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Author Topic: Will I be doing more harm than good.......  (Read 8130 times)

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Offline scotttt

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Will I be doing more harm than good.......
« on: December 28, 2006, 05:20:46 pm »
I am wondering if I will be doing more harm than good if I spend the weeked with Marco (okay Rob, but he is the one who gave away his identity not me :o) by exposing him to my germs.  I have bronchitis (sp?).  I get it every year or so.  It is my understanding that a bronchial infection is not contagious, so therefore there is no risk to him.  I am trying to get on some antibiotics before I travel and that usually clears it up.



Offline thunter34

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Re: Will I be doing more harm than good.......
« Reply #1 on: December 28, 2006, 05:32:14 pm »

I think the main question to ask is, ''What does, er...'Marco' want to have happen?"  Is he up for the company?  Feel like being alone?  Just make sure you keep the communication lines completely open in an ongoing way & both are at ease with being bluntly honest.  Sometimes either of you may just want YOU time, and that it perfectly normal and to be expected.  Otherwise, I don't think there would be any particularly perilous threat to you visiting. 

I'm no doctor, so I can't say 100%, but I think you should be OK.  If anyone else thinks otherwise, I imagine they will chime in.

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Re: Will I be doing more harm than good.......
« Reply #2 on: December 28, 2006, 06:38:35 pm »
If antibiotics can clear up the "bronchitis"  then it is caused by some  type of organism.... and not just an irritation  or rash....... I would be very careful about being around anyone with an impaired  immunity ( HIV+ ) if I had anything that needed medication to clear.......  my DR even schedules me early in the appointment list so that I don't sit in the waiting room with "sick" people...he even advises to stay away from crowds...malls, theaters,stores etc....... I go to a lot of early matinees for movies and shop Tues afternoon at the store/mall  to keep the exposure down....

I am also not a DR but I have survived more than 20 yrs of this stuff....
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Re: Will I be doing more harm than good.......
« Reply #3 on: December 28, 2006, 09:03:12 pm »
HI scottttt....

I would be careful.  When I was recovering from PCP I wasn't allowed to go out either.  Malls, stores, PO....anywhere, it didn't matter.  I would bundle up with lots of layers and go with my brother just because I had to get out of the house.  But then I would stay in the car while he did the shopping.  If it's bronchitis and not contagous then it's not a problem but if you think you might have a cold or flu, tnen be careful.  He's only been diagnosed a little over a month and he still needs to get his strenth back and his immune system back in some sort of order.

 I know it's New Year's weekend and it would be nice to be together.  What does Rob want?  Like Tim says, ask him and if he's up for it, then go ahead.   

By the way, it's important you don't act any differently around him.  Don't be afraid of him.  Don't walk around like you're on egg shells or something.  Don't be asking him all the time how's he's feeling.  Don't spoil him.  Be yourself.

Happy New Year.


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Re: Will I be doing more harm than good.......
« Reply #4 on: December 28, 2006, 09:44:42 pm »

Don't be asking him all the time how's he's feeling. 

Amen. That's enough to drive a person crazy. 

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Offline scotttt

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Re: Will I be doing more harm than good.......
« Reply #5 on: December 29, 2006, 05:45:34 pm »
Thank you for the replies.  Rob told me that he wants to come visit me, but that I had to see a physician first to determine if what I have is contagious.  I am going in the morning.  I really want to see him.  The flight from LA to Oakland is about 45 minutes.  I think that he wants to get away, and Berkeley and SF and nice places to visit. There are a lot of good eateries close to my apartment and the city is a lot calmer now that the Berkeley students are away on Xmas break.

I am trying not to constantly ask him how he is feeling.  I know that if he isn't feeling well, he will share that with me. I really haven't changed the way I treat him.  However, I think we are both communicating better.  Little petty bullshit has pretty much evaporated.  When serious issues arise we become aware of how trivial so much of the other stuff is.  He has been very supportive of me thoroughout the years.  Whenever the shitstorms come, he is always there with an umbrella. I am doing everything I can to be supportive as well without being smothering.

Thanks again for the advice and support. 

Offline wtgr

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Re: Will I be doing more harm than good.......
« Reply #6 on: January 03, 2007, 05:26:29 pm »
Bronchitis is generally contagious as it is usually caused by bacterial or viral infection.

See here http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bronchitis, then scroll down to Prognosis.

Take care.

Offline scotttt

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Re: Will I be doing more harm than good.......
« Reply #7 on: January 03, 2007, 06:14:44 pm »
Hey everyone,

Went to the doctor (SF General Urgent Care).  It turns out that my asthma is flaring up.  He put me on a nebulizer (sp ?) and said I should be okay.  Asked about the situation with Rob and he stated that he didn't think I posed a health risk.  I stopped using my inhaler a few years ago and need to start it up again.

Rob came up yesterday.  He went to the local Stop Aids SF office and they were really kind and helpful. I will let him give you the details.  He hates when I tell his story for him :).


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