Oral sex naked body to body contact under duvet

[Asifb123]

Hi, first off thank you for the amazing job you guys are doing I have read through a lot of posts as I have fallen into a little trap of stupidity myself.
Right on Tuesday I went and met of with a 60 year old I met online after a few messages I went over to his we started talking and before you know it we were both naked in bed together he sucked me off under the duvet and we were both sweating loads as it was quite hot under there however I finished by ejaculating  on the bed then straight after I put my clothes back on and we chatted some more my exposure was body to body deep kissing and receiving oral. I am totally paranoid as I have a wife at home who is 6 weeks pregnant and I have made an awful mistake what is my risk for hiv as that’s my main concern I have asked him his status but he told me to F off! Which I’m assuming he must be hiding something which has made me more paranoid. I am planning on getting the usual urine analysis at the right time but I need to know about hiv as I have a pregnant wife at home what risk of hiv is this as the only thing that I did was recieve oral and kiss nothing else.

[Jim Allen]

I have asked him his status but he told me to F off!

Pointless question about something that's none of your business and a great answer from the guy.

[Jim Allen]

I have a wife at home who is 6 weeks pregnant

I read your entire post three times. You had zero HIV from the encounter with the 60 year old.

As for being married, I'll mention the same thing I always do when someone says they are in a relationship;

If you engage in condomless intercourse with your partner, you are obviously at risk of acquiring HIV. In relationships, condomless sex is often based on trust or past test results; however, this does not prevent HIV, so if condomless sex does occur, you should consider testing more frequently.

Here's what you need to know to reduce your HIV risks:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse correctly and consistently, with no exceptions. Consider talking to your healthcare provider about PrEP as an additional layer of protection against HIV and get vaccinated against HPV, Hepatitis A & B.

Keep in mind that some sexual practices described as safe in terms of acquiring HIV still pose a risk for other easier-acquired STIs. So please do get tested at least yearly for STIs, including but not limited to HIV, and more frequently if condomless intercourse occurs.

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms; testing is the only way to know.

Kind regards

Jim

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[Asifb123]

Thank you for your response does it matter on how long the oral lasted or if I had any marks or skin irritation on my penis. If hiv is not a risk what are the other tests I need to take? Thank you.

[Jim Allen]

Makes no difference whatsoever.

Receiving a blowjob lacks the conditions required for acquiring HIV; thus, it makes sense that after 40+ years of this pandemic in terms of BJs, there hasn't been a single documented case of HIV transmission to an insertive partner (the person being "sucked"), and you will not be the worlds first.

Your only HIV risk was sex with your wife.

Move on with your life.

[Asifb123]

No my wife has been tested on Monday and results in yesterday due to her pregnancy she’s been tested. Can I ask why some sites say slight risk or low risk and that’s including the NHS! So this is why I’m paranoid about it. Obviously he has blanked me for a reason if there wasn’t anything he would have answered me but never mind I’ll put it behind me and move on with my life but just confused as to why some so no risk and some say low risk receiving oral. Thanks

[Jim Allen]

No my wife has been tested on Monday and results in yesterday due to her pregnancy she’s been tested.

Great, she didn't have HIV a few months ago, you don't keep her locked up 24/7 do you, gosh I hope not....

I'll repeat myself, If you engage in condomless intercourse with your partner, you are obviously at risk of acquiring HIV. In relationships, condomless sex is often based on trust or past test results; however, this does not prevent HIV, so if condomless sex does occur, you should consider testing more frequently.

Can I ask why some sites say slight risk or low risk and that’s including the NHS!

The NHS is somewhat poorly worded, no surprise but it says giving a blowjob is a risk. To quote them

"
It may also be possible to catch HIV through unprotected oral sex, but the risk is much lower.

The risk is higher if:

the person giving oral sex has mouth ulcers, sores or bleeding gums
the person receiving oral sex has recently been infected with HIV and has a lot of the virus in their body, or another sexually transmitted infection"

However, you didn't give a blowjob, his viral load (virus in the body) and the condition of your mouth is irrelevant as you received a blowjob and didn't give one and I have already answered that concern:

Receiving a blowjob lacks the conditions required for acquiring HIV; thus, it makes sense that after 40+ years of this pandemic in terms of BJs, there hasn't been a single documented case of HIV transmission to an insertive partner (the person being "sucked"), and you will not be the worlds first.

As for other sites, I can't comment, plenty of outdated sites, healthcare providers or places still think handshakes are an HIV risk when we have known since the 80s that it's not.

Now to add context about giving a blowjob, the mouth generally lacks a route for HIV to infect also there are barriers such as saliva that neutralizes HIV by damaging the receptors needed to infect human cells. Unless you have gaping open holes in your mouth like meth mouth, giving a blowjob is such a minute (theoretical) HIV risk that it doesn't warrant HIV concern or testing outside of routine.

However, you don't even have that concern as you did not mention giving a blowjob, you received one, get over it.

Obviously he has blanked me for a reason

I would also blank you, you are paranoid and asking him silly irrelevant questions that are none of your business. He gave you a blowjob and owed you nothing, I thought the fuck off he said was clear enough, stop trying to contact him.

[Jim Allen]

Look I wish you well but your problem isn't HIV, its that you are either feeling guilty or worried about being caught after cheating on your wife.