The couples used condoms for penetrative vaginal and anal sex, but NO BARRIER at all for oral sex. Any kind of oral sex. These studies yielded NO infections.

Its exceedingly rare for HIV to be transmitted via oral sex and although you are concerned about the blood its not very problematic in the case of oral sex . If you had a significant wound in your mouth and the person you were giving oral sex to was HIV positive with a high viral load then the risk would still be considered low . Oral sex is not an efficient way for HIV to be transmitted .

If you wish to test for peace of mind you can do so 6 weeks past the incident and again at 3 months to confirm the results . You can expect a negative result .

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs. If you want to test for peace of mind its a good of time as any to do so at the appropriate time . 

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!
   

[qwertypoiuyt]

Thank you for getting back to me Jeff so quickly.  I never had massive cuts in my mouth , I just ate hot food and it tasted a bit like blood in a certain area of my mouth.  I suppose when I see red blood I automatically think danger.  It's just so odd his tip of his penis was bleeding. I just don't know why it was bleeding.

I suppose I should listen to you and the other expert advise that I been given rather then letting the anxiety take over my life.  I've been told by sexual health specialists here in London that I can't get hiv through this encounter.  I wish I could just listen to them.  If it was sperm I would not be as worried the fact that it was was blood freaks me out.

Thank you so much for taking time to respond me.  You guys are doing a great job. There's nothing more rewarding then helping other people.

I will try and move on with my life.  I don't think I will have a HIV test, the waiting and counting down the days will kill me. As I'm considered low risk too. I thought I would have been high risk.

[Jeff G]

You are welcome ... use condoms for vaginal and anal sex consistently and correctly and you will avoid HIV .

If we or your docs in London thought you had even the slightest risk we would have loudly asked you to test and seek treatment if needed . Best of luck .