Uprotected sex, Serodiscordant couple

[Waltern]

My partner has been positive for 10 years and her viral load has been undetectable since 2005, I have been using a condom since then, but i must admit that I am now dying to have it as it is, Now the question is can I go on with unprotected sex , its now always in my mind and I desire it. Any heterosexual discordant couples like mine please share with me.

[Jeff G]

I moved your thread into the Someone I Care About Forum where there are no posting restrictions. You can post all of your questions in this thread and participate in other serodiscordant couples threads .

If you partner is undetectable its almost impossible to pass on the virus . Its also in your favor that you are the insertive partner . Have you ever considered PrEP, a once a day pill of Truvada ? . I would not think you would need it if your GF is consistently undetectable but it is effective medicine and powerful peace of mind as well .   

[AusShep]

Gay couple here, but we're very much in the same situation, so I'll respond anyway.

After the studies and updates are still showing no HIV transmissions with an undetectable partner (gay and straight, check out the PARTNER study) we decided to make a go at no condoms very briefly then backed off.  The PrEP studies (a recent UK study just offered to put all of the control group on Truvada based on early unpublished results) are also very promising, so we have an appointment on Friday to discuss getting on PrEP, get bloodwork done, and see what the Doctor has to say. 

It'll be another 2 weeks before the follow up where we actually talk with the Dr and decide what to do.  I'm doubtful the Dr will come out and give his direct approval at this point either with or without PrEP in addition to being undetectable.  But we'll probably make a decision at that point.  I'll provide an update  afterwards.

[buginme2]

Shep I'm in serodiscordant couple also. We don't use condoms.  Doctors approval.  We should talk.

[Waltern]

Thank you Jeff, I am now feeling better that there is no recorded case where the viral load was suppressed and transmission was possible, though i stil have headache about contracting the virus. would like to hear some more serodiscordant couples who dont use protection and are only relying on undetectable viral load/ARV as prevention.

[Forgiven82]

Hi !
I am such a relationship and i am negative and my boyfriend is positive. We live in a country where Prep is not available.  So we only rely on his blood work. He has been undetectable for some time. We are planning to have a baby in the future too. I took a test in august and i was negative still. I will have another in december.  He is on Atripla. We normally dont use condoms. If he is sick or has the flu we do. But we are in a monogamous relationship and have no other std's. So i feel pretty safe to be honest. But its taken time to get here. Much for him too as his biggest fear is passing his hiv to me. :-)

[Waltern]

We plan to have another child but just wanted to know if the health of the wife won't deteriorate because of the pregnancy,  does pregnancy uses up the energy required to be stable?  and does it make a viral load to increase?

[Waltern]

Hi all and thanks again for your help to me and others who are also frustrated about the virus, I have found a lot of valuable information on this side,

My question is can the transmission occur using a needle or injecting equipment from an HIV positive person? and how much is the risk of transmission from the needle/injection if the viral load of the positive person is undetectable, Is the risk of using the same needle/injection same as the one having unprotected sex?

Hope to get clarity on this question and the previous question about pregnancy.

[Jeff G]

Hi all and thanks again for your help to me and others who are also frustrated about the virus, I have found a lot of valuable information on this side,

My question is can the transmission occur using a needle or injecting equipment from an HIV positive person? and how much is the risk of transmission from the needle/injection if the viral load of the positive person is undetectable, Is the risk of using the same needle/injection same as the one having unprotected sex?

Hope to get clarity on this question and the previous question about pregnancy.

Your post is reading more like one that belongs in the AM I INFECTED forum but I will answer the question anyway . HIV is transmitted from unprotected anal and vaginal sex and from sharing IV drug rigs immediately after an infected person . Use condoms and or PrEP for anal or vaginal sex and do not share injection equipment and you will avoid HIV .

Sharing IV drug rigs with an infected person is more risky than unprotected sex because it a direct route into you blood stream . 

[Amber34]

Waltern,

I see this is an older post so this may not still be an issue for you.

I am poz and my husband is neg. I am UD and he takes Prep meds and we don't use condoms. Let me know if you still have any concerns you want to discuss.

Amber