Scared as hell

[andygold]

Hi guys, I'm so sad.

On January 20th I lost my virginity with a sex worker, the worst idea in my life. We have oral and vaginal sex, both protected. Sex lasted 8 minutes or less. The condom was intact (I filled it with water). But my incident is the next: since I was not hard. I took the condom off and I started marturbating. I had red blisters on the forsaking of my penis and probably I touched it with my dirty hands from fluids on the condom. She was so wet.

My penis was covered during all the act, I was checking every moment during the 10 minutes. It just moved up 1cm before finishing. The SW checked the condom all the time also. 

I'm living a nightmare. I had a lot of symptoms starting from the week 2. Fever (max 99.3 F), reddish throat, chills, 1 time diarrhea, fungus on my back for 3 days, liver pain(4th week), yellow stools, fatigue. From week 5 headaches.

I did a test but I can't pick up the results since I'm so scared. Too much coincidence that I don't want to accept.

Thanks for the awesome work you are doing here. I read more that 200 topics I think.

[Jeff G]

Hi Andy . The sex you had was protected sex with a condom so you need not test for this specific incident .

HIV is a fragile, difficult to transmit virus that is primarily transmitted INSIDE the human body, as in unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse where the virus never leaves the confines of the two bodies.

Once outside the body, small changes in temperature, and pH and moisture levels all quickly damage the virus and render it unable to infect. For this reason, bodily fluids outside the body do not pose a risk and that means masturbation is not a risk for HIV infection.


ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED FURTHER HIV TESTING AT THIS TIME, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care checkup, including but not limited to HIV testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

[andygold]

Thanks for your quick answer,

I did the test at 18 days post exposure. But I can't take the result since I'm so scared . I'm extremely healthy and I got sick exactly 2 weeks after exposure.

I will try to go tomorrow but I won't have luck I know.

[RapidRod]

Reread the replies you were given. You never had an exposure.

[Ann]

Andy,

If you had a risk - which you did NOT - eighteen days is too early to test.

Just for future reference, the vast majority of people who have actually been infected will seroconvert and test positive by six weeks, with the average time to seroconversion being only 22 days. A six week negative must be confirmed at the three month point - when there has actually been a risk which you did NOT have - but is highly unlikely to change.

You didn't have a risk because you did the right thing and wore a condom for the vaginal intercourse. Condoms have been proven to prevent hiv infection.

There have been three long-term studies of couples where one is positive and one is negative. In the couples who used condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, but no barrier for oral activities, not one of the negative partners became infected with hiv. Not one.

Hiv is a fragile, difficult to transmit virus that is primarily transmitted INSIDE the human body, as in unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse where the virus never leaves the confines of the two bodies.

Once outside the body, small changes in temperature, and pH and moisture levels all quickly damage the virus and render it unable to infect. For this reason, touching the used condom and then masturbating is NOT a risk.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED FURTHER TESTING FOR HIV AT THIS TIME (because you did not have a risk), anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann

[andygold]

Thank you so much guys, I will re test this friday. I can't believe my reality.

[Ann]

Andy,

What reality can't you believe? That you don't have hiv? That you never had a risk for hiv? Get over it and move on with your life.

You do NOT need further testing at this time over this NO RISK situation. All you'll be doing is wasting time, money and already stretched hiv resources.

Ann