Risky behaviour

[whosewho]

Hi..I am a married 35 year old circumcized Indian man who made the mistake of having sex with a prostitute in a country where AIDS is rampant.

I met a young lady, who despite looking like a model, was a sex worker, and wanted $20 a round...Soundedlike heavan at the time.

She gave me about 20mins of unprotected oral and thereafter we had protected sex for about half an hour, where I used my own latex condoms on our way to the motel. I penetrated her for about 15 mins in missionary and we changed to doggy style, and there was no blood, but when I came and pulled out there was a lot of blood around the head of the condom and streaks light in colour going up..
Also she was very wet and also ejaculated

I am now worried madly...and since my return wife wants to have sex, and we never used a condom before, what excuse can i give her to use one till testing in 3 months?

[RapidRod]

You had protected sex and never had an exposure. You are worrying needlessly.

[Andy Velez]

You are worrying needlessly. You used a condom which is exactly what you are supposed to do for either vaginal or anal intercourse. Condoms provide very effective protection including when blood is present.

There is no need for HIV testing since you didn't have a risk. And yes, you can safely resume sexual relations with your wife since there was no risk for HIV.

[whosewho]

Hey guys Im worried sick

I was having mild testicle pain and a clear discharge. Turns out I have gonnorhea!
The doctor gave me an antibiotic injection of some sort and a course of 500mg Ciprofloxin 3 times a day.

He also said he would reccomend HIV testing as if gonnorhea was passes its easy for HIV to infect me as well.

Im pretty sure I got the gonnorhea from the unprotected blowjob as I didnt have any complications or sexual encounters for a while before this.

Im scared crazy that I could have gotten HIV as I had this encounter in Africa in a country with very high HIV rate

[Andy Velez]

Gonorhea is much easier to acquire than HIV. In general other STDs are much easier to pass along than HIV. HIV is a fragile virus. Sexually the only confirmed risks for transmission are unprotected vaginal and anal intercourse. That's it.

So having gotten one disease absolutely does not equate with having been at risk for HIV.

Mainly for your peace of mind you can do an HIV test and collect the inevitable negative result. You used a condom during the incident that you are concerned about. Condoms provide very effective protection.

I still expect you will test negative for HIV. Good luck and keep us posted.

[Ann]

whose,

If I had one damidi for every time I've advised posters in this forum to get a full sexual health check up, I could retire to Hawaii next month. While you had symptoms of gonorrhea, many men don't, and even the ones with obvious symptoms like yours never seem to want to get it checked out.

I'm glad you had the sense to get it checked out.

While you are NOT going to get hiv from a blowjob, you just might pick up a much easier to transmit infection. Gonorrhea can be and often is transmitted to the guy getting blown. It doesn't change the fact that you're not going to get hiv from a blowjob.

There have been three long-term studies of couples where one is positive and one is negative. In the couples who used condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, but no barrier for oral activities, not one of the negative partners became infected with hiv. Not one.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann