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Main Forums => Living With HIV => Topic started by: ocguy79 on June 15, 2011, 04:21:24 pm
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I was diagnosed back in 2009 I believe and ever since I have had issues with finding another mate to share my life with. (or even the occasional date) I guess my question is, How do you go by letting the other person know about your status prior to starting anything with that person....
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Also, I am a member of the POZ personals and have not had much luck.
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Also, I am a member of the POZ personals and have not had much luck.
POZ personals sucks. Especially so now that practically any useful function is designated as a "premium feature".
Online sites are good for one thing: scoring some dick. In that sense, it's usually easier, faster and cheaper than getting pizza delivered to your door. If you're looking for love, not so much.
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How do you go by letting the other person know about your status prior to starting anything with that person....
Did I understand correctly? You want people to know you are HIV+ before you start anything? Seems to be only two options:
If the don't know, then tell them when you meet them, before you start anything.
Or, put it in your online profile for when you look online, then people will know right away.
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Tell them before the first kiss. If they're fine with it, take 'em home and nail 'em (or arrage the next date.) If they're not fine with it, you might be disappointed but not nearly as hurt as you would be if you had let it go further without disclosure and they had bolted when you told them. That first kiss changes everything.
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Tell them before the first kiss. If they're fine with it, take 'em home and nail 'em (or arrage the next date.) If they're not fine with it, you might be disappointed but not nearly as hurt as you would be if you had let it go further without disclosure and they had bolted when you told them. That first kiss changes everything.
This is what I do. Its always scarey putting yourself on the line like that but let it be their choice to continue anything or not that way neither of you gets hurt later on. I always make sure to tell guys I'll answer any questions they have. You'll be surprised how many guys know nothing about this disease or the risks. This way it opens communication & you might be able to put their mind at ease by talking about it.
I have met some great guys that are very understanding about it & some kinda shy away.
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I always tell right up-front too. It's a great way of separating the wheat from the chaff. Sometimes it's a good way of rebuffing unwanted advances although it doesn't always work, in my experience.
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being poz haven't change anything for me when it come to dating, poz or neg.
now you have to try also of course, are you ?
since trying again since just 2 weeks, got plenty potential dates willing, no problems.
I haven't try poz only, but women I felt attract to, going out or online.
I have even disclose early. No problems.
Just be you, focus on people you appreciate and feel attracted to, no matter their potential status, and it should/will work. You just have to be ready for that (dating), and willing to seduce.
No matter your face, look, age or so, the world is wide enough to find your soulmate.
Well, just my two cents or experience..
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can always get a snazzy tattoo
(http://t3.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcQAKTyaHiQkrKApcXi4TaC1Z8TOHMN8PkxO5mU5o1EYaNX1Bxa_)
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Just be you, focus on people you appreciate and feel attracted to, no matter their potential status, and it should/will work. You just have to be ready for that (dating), and willing to seduce.
No matter your face, look, age or so, the world is wide enough to find your soulmate.
I'm sure this is true.
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Being HIV + really sucks! I tired the POZ sites for awhile, met a lady that was POZ but turned out like all the other dating sites I was trying before finding out I was POZ.
I met a nice Lady by chance, (who is NEG) wasn't looking had basicly given up looking when I found her. After going out for a few dinners etc I told her I was HIV + I was totally shocked to find out that she like me enough to try & work thru this. We have been together going on 21 months now & have plans on getting married and being together for the rest of our lives.
There are people out there for all us POZ people just might take awhile to find them. My thought on the dating sites is they are basicly hook up sites whether your are Gay or Hetrosexual.
Hang in there it will happen, maybe you are just looking in the wrong places.
Take care
Dennis
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I was diagnosed back in 2009 I believe and ever since I have had issues with finding another mate to share my life with. (or even the occasional date) I guess my question is, How do you go by letting the other person know about your status prior to starting anything with that person....
Be up front. I know it is harder in OC for some reason. I use to live there. believe me there are plenty of positive people to date there as well. Join a Positive group of some type. Maybe someone can introduce you to one of their single friends. worth a try. Good Luck.