Author Topic: Sex (Read 14108 times)

GAMark · « **on:** April 10, 2007, 02:40:10 pm »

I have

bear60 · « **Reply #1 on:** April 10, 2007, 02:50:32 pm »

Yes, my sex life has changed. But really, you have to ask........ "what is normal?" One persons concept of a normal sex life can be totally different than anothers. I think expecting that your sex life will change after your HIV diagnosis.......is normal.
If you are not happy and have serious problems with your sex life, perhaps some counseling is in order. Its always possible to talk to a doctor or get a reference to see a counselor.

woodshere · « **Reply #2 on:** April 10, 2007, 03:21:44 pm »

what about stayed the same?

Central79 · « **Reply #3 on:** April 10, 2007, 03:22:19 pm »

My sex life got a lot better! And then I got back with my ex-

I actually found that I was still horny, wasn't gonna die, and that disclosing weeded out the men from the boys...

Why don't you tell us a bit more about the changes you've experienced, and maybe we can help?

pozinbama · « **Reply #4 on:** April 10, 2007, 03:34:25 pm »

Testing poz made me feel like I got my card to Slutville validated. My sex life got more active.....

jimw · « **Reply #5 on:** April 10, 2007, 04:03:29 pm »

During the first few months after my diagnoses my sex life increased - I actually had sex at a benefit for God's Love We Deliver in East Hampton with one of the guests of the host! Now, I would say it is back to where it was, assuming that was normal. Jim

ACinKC · « **Reply #6 on:** April 10, 2007, 04:42:05 pm »

Mine is 200,000 times better than it used to be!

beefbud · « **Reply #7 on:** April 10, 2007, 05:57:08 pm »

sex, whats that?
2 months since I have had it, no sex drive at all but that could be due to the Temezepam I use to sleep. Doc ran some testosterone tests though nothing back yet.

I just havent grasped it yet....stupid thing is, is I have had sex with + men long before my conversion and appreciated and enjoyed them so much more cuz of their honesty.

Strayboy74 · « **Reply #8 on:** April 10, 2007, 06:26:07 pm »

I answered 'yes', because I misread the question, but I really meant to answer 'no'.

Less than normal, no, more frequent and intense than normal. Oh yeah!

When what you've worried about for so long loses its value in worry, your left with a strange sense of freedom.

Who would have thunk?

-joseph

Strayboy74 · « **Reply #9 on:** April 10, 2007, 06:26:50 pm »

Quote from: pozinbama on April 10, 2007, 03:34:25 pm

Testing poz made me feel like I got my card to Slutville validated.

It's always nice to meet another resident... Do you have oceanfront property as well?

Anyway, I plan to run for mayor next term; perhaps I can earn your vote. LOL

-joseph

Gary · « **Reply #10 on:** April 10, 2007, 06:33:15 pm »

for about 2 years after diagnosis, not a sausage, now......er lots of sausages

Buckmark · « **Reply #11 on:** April 10, 2007, 08:08:38 pm »

Quote from: pozinbama on April 10, 2007, 03:34:25 pm

Testing poz made me feel like I got my card to Slutville validated.

I'm still waiting for my Slutville card to come in the mail. I just don't think I'm put
together that way, though. I often wish that I was.

Henry

budndallastx · « **Reply #12 on:** April 10, 2007, 11:15:38 pm »

It's been a while for me but then again since I started my meds I have been more reclusive and inwardly focused. Thank goodness for porn and such but I will need to get out more since it won't be knocking on my door in suburbia. Of course it did a couple months ago when an ex was in town and dropped by for a surprise. I need to call him ..

ndrew · « **Reply #13 on:** April 10, 2007, 11:29:12 pm »

Sex? What is this "sex"?

Matty the Damned · « **Reply #14 on:** April 11, 2007, 12:20:30 am »

Sex? What is this "sex"?

Turn your back and I'll fill you in.

MtD

thunter34 · « **Reply #15 on:** April 11, 2007, 12:29:44 am »

Quote from: BuckmarkTX on April 10, 2007, 08:08:38 pm

I'm still waiting for my Slutville card to come in the mail. I just don't think I'm put
together that way, though. I often wish that I was.

Henry

If you need a sponsor for initiation purposes, Henry...

sdcabincrew74 · « **Reply #16 on:** April 11, 2007, 02:16:36 am »

Oh hell it did get better. More open to try new things with different people and have more fun.

cubbybear · « **Reply #17 on:** April 11, 2007, 03:58:58 am »

Well I went from not wanting sex at diagnosis.. to becoming a bit of a regular now when it comes to some good old fashioned bum fun.

I've definitely got my slutville card validated and then some lately.

Bucko · « **Reply #18 on:** April 11, 2007, 05:15:17 am »

My card to Slutsville was already dog-eared when I got my diagnosis. In the three years since I've been liberated from the nine-year dungeon of a horrible sex-straved relationship I've had a new one printed and it's getting slightly frayed at the edges.

Serosort and fuck like a bunny...I have.

Brent
(Who prefers oil-based lubricants)

ndrew · « **Reply #19 on:** April 11, 2007, 06:24:23 am »

I should keep my mouth shut or someone will put something in there as well...

Drew

budndallastx · « **Reply #20 on:** April 11, 2007, 06:48:58 am »

I should keep my mouth shut or someone will put something in there as well...

Drew

Quote

Watch what you wish for ..

MoltenStorm · « **Reply #21 on:** April 11, 2007, 10:10:38 am »

What sex life?

Oh, you mean that thing I used to have once upon a time? LOL

My problem is that I can't do a random encounter. If there's not an emotional attachment there, downstairs ain't playing along - if you get my drift.

dixieman · « **Reply #22 on:** April 11, 2007, 11:10:35 am »

man o man... I have sex with myself everyday... I sometimes I question where I've been? lol... its more meaningful when one has a significant other... I do not want to get more std's like friends of mine who trick around... with every Tom, Dick and Harry... or Steve that comes around... I Value my health too much!

Buckmark · « **Reply #23 on:** April 11, 2007, 11:40:33 am »

Quote from: thunter34 on April 11, 2007, 12:29:44 am

If you need a sponsor for initiation purposes, Henry...

I'm ready to begin my initiation lessons, Tim.

GAMark · « **Reply #24 on:** April 11, 2007, 09:46:10 pm »

Quote from: MoltenStorm on April 11, 2007, 10:10:38 am

My problem is that I can't do a random encounter. If there's not an emotional attachment there, downstairs ain't playing along - if you get my drift.

I totaly get your drift. I am the same way. Been almost 9 months for me guys...

Joe K · « **Reply #25 on:** April 11, 2007, 10:09:45 pm »

Sorry guys, if you lost your sex life you only have yourself to blame. We average five times per week, or more because intimacy with my husband is paramount in my life. It takes a lot to keep a good man down.

Buckmark · « **Reply #26 on:** April 11, 2007, 10:23:58 pm »

Quote from: killfoile on April 11, 2007, 10:09:45 pm

Sorry guys, if you lost your sex life you only have yourself to blame.

I don't think anyone was looking to place blame, Joe. Just helpful insight and experiences from others.

Henry

Strayboy74 · « **Reply #27 on:** April 11, 2007, 10:59:31 pm »

Quote from: BuckmarkTX on April 11, 2007, 10:23:58 pm

I don't think anyone was looking to place blame, Joe. Just helpful insight and experiences from others.

Henry

Fuck you Henry. I was totally placing blame. And now I think it's all your fault. LOL

-joseph

puertorico2006 · « **Reply #28 on:** April 11, 2007, 11:09:58 pm »

wow based on the tention in this room i assume everybody has lots of pent up frustration

Youve got to let out that testoserone (or estrogen depending on the person lol) once in a while or youll go MAD!!!

-josh
(who is about MAD right now because its been months also...yes i said months....i used to think 2 weeks was a long time)

p.s. i dont think its the HIV causing it just that i like someone that im not getting any from at the moment lol

Buckmark · « **Reply #29 on:** April 11, 2007, 11:19:42 pm »

Quote from: Strayboy74 on April 11, 2007, 10:59:31 pm

Fuck you Henry. I was totally placing blame. And now I think it's all your fault. LOL

So cantankerous, Joseph. And so damn cute, too.

Henry

Buckmark · « **Reply #30 on:** April 11, 2007, 11:22:37 pm »

Quote from: puertorico2006 on April 11, 2007, 11:09:58 pm

wow based on the tention in this room i assume everybody has lots of pent up frustration

Boy howdy -- you have no idea!

Henry

racingmind · « **Reply #31 on:** April 11, 2007, 11:39:07 pm »

Did someone say sex? My ears just pricked up....

RobT · « **Reply #32 on:** April 13, 2007, 08:33:21 pm »

LOL!

Rob

Iggy · « **Reply #33 on:** April 14, 2007, 02:49:52 am »

no. HIV has not affected my sex life....depression on the other hand

RobT · « **Reply #34 on:** April 15, 2007, 03:43:42 pm »

All-
My sex life has become...clring throat time, practically non-existent

Rob

incognito · « **Reply #35 on:** April 16, 2007, 06:35:52 am »

there have been far too many painful experiences when others have decided not to be intimate, (or sometimes decided not to have any contact at all) after learing that i was exposed to the virus (tested poz) at some point, even though my viral load is undetectable and i am healthy.
also, too often i meet someone i connect with and feel there is real long term relationship potential, just to have the hope and anticipation devistated by discovery that they are neg and i am poz
having the intimacy of skin on skin anal sex with sharing of cum is extreemly important to me, which having tested poz severly limits the number of optional partners with me as a top.
so ready for a cure and effective lube which prevents transferring the virus....

incognito · « **Reply #36 on:** April 16, 2007, 06:42:13 am »

i've heard rumor that as a measure to prevent transfer of the hiv virus the pharmaceutical companies that make hiv meds put a substance in the meds to seriously reduce the libido of patients who take the meds.
i wrote it off as 'urban legend'. any pharmacists here who know the facts?
i've noticed a difference in my libido since taking meds, but so many other possible reasons why it could have happened.

Buckmark · « **Reply #37 on:** April 16, 2007, 07:40:45 am »

Quote from: incognito on April 16, 2007, 06:42:13 am

i've heard rumor that as a measure to prevent transfer of the hiv virus the pharmaceutical companies that make hiv meds put a substance in the meds to seriously reduce the libido of patients who take the meds.

Sustiva laced with saltpeter? That's a rumor I've never heard before.
If I were one of those types who believed in government conspiracies
on a grand scale, this would be a good one. I don't really give our
government enough credit for having the intelligence to pull of something
like this, though.

Henry

brooklynpoz · « **Reply #38 on:** April 16, 2007, 07:42:41 am »

MY SEX LIFE HAS CHANGED AND DROPPED SINCE TESTING POSITIVE.

trellium · « **Reply #39 on:** April 16, 2007, 08:27:06 am »

Quote from: incognito on April 16, 2007, 06:42:13 am

i've heard rumor that as a measure to prevent transfer of the hiv virus the pharmaceutical companies that make hiv meds put a substance in the meds to seriously reduce the libido of patients who take the meds.
i wrote it off as 'urban legend'. any pharmacists here who know the facts?
i've noticed a difference in my libido since taking meds, but so many other possible reasons why it could have happened.

Pharmaceutical companies don't need to add any extra bonus ingredient to reduce libido....
Protease inhibitor (PI)-based combination antiretroviral therapy usually takes care of that --->> damn Ritonavir! $:-\$
Should ask doc to test for free testosterone level (preferably in the morning when the level is highest).

Male Sexual Dysfunction Associated With Antiretroviral Therapy
http://www.thebodypro.com/cdc/news_updates_archive/july15_02/dysfunction.html

"PI-based combination regimens for HIV came into widespread use in 1996. Because studies conducted before the PI era suggested that the incidence of sexual dysfunction increased with stage of HIV disease, a decline among patients treated with effective therapy was expected. However, preliminary reports have suggested the opposite. Results from the researchers' investigation support an association between PIs, especially ritonavir, and sexual dysfunction among men with HIV-1 infection, which is not explained by known confounders or case-detection bias related to the marketing of sildenafil (Viagra) after March 1998. Prospective investigation is needed to clarify the relationship between antiretroviral therapy and sexual dysfunction in men as well as to examine the impact of antiretroviral therapy on sexual function in women. "

RobT · « **Reply #40 on:** April 17, 2007, 06:24:01 pm »

How can I take the poll or has it closed??

Rob

dtwpuck · « **Reply #41 on:** April 17, 2007, 07:05:29 pm »

I was too young to have a decent sex life when I seroconverted. It's a hell of a lot better now and keeps getting so.

Puck

(who thinks Xaviera Hollander is a novice.)

Queen Tokelove · « **Reply #42 on:** April 17, 2007, 07:11:46 pm »

I don't know really. I mean yeah, it slowed down a great deal but I don't feel it is due to being poz. For me, it changed because I became more selective in the type of man I would like to have. I am a choosey lover...

DingoBoi · « **Reply #43 on:** April 17, 2007, 08:42:15 pm »

i'm available for pucking.

Bailey (who has a new interest in hockey)

Strayboy74 · « **Reply #44 on:** April 17, 2007, 08:50:10 pm »

Quote from: DingoBoi on April 17, 2007, 08:42:15 pm

i'm available for pucking.

You're also easier than Aunt Jemima's Instant Pancakes.

-joseph

northernguy · « **Reply #45 on:** April 18, 2007, 09:43:49 pm »

I've pretty much lost my sex drive since diagnosis and all the other issues that have come with it.

milker · « **Reply #46 on:** April 18, 2007, 09:49:37 pm »

I used to hook up almost every day and I've replaced my desire for sex with a hand job. I'm still in the process of understanding how to deal with this and have sex partners. My libido has not declined at all, i'm horny as hell every day.

Milker.

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