Would this put me at risk?

[lost guy]

I had protected sex with a woman I didnt know.  I am nervous that the condom had a small hole/tear in it.  I did look at it briefly and didnt see anything.  During or after sex I noticed she had a terrible odor coming from down stairs.  All this has ramped up my fears of hiv.  Was this a risk???

[Ann]

Lost,

You did what you're supposed to do - you wore a condom. Condoms have been proven to prevent hiv infection.

There have been three long-term studies of couples where one is positive and one is negative. In the couples who used condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, but no barrier for oral activities, not one of the negative partners became infected with hiv. Not one.

When condoms fail, it's not about little tiny holes. When they break, they do so in a very noticeable way and yes, you would have noticed.

You have NOT had a risk and you do NOT need to test specifically over this protected incident.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST FOR HIV SPECIFICALLY OVER THIS PROTECTED INCIDENT, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann

[lost guy]

This was the first time I ever had sex with without being in a long term relationship and the last!  Thanks for the reply and the time to put my nerves at ease.  What causes such bad odors with with like that down stairs?

[Matty the Damned]

This was the first time I ever had sex with without being in a long term relationship and the last!  Thanks for the reply and the time to put my nerves at ease.  What causes such bad odors with with like that down stairs?

As Ann has noted, whatever stank wafted up from her pussy, you were not at risk from HIV or any other STI, because you wore a condom.

What could cause a malodorous minge? Not washing properly is the most likely cause. Other conditions are bacterial vaginosis and trichomonas vaginalis.

Neither of those conditions are a concern for you, because you wore a condom.

MtD

[Ann]

This was the first time I ever had sex with without being in a long term relationship and the last!

If you were having unprotected intercourse in those relationships without testing hiv negative together first, then you were putting yourself at risk. You'd be surprised how many people end up hiv positive in a long-term, committed relationship when one of the people had no idea they were hiv positive and unwittingly passed it on to their partner.

Make sure next time you're in a relationship, you use condoms until you've tested together.

If you were having unprotected intercourse in those relationships without testing first, you'd be wise to have a complete sexual health check up.

But as far as the one-off incident of PROTECTED intercourse, you weren't at risk and you don't need to test specifically over that incident.

Ann

[lost guy]

No i have always had protected sex as I had only been with one other person in my 39 years of life.  I am just completely beating myself up over this and just dont have trust in condoms as I heard horror stories about pin holes and getting pregant so I thought the small hole could be there without knowing.

[RapidRod]

No i have always had protected sex as I had only been with one other person in my 39 years of life.  I am just completely beating myself up over this and just dont have trust in condoms as I heard horror stories about pin holes and getting pregant so I thought the small hole could be there without knowing.

That's what they are too, just stories. Condoms are FDA approved medical devices.

[Ann]

Lost,

You do realise, don't you, that sperm can swim? Women have been known to get pregnant when a guy has only cum on the outside of their vagina.

Hiv cannot swim.

The "pin-holes in condoms" myth was first put about by the Catholic church - you know, those guys in dresses who don't want people to have sex unless they're trying to make a baby. They don't want you to use condoms at all, and if they can frighten people into thinking they're not reliable, then they hope they're frightening people into not having sex at all, particularly outside marriage or with the same sex.

I've already told you this, but I'll try again. Condoms have been proven to prevent hiv infection. There have been three long-term studies of couples where one is positive and one is negative. In the couples who used condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, but no barrier for oral activities, not one of the negative partners became infected with hiv. Not one.

This is all about your guilt and your worries have no basis in the science of hiv transmission.Believe me, if we thought you'd been at risk, we would tell you.

I don't know if you've split up with the person you were with for 39 years or if this was a case of giving in to temptation outside your relationship, but regardless, you did what you did and there's no point in beating yourself up about it now. You did the right thing, the smart thing and used a condom, so ease up on yourself. 

You were NOT at risk for hiv infection, regardless of what your guilty feelings are telling you.

Ann




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[lost guy]

Thanks for all the assistance. I really didn't know how uneducated I was before I spent time in this forum! You guys are doing a great job of educating and dealing with everyone's emotions.

So much info on the Internet misinforming people and creating unnecessary concern.

[lost guy]

I was having sex with a escort and the condom broke.  As soon as I feel it break I pulled out and placed a new condom on.  I am nervous about what what risk I have of contracting HIV from this encounter.  I also have a scratch on my penis below the head inch and a half were I got it in the zipper.  Anyways any feedback is appreciated.  I always use condom and have never had one fail.

[Jeff G]

I merged your new thread into your old where you should post all of your concerns no matter how long between visits or subject matter . You can find the tread by going to your profile and selecting show own post and it will take you here . Please read the welcome thread at the top of this page because there have been some changes since you were here last .

Its rare for the insertive partner to go on and test poz after a condom break so you should expect a negative result when you test .

Its on the low end of risk but a risk all the same and you must test . You can do so as early as 6 weeks past any possible exposure and again at 3 months to confirm the results . 

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

[lost guy]

Thanks for the info.  I was told that it would be really low chance but there again I am not an expert and seek feedback for comfort.  Would the scratch or cut increase the exposure risk?

[Jeff G]

Thanks for the info.  I was told that it would be really low chance but there again I am not an expert and seek feedback for comfort.  Would the scratch or cut increase the exposure risk?

The bottom line is you had a risk and need to test at the appropriate time . We could discuss how deep of a cut is a risk or how long is a piece of sting all day but its not helpful to you . If a condom breaks during intercourse or you put your dick in some one without one its a risk ... its just that simple . 

[lost guy]

Would you recomment a PEP? This was less than 24 hours ago.

[Jeff G]

PEP is not recommended for the insertive partner for a condom break .