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Author Topic: i want the final explination on hiv risks with oral sex  (Read 7378 times)

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Offline run5home

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i want the final explination on hiv risks with oral sex
« on: June 26, 2006, 09:10:22 am »
well ya this is kinda stupid and everything but i would just like to be reasured.
well me and my girlfriend (im confident she is not HIV+) i fingered her for a bout 10 mins with my middle finger well then after i washed my hands thoroughly with hotwater and such but then later when me and my bro were haning out somehow my pointer finger (not my middle which i used to finger) got in my bros moth for a very short period of time and i think this took place maybe 10-15 mins after i fingered my gf. now i would like reasurance that my bro was not put at risk at all
-thank you

Offline run5home

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Re: heyy this is a concern that i would like some reasurance on
« Reply #1 on: June 26, 2006, 09:11:13 am »
im sayin if she did have HIV then would my bro be at risk

Offline run5home

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Re: heyy this is a concern that i would like some reasurance on
« Reply #2 on: June 26, 2006, 09:13:30 am »
and as a follow up question i would like to know how long it takes the HIV Virus to die after its been exposed on the skin, and if washing ur hands with hot water helps
-thank you

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Re: heyy this is a concern that i would like some reasurance on
« Reply #3 on: June 26, 2006, 09:36:36 am »
run,

Hiv is a very fragile virus that does not remain able to infect once it finds itself outside the human body.

Not one person has ever become infected in the way that you describe and your brother (or you) won't be the first.

Please read through the Welcome Thread and follow the Lessons links for more information on transmission.

While you're here, I'd like to tell you a few more things since you don't seem to know much about hiv.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL STIs together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with a sexually transmitted infection. This includes having intercourse with your girlfriend. You can't tell by looking at someone, or by what you or they think they know about their health. The ONLY way to know someone's hiv status is through testing together. You must be using condoms until such time.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Please, learn the facts surrounding hiv transmission and infection. It's the adult, responsible thing to do as this pandemic is going to be with us for a long time to come.

Ann
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Re: heyy this is a concern that i would like some reasurance on
« Reply #4 on: June 26, 2006, 09:40:30 am »
In addition to Ann's sage remarks I just want to comment on something you wrote which I found troubling.

You mention being "confident that she is not HIV+" when speaking about your girlfriend. HIV status is not something to guess about. And until such time as you may find yourself in a securely monogamous relationship in which both partners test negative together, until then you should always be taking the precautions with anyone you're with as if you knew the person to be HIV+.

Specifically that means using a latex condom everytime you have intercourse. No exceptions!

Happily, there was nothing risky in the incident you were concerned about.

Cheers, 
Andy Velez

Offline run5home

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i want the final explination on hiv risks with oral sex
« Reply #5 on: September 05, 2006, 06:19:10 pm »
well heres the story - i cant find the welcome thread or w/e that it tells every basic case on buttt i havent eaten a girl out before and i just wanted to know before i did it if i was puttin myself at risk at all - ive been readin responses to comments and some say theres a veryvery small risk and some say theres none at all so here i am and i just want an explination of hte risk of eating out a girl

thanks a ton for ur time i know u get this kinda pointless comment alot:)

-run5home

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Re: i want the final explination on hiv risks with oral sex
« Reply #6 on: September 05, 2006, 06:31:34 pm »
I don't understand why you can't find the lesson on transmission. Here's a link to it from the first thread in this section:

http://www.aidsmeds.com/lessons/Transmission1.htm

Giving oral to a woman is one of those activities which falls into "theoretical" rather than actual risk. Certain factors would all have to come together in order for transmission to happen that way. And in the real world it just doesn't happen. I'm talking the woman being HIV+ and bleeding profusely into your mouth with you having bad oral care, etc. etc. See what I mean?

It's one of those activities which is so common in life that if it was really a factor in transmission we would have known long before today.

Of course if you search the net for "risky" activities you will always find fuel for your fears.

Cheers,
Andy Velez

Offline run5home

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Re: i want the final explination on hiv risks with oral sex
« Reply #7 on: September 05, 2006, 06:34:05 pm »
okkk thanks man

Offline run5home

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Re: i want the final explination on hiv risks with oral sex
« Reply #8 on: September 06, 2006, 04:07:43 pm »
hey again idk if it matters but ummm for lack of a better word would actually swallowing the "vagina juice" increase risks or w/e

thanks
-run5home

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Re: i want the final explination on hiv risks with oral sex
« Reply #9 on: September 06, 2006, 04:31:40 pm »
No that wouldn't matter. Reason being, the acid content of the stomach.
« Last Edit: September 06, 2006, 04:58:54 pm by RapidRod »

Offline run5home

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Re: i want the final explination on hiv risks with oral sex
« Reply #10 on: September 06, 2006, 06:20:07 pm »
ok iimm all good now- thanks for all hte info people - youve helped me out soo muchh in my life nowwwww.. who knew that some chat forums could help so much

run5home

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Re: i want the final explination on hiv risks with oral sex
« Reply #11 on: September 07, 2006, 06:37:39 am »
run,

I've merged your new thread into your original thread - where you should post all your additional thoughts or questions. It helps us to help you when you keep all your additional thoughts or questions in one thread.

If you need help finding your thread when you come here, click on the "Show own posts" link under your name in the left-hand column of any forum page.

Please also read through the Welcome Thread so you can familiarize yourself with our Forum Posting Guidelines.

Thank you for your cooperation.

Ann
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Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

 


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