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Main Forums => I Just Tested Poz => Topic started by: young89 on April 24, 2013, 09:57:48 pm
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Well.. I tested positive in January of this year..
I havent told anybody close to me and probably wont...
joined just to talk with like minded people i guess.
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Welcome to the forum Young , sorry you need us but glad you found us .
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thanks for the love..
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You will find lots of information on here. I was diagnosed in January as well.
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Hello young89,
Take your time and tell them when you are ready. I got tested last week and I haven't told anyone either. But if you can talk to a therapist or a social worker, do that. It might help.
Trust me, this is a great resource and the people are very nice and supportive. We all are here to support each other.
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I got my results 3 days ago. I think it is hard to even consider telling anyone let alone to actually do it. I am on here for the same reason, I need to let it out and yet I find that I am holding back here too. I don't want specifics that could identify me to my partner ( he is on here and pos also). Btw, he knows about me, but I do not want him reading my posts and have him figure out its me.
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I don't want specifics that could identify me to my partner ( he is on here and pos also). Btw, he knows about me, but I do not want him reading my posts and have him figure out its me.
Hmm... OK. He knows you are HIV+ and yet you don't want to discuss HIV and being HIV+ with your partner, who is also HIV+. May I ask why not?
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Hmm... OK. He knows you are HIV+ and yet you don't want to discuss HIV and being HIV+ with your partner, who is also HIV+. May I ask why not?
I can understand, actually. What if there are relationship issues that the OP wouldn't otherwise feel free to discuss? What if the OP wants a sounding board to talk about stuff BEFORE he brings it up to the boyfriend? Sites like this aren't exactly replete on the internet, and that can sometimes be awkward.
*modified to add: I am, however, not exactly sure how sustainable that arrangement is going to turn out. Really depends on the partner's curiosity, the OP's sharing, and the issues discussed. I'm pretty sure I couldn't catfish my boyfriend, at least not for a long time.
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Oh I can understand a situation like that. But it might be hard to be incognito on the very same forum as one's partner.
And as an aside, saying something like "my partner is on here and I don't want him to identify me" - is this strategic for staying incognito... ???
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It's not a bad situation that wants me to stay anonymous , my partner believes he infected me and he is dealing with guilt over this. It is probable that he did unknowingly infect me and I do have some anger issues over that, but I do not blame him, I just wish he had made better choices. So I don't want him to read something like this and be 100% certain it is me because the only thing he will see is that I blame him and I don't want him to feel that way.
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It's not a bad situation that wants me to stay anonymous , my partner believes he infected me and he is dealing with guilt over this. It is probable that he did unknowingly infect me and I do have some anger issues over that, but I do not blame him, I just wish he had made better choices. So I don't want him to read something like this and be 100% certain it is me because the only thing he will see is that I blame him and I don't want him to feel that way.
I fully empthathize with you. But look, you just spelled it out again, its vey specific, if your love is "here" he'll recognize the similarities, at least.
Perhaps you are doing a sort of virtual, social media "freudian slip" then. Revealing a key truth or issue, accidentally.
Of course you'll want to settle this with your partner, when the time is right. I hope it goes well and wish you two the best.
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It's not a bad situation that wants me to stay anonymous , my partner believes he infected me and he is dealing with guilt over this. It is probable that he did unknowingly infect me and I do have some anger issues over that, but I do not blame him, I just wish he had made better choices. So I don't want him to read something like this and be 100% certain it is me because the only thing he will see is that I blame him and I don't want him to feel that way.
Hi Paladin and welcome to the forums. :)
While I understand the idea here, I would suggest it might be more beneficial to discuss your anger issues with a therapist.
The anonymous concept on an open forum when your partner is here will most likely limit your discussions at a deeper level for fear of him discovering you.
Limited discussion = limited responses.
Anyway, I wish you the best and hope you are able to continue being part of the forums.
m.